What do you think of this quote?
 

The quote is "Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them."
I think this is a good quote that gets to the heart of a person. There are times where people are disappointing, but I think expectation is the root of all heartache. If you expect someone to be nice to you for example but they're just mean then that's because you would be nice to them.
At this point in my life I've pretty much learned you can't really expect someone to give you what they don't have.

some of my best lessons came when others weren't nice to me, and instead of faulting them for it I simply accepted they might have valid reasons for not being nice. Maybe their life just sucked at that point, or maybe they had a valid complaint about me personally and that came out in the interaction... disappointing yes, but it turns into a 'real' moment for me when I decide to have compassion for their point of view instead of fighting with them.

my twin especially lol... we are both pigheaded enough that we would have fought forever if I hadn't just caved and accepted her as she is no strings attached... but now while it is still like she is there and I am here and never the twain shall meet, I can have a sense of humour about it and even accept that that is the way it is... without being totally unwilling to relate in whatever way we can just to prove a point lol

Anyway it crosses my mind I'm not the only one on this boat... and we are in rough waters...

thanks for the question...

"Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them."

What do I think of that?
"Good one. True. Nothing new to me!"

"Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you, as deeply as they've met themselves. This is the heart of clarity."

Matt Khan

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Re what to expect from others
 

Actually I don’t expect anything from anybody, including my kids. If people give to me thats fine and if they don’t that’s fine as well. I’ve believed for a long time now that if you don’t expect anything from anyone then you can’t get upset/annoyed/angry and if they do want to give then it becomes a nice feeling cos you didn’t expect it. Makes life so much easier.

I tell my kids: I had you cos I wanted you and you owe me nothing. Anything you do for me you do cos you want to and not because you feel you have to.

Yeah I know I’m a bit of an odd ball and I know people just don’t get me most of the time but that’s ok too.

Seeing that this thread is related to quotes, this is one I like:

If you do what you’ve always done, then you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.

Dropping all expectations allows for you to practice being you no matter what others are being and doing. It’s just another attachment to drop.

ReturningMoon, Joe Mc got the right idea:
(In my opinion)
This quote means, that despite 'how much' you love someone and 'how much' you'd do for them, they won't do more than what they 'see' they can do for you. According to how much they 'see' you have done for them, reacting in exchange.

IF, you are lucky, eventually this person will stop reacting, and start acting from love.

Going from there, you get everything you need.
Maybe, in time too, everything you ever dared dream of.

@ Amhran Gra, great name.

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I believe that we should always do whatever we think is right, without considering if we give more than others, without expecting reciprocity, without expecting recognition. If we do right in our thoughts and actions, we'll get right in return from life.

If we watch too closely if we are rewarded for our deeds, we'll fall behind in doing and thinking right, and we'll deserve less in return from life.