Weird thing hooked onto ex boyfriend?

[nietsdoen]

My spiritual friend told me after I broke up with my boyfriend that he had had something hooked onto him, some sort of baggage, that she didn’t feel comfortable alone with him, and that she didn’t tell me because she trusted my judgment of people. This morning I saw him and we exchanged our things. He gave me the cd and the dvd and I gave him the pictures. Then I told him about how he had something hooked onto him, and that it wasn’t evil, and he could get rid of it if he wanted. I was going to tell him how, but then he stopped me and said he didn’t need any advice. I told him to ask for his spirit guide’s help, and he didn’t say anything. I told him not to be afraid of it, that it’s something emotional, and he said he knows he has baggage and issues, and I said that it’s something spiritual too. Then he told me that he knows about it, and I asked if he always knew. He said yes. At this point I was very creeped out. I told him I always sensed this about him, but never thought of it much. I asked him if he had wanted to tell me, and he nodded. I asked him if he’d tried to get rid of it before, and he said he knew how he could get rid of it all by himself, but that it’s more complicated than that. I felt so weirded out at this point, and I asked him why he doesn’t just get rid of it. He said, once again, that it’s more complicated than that. I asked him what it was, and he told me that it’s not important. At this point, I knew I had to leave the car, so I told him I hope he has a good day and thank you for coming, I knew it was hard, and he said he just wanted to sit with me a little longer, that he wouldn’t ever see me after this. I said that I really had to get going, and he asked for just two more minutes. I said, I’m sorry, but I really have to go. He looked so sad when I said that, but I had a compelling urge to get out of that car as fast as possible. I left and gave him a little smile.
I felt bad for leaving so quickly. I wasn’t trying to be mean to him, but I just was feeling so creeped out? What do you guys think?

[Summerland]

I think that you folloed your instincts, which were correct. He knew about it, you were in an intimate relationship, but he did not share it. Worse of all, it sounds like he is just as attached to it as it is to him.

[Lostgirl]

I think you did the right thing. You felt uncomfortable and by the sounds of it unsafe and in that case you did the right thing.

It is his problem that he has baggage and the fact he doesnt seem to want to get rid of it makes the situation a whole lot harder for you. You need to take care of yourself and he wouldnt allow you to do this. Take care of yourself, from what you have said he sounds like a self destructive person.

It is hard leaving someone when they are clearly so sad, i have been there and know how you feel, but in the end you know something wasnt right and thats why you left. Trust your instincts and dont feel bad about taking care of yourself. :D

[nietsdoen]

I think that you folloed your instincts, which were correct. He knew about it, you were in an intimate relationship, but he did not share it. Worse of all, it sounds like he is just as attached to it as it is to him.
Thank you for your insight. I think the part that creeps me out the most is that we were together for a year, and it definitely affected me in different ways during this time (considering our intimacy), and he never told me. I'm really glad that he's out of my life now, though.

[nietsdoen]

I think you did the right thing. You felt uncomfortable and by the sounds of it unsafe and in that case you did the right thing.

It is his problem that he has baggage and the fact he doesnt seem to want to get rid of it makes the situation a whole lot harder for you. You need to take care of yourself and he wouldnt allow you to do this. Take care of yourself, from what you have said he sounds like a self destructive person.

It is hard leaving someone when they are clearly so sad, i have been there and know how you feel, but in the end you know something wasnt right and thats why you left. Trust your instincts and dont feel bad about taking care of yourself. :D
Thank you. Yeah, I do need to take care of myself, and he actually didn't seem to understand that much when we were together :p. I always sensed he had issues, but I never knew they ran this deep.

[Shabda]

you made a good move, getting out of there fast...

[MasterRishi]

He didn't want to get rid of it because he had a relationship with it. A symbiotic relationship, if you will. I know it's tough to hear that, but it's what I see in regards to his energy. He has something attached to him, but it's not there uninvited. He asked for that bond.

[nietsdoen]

He didn't want to get rid of it because he had a relationship with it. A symbiotic relationship, if you will. I know it's tough to hear that, but it's what I see in regards to his energy. He has something attached to him, but it's not there uninvited. He asked for that bond.
Interesting. Thank you for your insight!

[Celeste]

He didn't want to get rid of it because he had a relationship with it. A symbiotic relationship, if you will. I know it's tough to hear that, but it's what I see in regards to his energy. He has something attached to him, but it's not there uninvited. He asked for that bond.

I think my former husband sometimes has such a thing. Where, it is more comfortable being sick and getting sympathy than it is to do the right thing.

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