Age difference in Twin Flames/spiritual connections

[Anima]

I read on some places online how Twin Flames are not uncommon to have a significant age difference between them. Something about how they are very unusual to be born at the same time as it is, that when it happens, it might happen with a big age gap. In my case, that seems to be true. This is my story.

10 months ago, I got close to a person online whom I only knew superficially from a fan forum for 2 years previously, but was always strangely drawn to - only never admitted it to myself because I knew how much older he is. When he contacted me unexpectedly because he sensed (correctly) that I was not well, we started talking and I found myself positively suprised at how easy it was to pour my heart out to him. He said that he never met anyone else who writes the same way he does and understands him like I do, and it was the same for me. He helped me through my roughest time. He was the only one who could reach me and knew exactly what to say.

Once we started opening up, we were both shocked to realise we have a strong spiritual connection - we feel all eachothers emotions and physical pains, we merge souls instictively, we can touch eachother through distance etc. At the begining I was getting shakes and was even getting sick physically from it - it was like tuning into a higher frequency. When I am with him, I feel more like myself than I ever did. When I get to talk to him, it feels like coming home. My body is warm and vibrates with his. I am at peace. It's like through him, I see the face of God, and feel the thread that connects us all. He says our soul connection feels like when he communes with God.

We have 25 years of age difference, but most of the time, we don't feel like we do. People may call it sick or whatever, but we are so natural together, like breathing. Neither of us ever considered something like this. I don't need a father figure, nor is he immature or goes for younger women. This hit us like a brick in the head. Fighting it feels like trying to win a lost war. In fact, back at the start when we were trying to fight the connection, we were miserable and felt like our soul has left our body... Empty, lifeless.

Since I started accepting our connection as it is and fighting my ego - and it is an extremely hard process that still lasts - I've undergone a huge change in my life. I am finally overcoming my depression that I've unsuccessfully battled with for years. I feel more like a soul than a body, and I am grateful for being able to experience this reality. I notice and I am moved by the beautiful small wonders of life. Before, I used to shy away from spirituality, but he triggered that part of me, and now I finally feel complete. He somehow fills that hole inside my chest I thought was normal to live with. Sometimes it's hard, though, because we know exactly how to push eachothers buttons, and because, even though I live with him in my chest, I miss him and sometimes I yearn for him physically so much it hurts.

We are not even sure we will be together because of the complications. If we do end up together, I worry our age difference is eventually going to become more noticable and more of an obstacle. He feels like he might be unfair to me, even though he never dragged me into this, only offered unconditional love and patience. I am very mature for my age, but that aside, he is ought to get old and die much sooner than I. I would also have to move from my country, my family, and all I've ever known, to be with him, because his work makes him unable to move. I am very torn on it all - I don't want to make our soul connection an excuse for giving into this, if it is not meant to be, but I also worry how pushing myself to find someone else will feel like cheating myself, him, and the new person. Since I started feeling our connection fully, I can't even look at anyone else. It feels like we're married in our soul, for forever, and that it is sacred.

But we are trying not to worry and to enjoy what we have - that we were lucky enough to have found eachother, and that we'll always have one another. We are giving eachother time, especially him to me, to make my decisions about all of this, and we're also waiting for the best moment to break it down to my parents. We haven't even met in person yet because of all of this.

Sorry for the long ramble. I'd love to hear your opinion, as well as about your experiences and stories. Some insight about how age difference affects/affected you and your twin (or whatever you want to call the soul connection) would be very helpful! Thanks a lot in advance.

Anima :hug2:

[autumnrose]

I met a guy online. Felt like we conected right away. I had joined this website and wanted to say hi to him, but he was 17 years older than i was, so i was nervous about it. I left the website but months later returned just to say hi to him. We started talking, at first he was worried about the age difference but in the end he found it easy to overcome. It's not sick, or weird. I dont want the father figure thing. It has nothing to do with that. It's just all about him, how i feel for him. I can't get enough. I've never felt this way about anyone. He says the same with me. As for the age differenace, it's not something that is even thought about any more.
I like what you said, just enjoy what you have and how you are lucky to have found eachother. Thats what it should all be about. Before i met him i was going through some bad stuff, my marriage had broken up, my husband was a bully. Now i just feel so lucky to have found someone i connect so well with and love being in his company. Regardles of age and what people think. People spend years looking for that special connection. And, if you are, like you say, so natural togehter, then there is nothing "sick or whatever" about it.
:)

[autumnrose]

"Since I started feeling our connection fully, I can't even look at anyone else"
I understand this too, the thought of being with anyone else turns my stomach. and i know if we ever seperated i feel like i would never be as satisfied with anyone else.
They say soul connections and twin flames have to overcome obsticals, maybe the age thing is one of them. :)

[Falling Star]

More and more twinflames are connecting on-line now, they may have oceans seperating them, and age does not matter in affairs of the soul. My twin is eleven years younger than me. It is all about the soul connection and highest vibration of love.
It is becoming apparent to me through soul growth that this higher vibration is now needed upon the Earthplane.

[autumnrose]

age does not matter in affairs of the soul. Completely agree. :)

[Falling Star]

Have you ever read the series of books by Dr Brian Weiss? I thought they were wonderful, they tell the story of soulmate reunions. "many lives, many masters" "Only love is real" "same soul many bodies" Great reading, helped me to understand the connections.

[Anima]

@autumnrose
For us, age difference is both something we don't feel, and something that we're still trying to overcome. I am only 18, and because of how serious I am by nature and how hard it is for me to find likeminded people with whom I connect with in real life, I've only had one relationship before him. I feel it in my soul - that what I have with him is special and that I wouldn't find it anywhere else - but everyone is going to be even more judgemental because of the fact they will think I fell for him because I am another teenager desperate for love. I cannot exactly go out now and build up my experience somehow to reassure myself and everyone else. I am yet to confront my parents, I am waiting for like a month before he comes for a visit, which will probably take another year or even more. I still live with them and depend on them financially and the circumstances make it impossible for me to detach myself from them right know, and probably not in the next few years either. They are very liberal, but they have their limits. My TF is worried he will cause a rift between them and me. And we are both aware we can't wait too many years, because he is not exactly a young man. Sigh. There are so many things working against us. It makes me wonder if universe is making us wait because waiting is going to benefit us both, OR if we are supposed to realise this love was never meant to happen in physical.

@Falling Star
No, I haven't read his work, thanks a lot for the recommendations, I'll be checking it out! :smile:





Anyways, thank you both for your encouragement!

Anima :hug2:

[Anima]

Falling Star, thanks so much!!! I found the audiobook "Only love is real" and I was literally tearing up half the time. It sparked up something inside of me, like some inner knowing, pain and joy, all at once. I will be reading the rest of his work whenever I find time!

Anima:hug2:

[7luminaries]

Anima, I also read "Many Lives, Many Masters" by Weiss. This was the 1st book I read by him -- actually just over the summer. That book too is amazing though more abt other lives in general. Still v moving.

[Falling Star]

All of his books were amazing, i read them all. The thread of truth runs through each one....."Only love is real".
They really helped me when i went through my spiritual awakening....and for the soul connectons that were to come into my experiences.

[7luminaries]

"Since I started feeling our connection fully, I can't even look at anyone else"
I understand this too, the thought of being with anyone else turns my stomach. and i know if we ever seperated i feel like i would never be as satisfied with anyone else.
They say soul connections and twin flames have to overcome obsticals, maybe the age thing is one of them. :)

Yes...[sigh]....I feel the same way...yes there are obstacles...srsly age diffs are not even the biggest ones in many cases...but what these obstacles all have in common is that they are artificially created based on judgments rooted in prejudice, social distance, cultural biases, outright racism and perceived genetic superiority, etc. I have got all that put on me by the culture that surrounds my twin, and I'm western, white, & blonde (LOL). Prejudice and cultural bias know no bounds, truly.

Sometimes I really think I just can't take it...everyone here wants to fix me up...but I just have no desire. Rather spend my energies on family, friends, & community...

More and more twinflames are connecting on-line now, they may have oceans seperating them, and age does not matter in affairs of the soul. My twin is eleven years younger than me. It is all about the soul connection and highest vibration of love.
It is becoming apparent to me through soul growth that this higher vibration is now needed upon the Earthplane.

Yes I think so. I try to focus on this when I wonder if I will ever see him. Focus on the love. I know we need it...we all do.

Peace & Blessings to all :hug3:
7L

[Falling Star]

At one time i got lost in the sadness of it all, losing contact...not knowing if we would ever talk again. Now i am more trusting and peaceful within. I know that "What will be will be"" All is for evolvement of the soul.

We are a part of each other and always will be.....I send him love and light.

[mystical]

im only a year and a couple months older than my twin , but its funny cos i have neevr ever been attracted to men younger than myself lol

[LadyImpreza1111]

Mine is 3 years younger than me. Ironically, I've only really liked one guy who happened to be older. Otherwise I was drawn to younger guys even though so many people said, "Go for older guys.....they are more mature." He's younger, but just e-mailing him.....he seemed older than his years.He had a great head on his shoulders. So yeah. Younger dudes are so not an issue to me.

[Bellasong]

Hi All,


Me and the man I believe to my Soul Mate/Twin Soul are the exact same age. Is that odd? I'm not really open to men more than a couple years younger or maybe 5 years older. My last relationship he was 7 years younger than me and it was almost like we were from different generations, not a lot but for sure noticeable of course he was also abusive which was the worst part.


Love and Peace,
Bellasong:smile:

[LadyImpreza1111]

Hi All,


Me and the man I believe to my Soul Mate/Twin Soul are the exact same age. Is that odd? I'm not really open to men more than a couple years younger or maybe 5 years older. My last relationship he was 7 years younger than me and it was almost like we were from different generations, not a lot but for sure noticeable of course he was also abusive which was the worst part.


Love and Peace,
Bellasong:smile:

Wow. That is rare.

[Falling Star]

The union between Twins is ageless....Eternal!
It is an experience of the soul and at soul level you are the same age. My guides have often told me that true love is no respecter of age or distance. We must always remember that at source we are the energy of love, and we are here as love personified.

[Bellasong]

So it would be rare to be the same age? Hmmmmmmm.... to me that makes more sense. Then I read where there is usually a big age difference. How big is average for a Twin Soul connection?



Love and Peace,
Bellasong:smile:

[LadyImpreza1111]

In one TF book review, I read 7-20 years.Don't know how accurate that is.

[7luminaries]

Makes sense, along with being halfway round the world or separated by great distance. Distance of other kinds as well...cultural, social, religious or w/e...

In other words...superficially not the same...of course none of that matters...except possible to everyone else...LOL...just not to you!
.....

[Bellasong]

Interesting! I know a man who was in a relationship that he considered to be Soul Mate or Twin Soul. It has ended though after many years. He misses her so . But he had the same thing as me they are the exact same age. So are Soul Mates or Soul connections more likely to be the same age, more so than Twin Souls?




Love and Peace,
Bellasong:smile:

[John32241]

Hello Anima,

My TF is 30 years younger than myself, she is 37 and I am 67. The age difference is not as extreme now as it was when we first met some 17 years ago.

We are not together, yet we talk with each other telepathically every day. She was the reason for my interest in an expanded reality perspective about life and the purpose for being. As a result of our relationship, everything changed for each of us.

I am under the impression that we all have our twin. Our energetic essence would have its closes vibrational match always in focus. As a human reflection for our essence, we tend to classify our perfect partner in life as our twin soul/flame. I have found that we need to see our life from the perspective of our soul when it comes to these kinds of relationships. The concept of a common service is not the same as a perfect romantic match. As a result of that perspective, I tend to think quite differently about these relationships. I also think that many so called perfect romantic relationships are not what I see as twin soul relationships.

Now the concept of soul mates is different. I understand that we have many that we are spiritually bonded with that will make perfect partners for us in life. The question you want to answer at this time is not about the distinction between terms but the purpose of this person in your life. If you can trust that his reason for being in your life is to help you, then the thing to look for would be "how".

We all have an inner guidance. A way to reach our energetic essence or spirit self. Whatever method you use for this is appropriate. I would suggest deep reflection on all the potentials for your relationship with him.

Blessings,
John

[Anima]

I'm listening to audiobook for "Same soul, many bodies" now! I'll definitely read/listen to all of his work, it really resonates within me and comforts me. :redface:

Yes...[sigh]....I feel the same way...yes there are obstacles...srsly age diffs are not even the biggest ones in many cases...but what these obstacles all have in common is that they are artificially created based on judgments rooted in prejudice, social distance, cultural biases, outright racism and perceived genetic superiority, etc. I have got all that put on me by the culture that surrounds my twin, and I'm western, white, & blonde (LOL). Prejudice and cultural bias know no bounds, truly.

Peace & Blessings to all :hug3:
7L

Yeah, I absolutely agree. And age difference is too in my case only one of this "worldly" obstacles we have. I mean, wow. If it was anyone else other than him, I'd given up 100 times over. I am not going to push this relationship though, cause I know that trying too hard may create a counter effect. I need to let go and work on myself first, and even though he's spiritually a lot more advanced than me, he has a lot to work on himself still. I tend to believe that God won't allow us to be together until we've both came to the point when we can handle that. And then, once we're both leveled and ready for eachother, if God still doesn't allow us to be, means we really are not meant to be in this lifetime. We'll just have to be BFFs and hold eachother with our souls always. I hope that by that point I would be strong enough to deal with that and be able to find someone else in my life to be a romantic partner and companion. It's hard to imagine it right now.

The union between Twins is ageless....Eternal!
It is an experience of the soul and at soul level you are the same age. My guides have often told me that true love is no respecter of age or distance. We must always remember that at source we are the energy of love, and we are here as love personified.

Well said, Falling Star. That is what I have been telling my TF all along when he sometimes feels bad about me being so much younger than him... That our souls are the same age and that this picked us and we have to accept it the best we can. Doesn't mean we have to push romance and forget some of the boundaries that need to be respected in physical, but even if we are not to be, it doesn't automatically make the love we have for eachother "wrong".

Hello Anima,

My TF is 30 years younger than myself, she is 37 and I am 67. The age difference is not as extreme now as it was when we first met some 17 years ago.

We are not together, yet we talk with each other telepathically every day. She was the reason for my interest in an expanded reality perspective about life and the purpose for being. As a result of our relationship, everything changed for each of us.

I am under the impression that we all have our twin. Our energetic essence would have its closes vibrational match always in focus. As a human reflection for our essence, we tend to classify our perfect partner in life as our twin soul/flame. I have found that we need to see our life from the perspective of our soul when it comes to these kinds of relationships. The concept of a common service is not the same as a perfect romantic match. As a result of that perspective, I tend to think quite differently about these relationships. I also think that many so called perfect romantic relationships are not what I see as twin soul relationships.

Now the concept of soul mates is different. I understand that we have many that we are spiritually bonded with that will make perfect partners for us in life. The question you want to answer at this time is not about the distinction between terms but the purpose of this person in your life. If you can trust that his reason for being in your life is to help you, then the thing to look for would be "how".

We all have an inner guidance. A way to reach our energetic essence or spirit self. Whatever method you use for this is appropriate. I would suggest deep reflection on all the potentials for your relationship with him.

Blessings,
John

That was a great post John. I believe that growth and change is the purpose of spiritual connections, mine included, and romantic aspect is a bonus if it comes to it. It's hard to deal with spiritual love because our instict as physical beings is to make it into romantic love as well.

But I also do believe that sexuality is a part of the bond... Not sex, but the energy of creation. It doesn't have to be exercised in physical, but the attraction exists. I feel that even when I put the yearnings of my body and the needs of my ego aside, my soul still desires to join with him in the physical. It's hard to explain it. It feels almost like I've been given a chance to complete a full circle with him... Spiritual, sexual, romantic. I'm happy with spiritual alone, but the others are definitely there, and I think maybe we could benefit from "grounding" our relationship once we've worked on ourselves for long enough individually. Like a counterpart to the soul aspect, if that makes sense. A balance.



Thank you all for your posts again!

Anima :hug:

[alpha/omega]

Hi all,

Its very interesting to read all your posts about age being a problem with twins. If you and your twin are meant to be together there is nothing and i mean NOTHING that can stop you. Age is only a number and a man made construct. It is completely irrelevant and in the hierachy of tests it is nothing!!:smile: The bond that is felt is undescribable. It is more than feeling love. It is a divine connection and anyone that has felt it will know absolutely what it is. Even attempting to explain it does it an injustice. It is a blessing from God and any twin coming together will be tested to their limit to see if they are worthy of the ultimate relationship with each other and with God.

Are any of you aware of your mission and what you will do to help with the negativity that has descended? Being a twin is not an idealised notion of love. It is hard beyond words and amazing at the same time. It is not about love it is about doing something to help others with the gifts that are given in this very priviliged relationship.

My twin and i met on the 11:11:11 (2009) we have the same signature the same finger prints, our dates of birth add up to 11:11:11 whether done numerologically or just standard maths, we know what each other are thinking, feel each others emotions, physically hurt to be apart, everyone spots what we are even when we are not particularly interacting. There are so many coincidences that they are not coincidences. I could go on and on and on.......but we are tested constantly and the more we progress, the harder the tests. Its hard!!!!

I hope i dont sound like i am going on but it is something i feel very strongly about. Your life changes forever.....

( i am laughing to myself because i just realised that i didnt put the age difference between us. 10 years. Thats how much i think about it!!:smile: )

[Falling Star]

it is 11.11 as i am posting this according to my PC. I agree with everything you have said. beautiful post!

[angelone]

me and my twin are 19 years apart.. but i dont notice it at all...

[Graelwyn]

My twin is in his 50s. I am in my 30s.

[LadyImpreza1111]

Mine is just 3 years younger than me. If I didn't know his age, I would have assumed he was older because he seemed mature.

[alpha/omega]

Thanks Falling Star :smile:

I am glad that I have found this forum. It would seem that it is a place where those that have found their twin can communicate....

We have been looking for others. I am genuinely interested in what you are all doing with your relationships and the skills/qualities that it brings with it?

Twins are in such a privilaged position to be able to do so much good and that is our purpose. To bring a little light to a world that is driven by greed, power and ego. And we are able to do this because we are blessed by God. A twin relationship is not one to be wasted or taken lightly.

The more of us there are he more impact we have. We are here to make a difference!

As I said before, age in the grand scheme of things is not important!! :wink: