Greybeard
13-08-2011, 07:24 AM
This conjunction of the lord of Limitations with the lady of Money leads to a necessity for frugality or careful stewardship of personal finances. There is a fear of lack or of loss that goes beyond money to whatever is possessed or valued by the native. This person is deeply fearful of being unloved. The union of the two planets produces, in most cases, good judgment, self-discipline and prudence with regard to finances. In at least some cases there is a rather austere cast to the life, sometimes a voluntary rejection of normal material comforts. Material hardship and a lack of any true luxury or bounty are often borne gladly and can result in considerable spiritual beauty.
Insofar as personal relationships, the conjunction tends toward situations in which one of the partners (the native with the conjunction) feels compelled to make concessions to the other in order to get what they want. The native is expected to adjust to the demands of the partner in order to have a satisfactory relationship. Discontent results, either because the relationship is unfulfilling or there is a feeling of being used. On a more positive note, relationships are taken seriously and seen as long-term commitments. Loyalty, sincerity and a deep sense of duty are traits of this conjunction. The demonstration of affection may be inhibited because of an inherent fear of being used, rejected or betrayed. The sense of duty may overrule the inclinations of the heart. Duty is identified with happiness.
In both men’s and women’s charts one of the traditional interpretations is that of failure or sorrow in marriage with a subsequent residue of disillusionment, bitterness, fear and a great sensitivity to rejection which colors all succeeding romantic encounters with a certain aloofness and mistrust. While in a man’s chart the aspect affects the attitude toward women, in a woman’s chart it defines her attitude toward her own femininity and her worth as a woman. There may be deep feelings of inferiority and unattractiveness.
Ebertin says that this conjunction implies separation in love, and specifically separation from the mother. In any case, the native will be served best by distancing him or herself from the parental home and living among strangers, the sooner the better. The family is apt to disapprove of and interfere with the life choices of the native, causing reversals, misfortune and heartache.
The general tenor of the personality and outlook is apt to lean toward the conservative and socially conforming. Ideally this native will hold some position that allows for independent functioning. Dutiful and responsible, there is a preference for working in privacy and without direct oversight or public scrutiny. The native values security, stability and dependability in all areas of life and prefers well-organized or structured activity.
A mind colored by dejection, depression, discontent and pessimism is likely. The native feels the self to be unworthy, incapable, undeserving; in short, there is often low self-esteem. This person is suspicious of the motives of others and therefore cautious and reticent in fully opening the self.
The aspect suggests that some coldness and severity on the part of one or both of the parents, but most probably the father, has resulted in a tendency to withdraw into the self. This person is likely to live with a melancholy sense of being ultimately alone. There is a deep and almost compulsive need to be loved which dominates the being accompanied by a feeling of emptiness or being unfulfilled. A nagging discontent and a feeling that one will never be happy or find pleasure in life is common with this aspect. The capacity for expression and receipt of affection is cramped. There may be feelings that love and maintaining a relationship requires pain, suffering and sacrifice; there is a sense of martyrdom and secret self-pity. There is a notable capacity to sacrifice the self for the benefit of others. The suspicion (mentioned above) toward those who love you may irritate and annoy them to the point that they may act toward you in just the way you feared. Jealousy is a very powerful destructive force. This aspect often brings a suspicious and jealous nature which expects, despite reassurance, to be ultimately betrayed. There is a lack of trust, optimism, faith and hope.
In order to love and be loved by another, one must first love oneself. Building a relationship based on love and free choice rather than on a compulsive and dependent need is a path to spiritual beauty.
Insofar as personal relationships, the conjunction tends toward situations in which one of the partners (the native with the conjunction) feels compelled to make concessions to the other in order to get what they want. The native is expected to adjust to the demands of the partner in order to have a satisfactory relationship. Discontent results, either because the relationship is unfulfilling or there is a feeling of being used. On a more positive note, relationships are taken seriously and seen as long-term commitments. Loyalty, sincerity and a deep sense of duty are traits of this conjunction. The demonstration of affection may be inhibited because of an inherent fear of being used, rejected or betrayed. The sense of duty may overrule the inclinations of the heart. Duty is identified with happiness.
In both men’s and women’s charts one of the traditional interpretations is that of failure or sorrow in marriage with a subsequent residue of disillusionment, bitterness, fear and a great sensitivity to rejection which colors all succeeding romantic encounters with a certain aloofness and mistrust. While in a man’s chart the aspect affects the attitude toward women, in a woman’s chart it defines her attitude toward her own femininity and her worth as a woman. There may be deep feelings of inferiority and unattractiveness.
Ebertin says that this conjunction implies separation in love, and specifically separation from the mother. In any case, the native will be served best by distancing him or herself from the parental home and living among strangers, the sooner the better. The family is apt to disapprove of and interfere with the life choices of the native, causing reversals, misfortune and heartache.
The general tenor of the personality and outlook is apt to lean toward the conservative and socially conforming. Ideally this native will hold some position that allows for independent functioning. Dutiful and responsible, there is a preference for working in privacy and without direct oversight or public scrutiny. The native values security, stability and dependability in all areas of life and prefers well-organized or structured activity.
A mind colored by dejection, depression, discontent and pessimism is likely. The native feels the self to be unworthy, incapable, undeserving; in short, there is often low self-esteem. This person is suspicious of the motives of others and therefore cautious and reticent in fully opening the self.
The aspect suggests that some coldness and severity on the part of one or both of the parents, but most probably the father, has resulted in a tendency to withdraw into the self. This person is likely to live with a melancholy sense of being ultimately alone. There is a deep and almost compulsive need to be loved which dominates the being accompanied by a feeling of emptiness or being unfulfilled. A nagging discontent and a feeling that one will never be happy or find pleasure in life is common with this aspect. The capacity for expression and receipt of affection is cramped. There may be feelings that love and maintaining a relationship requires pain, suffering and sacrifice; there is a sense of martyrdom and secret self-pity. There is a notable capacity to sacrifice the self for the benefit of others. The suspicion (mentioned above) toward those who love you may irritate and annoy them to the point that they may act toward you in just the way you feared. Jealousy is a very powerful destructive force. This aspect often brings a suspicious and jealous nature which expects, despite reassurance, to be ultimately betrayed. There is a lack of trust, optimism, faith and hope.
In order to love and be loved by another, one must first love oneself. Building a relationship based on love and free choice rather than on a compulsive and dependent need is a path to spiritual beauty.