ljepotica
26-11-2006, 07:26 PM
Hello all you lovely people:hug:
Ok so I have posted some posts before on this subject and have gotten brilliant advice on what to do AND I HAVE FOLLOWED YOUR ADVICE but I have no clue as to what is going on here.
Ok just to recap, I posted about my ex, we split up about 2 months ago, I posted various posts etc and then I posted one telling you that he gave me reasons why it didn't work out between us (HE GAVE ME CLOSURE-WHICH IS WHAT I WAS WAITING FOR!) and then I asked you to pray/send him positive thoughts which you did as he told me about some disturbing things about himself...
OK, so I did follow your advice about how to "break free" and I want to be friends with him. I have weighed up all sides of the argument, have thought and re-thought about whether he is right for me and know for a fact that he's not right for me.
I've been going out and meeting new people, I've been going out with friends etc...
The thing is: I feel some sadness, but it's not my sadness I feel it's coming from him. But I don't see why he/I should feel sad if we establised and agreed that we're just going to be friends.
WE both needed closure and got it, we told each other that we're not the right ones for each other-which is fine. I am fine. I have spent a lot of time asking myself personal questions, I have been very honest with myself-even if it hurt, for I have ultimate respect for honesty.
Why this feeling of sadness coming from him? Considering he was the first one to mention that we should end it?
Am I making sense?
Do I have to do something else?
Why this wierdness considering when I've broken up with other people before it's not been as weird as this.
Any advice as to what to say/do/think?
Sorry for this but I find this sadness rather annoying-and no I am not nostalgic and no I secretly deep down inside don't want to be with him...
HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELP!?!?
Ok so I have posted some posts before on this subject and have gotten brilliant advice on what to do AND I HAVE FOLLOWED YOUR ADVICE but I have no clue as to what is going on here.
Ok just to recap, I posted about my ex, we split up about 2 months ago, I posted various posts etc and then I posted one telling you that he gave me reasons why it didn't work out between us (HE GAVE ME CLOSURE-WHICH IS WHAT I WAS WAITING FOR!) and then I asked you to pray/send him positive thoughts which you did as he told me about some disturbing things about himself...
OK, so I did follow your advice about how to "break free" and I want to be friends with him. I have weighed up all sides of the argument, have thought and re-thought about whether he is right for me and know for a fact that he's not right for me.
I've been going out and meeting new people, I've been going out with friends etc...
The thing is: I feel some sadness, but it's not my sadness I feel it's coming from him. But I don't see why he/I should feel sad if we establised and agreed that we're just going to be friends.
WE both needed closure and got it, we told each other that we're not the right ones for each other-which is fine. I am fine. I have spent a lot of time asking myself personal questions, I have been very honest with myself-even if it hurt, for I have ultimate respect for honesty.
Why this feeling of sadness coming from him? Considering he was the first one to mention that we should end it?
Am I making sense?
Do I have to do something else?
Why this wierdness considering when I've broken up with other people before it's not been as weird as this.
Any advice as to what to say/do/think?
Sorry for this but I find this sadness rather annoying-and no I am not nostalgic and no I secretly deep down inside don't want to be with him...
HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELP!?!?