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Old 15-10-2017, 06:34 PM
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Dear Sparrow.

It is so nice to have you back with us.

Dear Pagandell,

These emoticons are such lovely ways to communicate. An appropriate reciprocation perhaps would be, cheers!

You may be amused to know they are also used in the spirit world, though are not limited to two dimensions. They are more holographic in nature and animate in response to interaction. Many species use pictorial forms of language to communicate. It is interesting to see them being applied here as to innocently apply additional emotive tone and value.

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I quote some of your mgs and words I hope that is o k

You do not appear to be the first, my friend.

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Old 15-10-2017, 06:45 PM
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Sparrow, hello there! I have been following Tiss and was very interested in your reply, as her question was very general and could be taken many ways.

I resonate with everything you say about self-love, which exploits or misdirects no one...and it's generally long overdue to be freed from any old-fashioned religious paradigms that teach us the body is banal or somehow in any way less than the non-material or ethereal. As I see it, we are all sacred, all of us and all existence, and the temporal physical bits of your being every bit as much so as the eternal bits.

Dear 7luminaries,

Humanity must grasp the reality that their physical body is actually more spiritual in its composition than it is a solid physical structure. There exists an entire universe, literally, within the space between the very infinitesimal particles of your physical structure. In truth, there is no such thing as empty space, it simply does not exist. Yet, from generalised perspective, most will never acknowledge just how much literal space there is composing what they perceive in the mirror. Human beings only perceive themselves to be physical at all due to orbital energy magnetism which gravitates movements into clusters. Just as humanity may look out into the cosmos and perceive merely a singular spec of distant light, which in fact represents trillions of other systems and properties at work.

In view of this extraordinary multi-faceted universe which composes each human being, one can and should never consider themselves or their body as banal.

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It's exactly this false duality that allows so many to degrade and exploit others, since after all who cares about the body (and who are you more broadly), except as it's something for me or whomever to use?, is the modern way of thinking. Our Western culture has (despite advances in many areas) taken the narcissism, exploitation, and utilitarian (any means to your ends) paradigm to the centre and mainstreamed these things, and humanity is particularly susceptible to cultural overlays...particularly the degraded and debased ones that indulge our lower will to power-over, oppression, and exploitation of others and of Gaia.

Unfortunately this activity is something which has occurred liberally over the millennia and as such is a programmed instinct build into cellular memory. You could say sins of past generations are being experienced by present generations, this is why humanity needs to be more proactive in cultivating a more loving cellular instinct for their future generations.


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The fact that self-love amongst men is now globally and routinely tied to violent and degrading porn addictions has not helped male-female relationships. Nor is the fact that rape and exploitation continue to increase in nearly every society regardless of wealth, education, culture, etc. Nor does the western addiction to casual sex that many adult men in particularly have, such that they cannot and will not get to know a woman for who she is as a person without callously expecting and demanding that they road-test her and "see how it plays out". Sadly women who are very young or who have not yet had children are still particularly vulnerable to the message that they must do whatever is needed to please a man and fulfill their one strong biological urge (in most women), which is to have children.


I observe similarly that females generally practice self-love far better than males. This is generally because they adopt a more nurturing and respectful approach. Females are more in tune with biological rhythms of life and work in harmony with the natural flow. Males tend to resist the flow and natures rhythm and will push, pull and try to force what they desire. This again is a deeply rooted instinct from many generations of past practices.


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Humanity need to address this core gap in authentic love in all our core relationships with one another...and in particular, in those core relationships (male-female, most notably) where we have actively sought not to do so. In particular, where we have actively sought and continue to seek "special exceptions" to the authentic love that our common humanity deserves and requires. It is one of the supreme challenges we face, every bit equal to 2) the challenge we face in dealing with Gaia without callously using, degrading, raping, and exploiting her...and also equal to 3) the challenge we face in loving and caring for our brothers and sisters (just sticking with Gaia) both within and across societies, everywhere around the globe -- specifically, rising above war, oppression, and extremes of class and discrimination of all kinds. All of it requiring the application of authentic love...which has been spotty at best and nearly wholly absent in some areas.

As a woman, I have met very few other adult women who do not deeply feel the imbalance, to the core of our being. And for the vast majority, we do not seek to separate a mutually authentic love from sex. Discussions of sex outside the context of authentic love, a love which stands alone and is in no way predicated on nor requiring of sex, is the only way most women feel whole when engaging in sex with a partner, where the energy exchanged is authentically loving and balanced. And I find that, with nearly every woman I meet, this knowing and understanding of what nurtures and resonates with us only grows stronger and clearer, as we progress on our path. As we become ever more centred and aware, sex without the presence of authentic love only feels more clearly coercive and misaligned to most women, not less so.

I also strongly feel that the way (core orientation) of most Gaian women is also good and right. I feel strongly in the universality of this position across many other human and other species. But if that is not the case, our way is still good and integral and in no way do I feel that the path we walk -- in support of a greater authentic love across all humanity with NO exceptions -- needs to be reoriented or that we need more sex without authentic love when that causes us trauma. I feel strongly that a more consistently universal agape love is the way forward for Gaian humanity, and that it is the challenge that, if met, will allow us as a species to address our other relationships which for many "seem" less immediate...those of handling Gaia and our fellow humans with authentic love, as well.

And...I've also felt this way as a man in other lives...it is absolutely possible for men to experience life with this knowing and realisation, despite the current levels of utilitarianism and narcissism currently promoted in many societies, certainly in the West. Authentic love for one's partner doesn't fix everything in your life...but it certainly is foundational for humanity, and the presence of that foundation will go a long way in beginning to heal humanity's historically and actively underdeveloped heart centre. All humanity need love and friendship. We all need beloved friendships of both sexes, whether as partners or not. And (speaking for nearly all the women I've ever known and nearly all they've ever known, and so on)...we as women, (and men too in my [other-life] experience), definitely need authentically loving friendships within which to occasionally consider committing (however) in a balanced and sustainable partnership before penetration and sex more broadly.

It is a common truth that human beings still treat the planet they inhabit in the same way as they treat their fellow inhabitants, especially in terms of business relationships. Which is exploitation.
Just as you experience trauma in human relationships due to a disassociation from what you call universal agape love, business relationships also suffer trauma. As you indicate, a reorientation is needed for a more harmonious future. This is occurring in some places.

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Old 15-10-2017, 06:47 PM
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Dear Sparrow,

Thank you for bringing once again into my life that powerful light. During all these years, almost seven, your guidance did me much good, in many indescribable ways. I feel blessed that you are here to help open my mind and soul when I fall in confusion and darkness.

With love and gratitude,
Tiss

Dear Tiss,

I am pleased to have been able to be in service in this way.
I do hope my answer addressed the key focal part of your query on this sensitive subject.

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Dear Wotan,

My greetings to you, in light of love.

That is a large collection of questions and composition of feelings inviting multiple comments. Do you wish to compact your query to something specific?

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Old 15-10-2017, 06:55 PM
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Dear Spirit Guide Sparrow

Let me start by saying I have loved and followed your writings for some time, although I haven't read through your afterlife thread in full until quite recently. I love the detail you give, the patience you have, and the kindness and compassion you have for the human race shines through so strongly.

I know you are very busy and not on the site so much now, but I felt compelled to write anyway and if you do reply I will obviously be really grateful.

Basically Sparrow, I feel I have lost my way. I have always to date had a strong interest in spiritual matters and they sustained me through very difficult times. I have focussed on self development for much of my adulthood and read spiritual books that talk about letting go, surrender, raising vibration etc and I have tried to live my life by these principles. Really, focussing on these things was the only way I coped with my life. But I had a deep certainty about it all too.

In 2010 I had what I termed a kundalini awakening and started to have dramatic psychic experiences. This continued for a few years but then the intensity eased off. I should say I have meditated on and off for years, and this seemed to bring on the experiences.

In the last say 2 years or so, I feel I have become lost. Spiritual matters don't hold the same interest for me anymore and I can't understand why. Books are no longer my lifeblood. My life itself has changed and become easier in many ways, and I am actively volunteering in the community as much as I am able. But I feel constantly disconnected from spirituality, even lethargic about it, as if I have no interest in it. This bothers me terribly. Sitting to meditate is easier some days than others but it feels an effort every time.

The worst thing about all this is that I can't hold onto any sense of faith. Most people, it seems, have certain experiences and they develop an understanding or worldview based on those. I seem to flounder no matter what I've experienced. I can''t find solid ground. One minute I think maybe I am drawn to Christian understandings, then Buddhist, then spiritualist, then simply sit in meditation and find my own way, or a combination of all of them. I do see the truth in all religions/ belief systems, but that is harder because I don't know what works for me or where my expreriences fit in. I envy people in a way who know what they are drawn to, and stick to it.

Why can't I find any certainty? Is it a lack of belief in myself? Lack of purpose? I just don't know.

I am prone to depression and sometimes feel it may be simply that, but I'm functioning fine on the surface, although I get a little lonely at times. My life is better than it has been in a long time, if not ever, but spiritually i feel bereft. I miss the intense dreams I used to have and the deep sense that everything is meaningful. I'm grateful for my life but also feel that I have lost my spiritual path. Sometimes I feel immense grief over the fact everything dies, especially my dog who means so much to me. I had an emotional breakdown of sorts a few days ago, sobbing over the thought she will die. I believe she will live on, but I don't feel it in my heart.

Sparrow I know you are busy and not obliged to reply to this at all, but I thought I would write anyway and if you have any thoughts I would be sincerely grateful.

Lots of love to you

Hemera xx

Dear Hemera,

Let me start by saying hello to you and a warm welcome to what I hope to be a beneficial dialogue for you.

I am so pleased you are able to recognize the values which I represent and the intention through which I approach this interactive internet community. I am not here to inflate any sense of ego or infiltrate anyone’s sacred beliefs, nor am I here to try to persuade others to think a specific way, but to open their hearts that they may recognize multiple ways. I am here as a light that I may illuminate much of what is seldom in plain sight, that I may bring the light of day to the darkness of their night.

Spiritual matters do not hold the same interest as before because you are actually practicing what you have absorbed in knowledge. You are not lost, you are actually finding yourself. You are letting go, releasing, and detaching, which eventually also involves spiritual interests and attractions. This is appropriate, and it also part of a process, which will again resurrect new future peaks of spiritual pursuit and experience. It is important that you understand your development and growth is not a linear straight line, it is a rhythm and a wave form which takes place in cyclical cycles. To be able to be open to new wisdom, new experiences and new opportunities of self-creation one must be willing to surrender what has already been obtained and created. In a sense this is what you have been doing. Where there is an accumulation of energy, there follows an appropriate release, as my friend was the birth of your universe. You are presently experiencing the period following your so-called big bang, where the release of what you had held in place is now working to create something else for you to experience.

Understand the things you do, which all do, which you as a human call spiritual, is not an end in and of itself, but rather a means to an end. What I mean by this is that your spiritual pursuits, as are all your pursuits, merely a vehicle for you to aspire closer towards something else. When a desire for something else or something more enters your awareness you will again feel the desire to pursue the means.

Instead of stumbling from left to right confused over which religion or which philosophy is more appealing, simply focus on what it is you wish for yourself as a being. What aspects of yourself do you aspire to experience, and what are your deepest core values which you wish to bring to the planet? What gifts and qualities do you have within yourself that help you to create who you are to the world? If you can answer these questions then you can pursue the means most appropriate. Be persistent, patient and positive in your pursuits, but do not adhere to them should they no longer align to your core values and aspirations.

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Old 15-10-2017, 07:05 PM
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Thank you Pagandell Back atcha here with much love and light...

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Hi Spirit Guide Sparrow,

Can you please share your thoughts on what might be relevant for me and where I am in my journey? Also, do you write anywhere else other than on this forum, or under the name "Spirit Guide Sparrow"?

Thank you in advance!
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Dear 7luminaries,

Humanity must grasp the reality that their physical body is actually more spiritual in its composition than it is a solid physical structure. There exists an entire universe, literally, within the space between the very infinitesimal particles of your physical structure. In truth, there is no such thing as empty space, it simply does not exist. Yet, from generalised perspective, most will never acknowledge just how much literal space there is composiing what they perceive in the mirror. Human beings only perceive themselves to be physical at all due to orbital energy magnetism which gravitates movements into clusters. Just as humanity may look out into the cosmos and perceive merely a singular spec of distant light, which in fact represents trillions of other systems and properties at work.

In view of this extraordinary multi-faceted universe which composes each human being, one can and should never consider themselves or their body a s banal.


Sparrow thank you for your thoughtful response, as always. I completely agree. with what you've said. What I also have observed via knowledge of our recent history (which my parents lived through) since mid-20th century, specifically picking up post-1960, is that in order to utilise the contraceptive technology to realise unbounded sexual indulgence without heart, ownership, or presence, the universal truth of unconditional love (and humanitarian ideals more broadly) was rather cynically tied to the archaic patriarchal religious traditions that they sought to be freed of.

Many were idealistic and well-intentioned and had no idea that men's baser instincts would lead to a utilitarianism that openly dehumanises the humanity of all, several decades hence. These same persons assumed that unconditional love would win out, but in a freer setting. Their idealism was a beautiful thing but it cannot come to fruition in our current setting, so long as many ignore or denigrate the truth of authentic love in all relationships and for all humanity. As if the existing faith traditions which ascribe to this belief in the need to do and be authentic love (and most do and always have done, despite their many and obvious shortcomings which I in no way justify) must be chucked, along with ALL truths they proferred or channeled or conveyed. The truth of authentic love is universal and belongs to no one tradition or group of what have ye. And yet these most core and universal "rights of humanity/sentience/existence more broadly" are thus trashed and binned because they have been cynically labeled as "outdated religious beliefs". What???? Authentic love was simply emphasised or made known through these vehicles...its existence is eternal.

But this same cynical device has been employed to do away with the core revealed truths that have been revealed and which these traditions did/do contain, which I will never part with. And this same cynical device has been used to revel in a debasing of the body and thus of the individual -- since without recognition of the sanctity and dignity of each and all, NO exceptions, then it's down to every group or individual to "decide" who receives authentic love in relationship with others. And who is unworthy of it and can be dehumanised and degraded.

As it is, humanity has struggled with authentic love...and especially with regard to men, toward women. The last thing we needed was a cynical, manipulative, self-serving excuse for men to pursue unfettered sex without strings, "fallout" like pregnancy, responsibility, or any emotional engagement that honours the humanity and dignity of the other. One that critically had to denigrate our mutual humanity and debase our physical temples, in order to make it "ok" to pursue sex in a blatantly exploitative and detached manner, without presence, heart, or regard for our deeper humanity. Now, decades later, it's fairly easy to see the basest seeds of the sexual revolution -- which idealists in my folks' generation thought would take us to that universal authentic love, but which sadly has taken us sideways or backwards...and many could argue that we are farther from agape now than even before, as even the minimal respect and dignity accorded to one another...particularly for men toward women...has diminished.


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Unfortunately this activity is something which has occurred liberally over the millennia and as such is a programmed instinct build into cellular memory. You could say sins of past generations are being experienced by present generations, this is why humanity needs to be more proactive in cultivating a more loving cellular instinct for their future generations.


I observe similarly that females generally practice self-love far better than males. This is generally because they adopt a more nurturing and respectful approach. Females are more in tune with biological rhythms of life and work in harmony with the natural flow. Males tend to resist the flow and natures rhythm and will push, pull and try to force what they desire. This again is a deeply rooted instinct from many generations of past practices.


It is a common truth that human beings still treat the planet they inhabit in the same way as they treat their fellow inhabitants, especially in terms of business relationships. Which is exploitation.
I completely agree. That is exactly the point I was making.
I firmly believe our progress in living sustainably with Gaia, and with lovingkindness toward Gaia, can only progress so far without a complete and transformative centreing of our relationships with one another within a context of authentic love.


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Just as you experience trauma in human relationships due to a disassociation from what you call universal agape love, business relationships also suffer trauma. As you indicate, a reorientation is needed for a more harmonious future. This is occurring in some places.

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Sparrow...I deeply appreciate your above comments/response to my earlier post. There were some key paragraphs that you did not address, which I have posted here so that you might address them in a 2nd pass.

They are, IMO, at the very core of our misaligned, imbalanced relationship with the rest of humanity and with Gaia, both. And they have to do with the fact that authentic love has always been historically, universally, strategically and intentionally lacking or absent from male-female relationships.

Throughout history, marriage was an arrangement and there was no general concept of consent for the woman. Women were callously penetrated without consent (optional within marriage) and certainly without an authentic love for their being. Rape within marriage has only in recent decades been deemed illegal in the West (forget about the rest of the world), though notoriously hard to enforce. Outside of traditional and deeply flawed concepts of marriage or family, hardly anyone as yet even pretends that there is any deep regard for women as equals in their humanity and dignity and right to authentic love. Meaning, there are almost no long-term, on-the-ground agape friendships between adult non-familial men and women, and nor are 99+% of "partnerships" worldwide founded on agape, even in the West where arranged partnerships have gone by the wayside for several generations now -- and agape between men and women is therefore at least potentially now possible, thank God.

We have only been 50 to 100 years or so into a modern era where women have both legal and economic rights to sustain any minimal notion of autonomy, so the notion of our human right to authentic love in all our relationships, including friendship with men and certainly any partnership with men, is radically novel and has not yet even penetrated mainstream discourse in any substantive way.

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I read Tiss's statement and heard the disappointment regarding the lack of agape love, and how for a woman (most women), being touched without an authentic love for her first and foremost simply as a person and as a beloved friend, produces a severe and cumulative trauma over both the short- and especially the long-term. Bluntly put, penetration without a mutual authentic love feels like coercion and rape to the body and to the heart, even though the mind and ego may deny or misdirect.

Self-love is certainly one way to avoid this trauma, and to recover some of the authentic love in being which we all are. But in relationship to one another, there is a deeper transformation, a deeper challenge to which humanity must rise. Never before in the history of Gaia have adult, unrelated men and women routinely and consistently experienced non-sexual, engaged, long-term authentic (agape, unconditional) love with one another. Male-female adult beloved "anam cara" agape friendships have always been almost nonexistent and nor have male-female partnerships ever been founded on an agape love.

Instead, what has sustained humanity in both the physical and spiritual sense has instead been the agape love we have received (at least from some of them some of the time) from parents, from children, and from beloved friends, usually same-sex because of the arranged and/or coercive sexual and non-authentically loving overtones of most male-female partnerships on earth since time immemorial.

Clearly, agape love toward others manifest in our being and doing, regularly and day-to-day, on the ground, is a challenge for humanity at large. But it is particularly in the realm of male-female adult non-familial relationships where agape love (unconditional, actively seeking and supporting the highest good of others equally to the self) has been most persistently and pervasively absent. Such that we continue as a species to call for agape love between one another, between groups, etc., whilst continuing to do and be and speak of special exceptions for men and women. Such that male-female anam cara (agape) friendships [non-sexual and not dependent upon expectations or demands for sex] are nearly non-existent into adulthood, and such that male-female partnerships globally, whilst of course common, continue to specifically ignore the call to authentically love one another first and foremost as people and as friends.


Thank you in advance for your time and thoughts on this
Peace & blessings!
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Old 16-10-2017, 06:49 AM
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Dear Tiss,

I am pleased to have been able to be in service in this way.
I do hope my answer addressed the key focal part of your query on this sensitive subject.

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Dear Sparrow (and friends),

After your last response I feel a little shy to share my recent story but it is necessary for me to see how to apply your last orientation about making my skills flourish. This is less conceptual than what we usually exchange here. Forgive me for that, but I feel at home in this thread and I actually need some light to find my way forward.

I am at the present in a big trouble. Sparrow guided me all these years in SP, after the man I loved unconditionally passed. With each of his words, with each guidance I first discovered and then consolidated my spiritual path. It was not easy...During the process, I lost all ability to enjoy life in human ways and also to bring love to my life, as I said here in a previous post.

I had big achievements concerning my job, and also achieved balance and peace, but based on a big loneliness. I built barriers and closed the doors to any kind of sentimental relationship. I fully exercised love in a macro sense, creating philanthropic causes and helping others, people and animals. I traveled a lot around the world, just enjoying the well done work and the fulfillment of my goals, but still yearning of having a male companion on my side.

Months ago, I met a younger man, we had been working together on that causes. I magically opened to him as never before (after my beloved passing). No explanation, just happened. The only person after so many years. I recovered my happiness.

He has got a complex personality, not very emotionally balanced, with a big level of inner hate and criticism towards the world and towards all the people in his circle. He feels deeply uncomfortable with his life, and also suffered psychosomatic problems, and a very low self-esteem.

On the other hand, I felt dazzled by his sharp intelligence. He was very loving and caring with me. We had no physical contact in the sense of a loving couple, but he became a loving companion in the distance (he lives in another city). I became his confident. We discovered many things in common: ideals, interests, lovely conversations. I felt very eager to guide him, to protect him, to help him grow up. I fully opened my heart to him.

He wanted to move to my city to work with me, but I doubted as I felt that I needed more time to confirm that it would be a right decision. I helped him in many ways and he told me that I was one of the very few whom he loved in his life. We were very compatible... Three months ago I invited him to travel in London for work and vacation, I enjoyed very much the trip. We lived together as good friends.

During the trip and shortly after, I began to notice some behaviors that I did not like, actually not so very relevant things, but very outside of my style. It affected me. He was a little obsessed with social networks and I found out that he allowed badly spoken women to tell him nasty words. Moreover, he seemed to be funny with that. When I found out that, I got very angry and rather than talking with him, I broke the relation in a childish way, via WhatsApp and blocked him.

His reaction was truly disproportionate and he lost his balance: he cut off all communication. The causes ended up being affected. I knew that he was sick because of the situation and lost a lot of weight. He felt terribly offended with me after I wrote an email pointing out his weaknesses. I could not get him to open and talk. There were some attempts that did not go well. I did everything wrong.

At the present, he refuses to speak to me at all, despite my requests. I sent and email eight days ago with no response.

No one in my entire life had ever denied me the possibility of a conversation to close things in a good way. I feel that I did him a lot of harm because I did not measure his poor emotional stability and maybe I was reckless in how I handled things, but I was also very positive and nurturing in his life, and he seems not to take into account it. I think that he is also angry because his expectations were not met, but...

I feel deeply attached to his soul although he does not want to talk to me and I do not know if he could be hating me. It is for me most than evident that our bond comes from in past lives. On the other side, I'm terrified with the possibility that my intuition betrays me, and all can be an illussion.

I am in a big pain because of several things: my lack of ability to handle the situation, I don't want to be hated by him (my love for him remains intact), the many good memories of all that beautiful things we shared, and not knowing what to do improve the situation.

All this is strongly affecting my life, the denial to talk, my inaction because of the fear to be rejected, the possibility that he does not care about me anymore. Incredibly, all this it hurts much more than when my beloved passed because I could understand then, and now I do not understand this. I ask to myself and to the universe, why to me? what's the reason and the purpose of this? what should I have to learn?

Sorry about the long post but it is difficult to explain this story in a few words, as well as the strong bonds I feel, his absence, my loss... and also I am wondering how will I recover to restart a path, with or without him.

With love,
Tiss
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Old 17-10-2017, 09:18 AM
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Dear leadville,

You will always find a place for warm welcomes and polite pleasantries when approaching any engagement f...........................

Time need not even be the focus of ultimate fruition, merely an acknowledgement that each precious moment provided to you by, with and for Earth is an opportunity for pro-active creation. You cannot be in a state of creation if you are physically preoccupied within a state of observation.

Thank for you this discourse.

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Thanks, also, from me to you for being able to share ideas. Less is more, I find, and my preference, and approach, is to kiss - keep it simple sweetie.

You asked me earlier if I had "....considered being more in service to others in your use of these, with this counsel?" My answer to that is yes.

You also said "...physical immersion is not a prerequisite....." etc. Did you think I was under the impression it was?

I was unable to fathom your ideas concerning eternity, time and this dimension. We view things differently.

A slip of the cyber pen and my concentration earlier led to my using 'OTC' rather than 'OTT'. oops! My mind was distracted thinking about someone's medication.

You said "Please do speak more of this work that you do. I observe you also frequent other online forums in your pursuit of reading material." Yes I am a regular on other websites where my aim is to help where I can. It's an altogether more modest undertaking than your own. I look at it this way. You're a teacher. I seek to provide learning support by streamlining and simplifying; less-is-more.

You said "One of the most common thoughts I have witnessed from others during life review, during the formation of proactive soul groups, as well as conversations with the proverbially deceased is "I wish I had done more"." Are there many who don't see things that way?

I thank you for your thoughts and ideas. They have helped enormously.
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