Originally Posted by Gem
How very interesting. I was unaffected by affirmation because i know the only reason I would say something like 'I love and approve of myself' was a response to my actual self hatred. ...
I think 'affirmations' (like 'prayer') can/will only
'work' to change
the configuration of the lattice of existing
probability-patterns, the 'work' if
a person at some level believes
that what is 'affirmed' or 'prayed for' something which is not only possible but that what is presently
being encountered/suffered/endured is not really
what is best/right for oneself (and/or others), IOW that what is 'affirmed' or 'prayed for' would really
be 'gooder' or 'better'.
They may/can/will 'work' to change
a person's attitude, situation, 'destiny' etc. if
said person 'sees' that his or her present pattern is really un
deserved and, if it ever was 'deserved', no longer serves a 'good' purpose. Hence the importance of repentance
in relation to any negative
'judgments' one may harbor in relation to oneself. Hence (IMO) the importance
of including 'forgiveness' part "Our Father who art in heaven, blah-de-bah, forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, blah-de-blah" in the 'prayer' that Jesus recommended.
Thought reinforced by feeling 'affirmations' can 'work' practically instantaneous changes as desired (though, in my case, it usually requires repetition and deeper and deeper and deeper mental and emotional real
izations for said changes to fully unfold and blossom, and the process never ends).
In the case where 'rituals', 'talismen', mantric 'prayers' and 'affirmations' and the like don't work, especially if they 'ring' 'hollow' when practiced or thouht, felt and said, I would suggest (introspectively) looking for possible reasons why
to think, feel and believe and so now continues to think, feel and believe that the 'condition' one wishes to change 'organically' took root and gave rise to the present 'pattern' of/in one's being. If such root-conditioning isn't revisited and altered (re-assessed) as one 'relives' the sequence(s) of events involved in such conditioning, no amount of 'affirmation' or 'prayer' will 'work' (or these will only work in minor but still quite patter-change-limited
ways) since the pattern of the 'energy' that is doing the affirming/praying is self
-reinforcing - that
is the nature of what is meant
This is why abject 'confession' (it can be to one's own 'higher' self as long as one image-ins and so actually experiences 'acceptance' and 'forgiveness' in said regards) can be so empowering.
Of course, such matters can also get pretty convoluted as a result of What I call) false
'guilt' (or 'condemnation') one experiences as a result of one's having unrealistically high standards and expectations, hence negative 'judgments', of oneself as a human. This is where conversation engagement with someone who is has a deeper (more balanced?) intersubjective understanding of the human condition may be useful, even necessary, for their to be a spiritual healing, a spiritually 'healthy' wisdom-regeneration, of one's energy pattern.
Of course, none of this will be of any avail if
one can't or for some other reason chooses not to believe
that 'health' (hence happiness
!) is Life's natural
condition (and 'illness', including any
kind of 'self'-deprecation, is an un
natural one). In that case, one might as well just go on being 'self'-flagellating and 'self'-rejecting.