I like this question, and I like the answers.
It's a really important topic so I'll share the work I've been doing lately (some of it for a really long time):
1) Honesty. Practicing being honest - with oneself to begin with and then with another. There are groups to join, friends to share with, posting here.. Practicing staying true
, not get lost in shame or ego or pride or self-loathing. This means leaving friends behind who - honestly - make you feel less than you are etc.
2) Openness; to hear others, to listen in to what i actually being said - by people you do not understand or even like, even more so. (Not saying stick around when ppl are uncomfortable, no no, leave by all means). Seek out new people at allow them to be less than perfect, learn all you can from them as they are
3) Willingness; to let The Universe show you the way. Allow the path to unfold, even when it takes you away from what yo want
. This takes trust - but it also builds trust
. And when we can trust The Divine, we can start trusting ourselves, and then we can trust others - and then
we can start giving and receiving love from the outside.
Just lately I have gone through a process of dealing with luggage from my past - it is not something I intend to jot down here, but I can share if anyone is curious. Also, I've just started a new cycle of my two favorite 'projects': Infinite Possibilities (Mike Dooley) and the life saving FlyLady - for all us chaos sweethearts.
Can highly recommend both for falling in love with oneself <3
(In the good way, not the obsessive narcissitic way... Just plain, my oh my, I'm really a lovely person, I am...