Experiencing Constant Betrayal

[Bonge]

Hello all

Is there a spiritual reason for experiencing constant betrayal from people of the opposite gender? How can I go about finding the root of this so I can heal?

Much love.

[WildHairedWoman]

Originally Posted by Bonge

Hello all

Is there a spiritual reason for experiencing constant betrayal from people of the opposite gender? How can I go about finding the root of this so I can heal?

Much love.

Maybe you could find some things to ponder from the movie "What the Bleep Do we Know". It has some information about emotional patterns that might be helpful. In order to find the root you need to write down what you are thinking when you feel betrayed, then remember the first time you thought that thought, it will not be a new thought if you feel like you are always betrayed. Then there is something in common with each incident that has to do with the way you think. Once you can identify that, you can track it back to it's roots, they go get some rapid eye therapy or EFT or cognitive therapy. All of those are simple and take very few sessions. The solution is to get your emotions disconnected from that first event so that you remember it but it feels like it happened 10 years ago or when ever instead of still feeling like it just happened.

[Bonge]

Originally Posted by WildHairedWoman

Maybe you could find some things to ponder from the movie "What the Bleep Do we Know". It has some information about emotional patterns that might be helpful. In order to find the root you need to write down what you are thinking when you feel betrayed, then remember the first time you thought that thought, it will not be a new thought if you feel like you are always betrayed. Then there is something in common with each incident that has to do with the way you think. Once you can identify that, you can track it back to it's roots, they go get some rapid eye therapy or EFT or cognitive therapy. All of those are simple and take very few sessions. The solution is to get your emotions disconnected from that first event so that you remember it but it feels like it happened 10 years ago or when ever instead of still feeling like it just happened.

Thank you very much for giving me this advice, this should be fairly easy for me to follow through with. I'll try to watch What the Bleep Do We Know tonight and go from there :)

[Flexibility]

Your higher self gives you situations in order for you to learn something from them. If you do not learn what you need in order for your life path, the experiences will replay over and over until you learn.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by Bonge

Hello all
Is there a spiritual reason for experiencing constant betrayal from people of the opposite gender?
How can I go about finding the root of this so I can heal?

All good posts before this!



Ha...I'm thinking I know a lot about this Universe thing and how Karma and Law and all sorts of things work...
let's see if anything rings true to you...this is what I have found.

Unpleasant things happen until we don't mind them. In the Bible it is called overcoming.
I can say I will never ever in any life encounter a domineering, controlling, mean, off the wall mother/boss/neighbor /friend again...
I am not bothered by these people any longer...and can handle them now with clarity and strength and in a lighthearted way!

And there are other things, that was just 1 example that was recurring.

Whatever it is, fig out how to get over it...therapy, spiritual insight, prayer, energy work...all of it!
See the person as having a problem with no judgment since they are on their Path.

Soon you will never have this issue, cuz why? You are now over it...and
watch, there will be OTHER issues you will face then...hahaha.
Welcome them...the faster they come, the sooner you will go beyond them.

[Unseeking Seeker]

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Miss H having nailed it but if found too mystical
We being mortals with vision linear, not spherical ...

Let’s look at it like this, if we may ...

The betrayed ... the victim ... who just chooses to no longer be victimised
Ungluing expectations of reciprocation anticipated & compartmentalised
Meaning thereby to choicelessly choose transcending to such a vibration
Where there remains no matter within allowing any consciousness contraction
Which is ... love ... not the trading kind but an incessant flowing outpouring
Recognising, accepting, forgiving & non-judgingly unconditionally embracing
Without clinging ...

Or

Look at the pain and that aspect of our consciousness magnifying this pain
Look at the illusionary mental egoic magnifier with nonchalant disdain
The pain magnifying game ...
Unwelcome indulgence with self shame
Words like trauma bonding & Stockholm syndrome come to mind
Walk away with laugher in the heart, a smile on the lips ... being always kind

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[shivatar]

I think psychology will have more answers for you than spirituality.

If you believe in attraction, then what you believe about yourself is going to attract it to you. So if part of you believes you are worthy of being betrayed, then you will attract betrayal. It may take time to heal that part of you and re-wire the mind so that it doesn't believe it to be so but it takes time. It also takes experiences.

[Miss Hepburn]

Ha! Ya know what we haven't talked about!!?
Never trusting anyone again!
Don't tell 'em anything about yourself!!!

[Taking a Break]

Don't show your true love too soon, too much love, makes you vulnerable?