WHY I TRY NOT TO JUDGE OTHERS

(To me) the important thing is not to JUDGE others for whatever is their behavior. Maybe your right. Maybe a person is displaying an unhealthy need for approval. If that is the case then wouldnt the lovely thing to do be to bless them and pray they find their need for approval from within.

The other reason i think its important not to judge others is, when we do we are just manifesting and sustaining that kind of energy and judgementalness in our own personal reality.

I believe everything we think is reciprocal, with every judgemental thought, we reap what we sow. We cause others to be judgemental of us.

You're right in that we should value people as individuals which means allowing them their behaviour, foibles, habits and on. But spiritually we are allowed our likes, dislikes and indifferences. To like or dislike something isn't judgement as long as we don't weigh them in on our moral weighbridge.

However, when circumstances demand that we interact with others we're forced to make some judgements. Just part of living. Depends what the occasion is. Work and play may be different, maybe not. We have a right (so I'd guess from this forum) to "defend" our spirituality so if what we can glean about another or their situation doesn't accord with that - a judgement - we can decline the interaction. Part of judging concerns whether we can learn by deferring judgement and letting things take their course.

It's a complex subject but here on terra firma we have to get through with the least discomfort to ourselves...otherwise we just make the terror firmer!

[Terra Tourist]

Originally Posted by Robertj

(To me) the important thing is not to JUDGE others for whatever is their behavior. Maybe your right. Maybe a person is displaying an unhealthy need for approval. If that is the case then wouldnt the lovely thing to do be to bless them and pray they find their need for approval from within.

Hi Robertj

I know you have your heart in the best place, but I'm just going to be the devil's advocate here for a moment...

If a person is displaying an 'unhealthy' need for approval, in your estimation, then you have already judged them to be (a) unhealthy (b) less than perfect in some way. Bottom line, you have judged them.

To add to that, praying for someone because you have judged them to be 'unhealthy' or less than perfect in some way is an action - albeit a passive aggressive action - but an action nonetheless to remedy their pre-judged imperfection.

We certainly can judge a person's behaviour to be unprofitable for your particular path, it's sensible to hold that power of discrimination, however, unless that person is causing you great harm, then perhaps it's best to accept your perceived differences and carry on with your journey. Their actions are relevant to their path. Perhaps their 'unhealthy' behaviour is a gift to you, to mirror back to you what you see flawed about yourself (?)...perhaps.

So, in general, it seems to be a sensible approach to be wise and discriminate towards certain behaviours, but perhaps it's not so wise to get too involved in another person's path.

[Howla Dark]

It's good not to judge. On my experience I often fail to come across as non-judgemental. It overlaps with my ability to sense another person's feelings and read their actions and body language. I often feel able to tell what the other person feels and thinks about me or someone and I base it one that.

[dream jo]

try noy 2 judg any 1 had plent pele judg me i hav it alwazy seam2 be 1s it dos wrse thn me

100% true, Robertj. When we allow ourselves to judge other people, all we do is inviting negative emotions in our own life. That results in underachievement, low self-esteem and procrastination.

[teak.]

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

You're right in that we should value people as individuals which means allowing them their behaviour, foibles, habits and on. But spiritually we are allowed our likes, dislikes and indifferences. To like or dislike something isn't judgement as long as we don't weigh them in on our moral weighbridge.

However, when circumstances demand that we interact with others we're forced to make some judgements. Just part of living. Depends what the occasion is. Work and play may be different, maybe not. We have a right (so I'd guess from this forum) to "defend" our spirituality so if what we can glean about another or their situation doesn't accord with that - a judgement - we can decline the interaction. Part of judging concerns whether we can learn by deferring judgement and letting things take their course.

It's a complex subject but here on terra firma we have to get through with the least discomfort to ourselves...otherwise we just make the terror firmer!

Yes! So agree with this.

Most humans are making judgments all the time. It's likely how our species survived so long (determining which plants, animals, people would be dangerous to us, which places would make safe homes, etc.). Now a lot of our judgments aren't needed for survival. The instinct to make them remains.

[Frederick33]

seems to me the human soul is not a language based set up

did you talk English when before you ever incarnated on earth ?

do you remember how you communicated and about what back than ?

do you remember what it felt like to be in that place and be what you where

at that time ?

what values are you focusing on now you are down here and why ?

[dream jo]

hearss 1 i hear dnt judg a boook by its kover

[Frederick33]

Originally Posted by dream jo

hearss 1 i hear dnt judg a boook by its kover

I like your book analogy will make one too

I see an open book in front of me with text on the pages

am I the text on the pages ? no ?

am i the light around the text on the white paper ?

am i the one looking at it all perhaps

than sure i am not the meaning of the words in the book

who would want the creator to be the meaning of the words in the book

and let that shape me ?

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lots of love and light