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Old 01-05-2020, 05:05 AM
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Hi all
I just joined so this is my first post...
I'm a single father and my mother died shortly before I moved into a new house with my daughter, about 9 years ago. I nominated to keep my mothers ashes and I still have them (we still need to agree on what to do with them). I can only remember my mother suffering from depression while I was generally playful and light hearted most of the time.
About a year after moving in and my daughter was old enough to go to school, I tried to set up a therapy practice. About 6 months to a year after I was so overwhelmed, that I simply crumbled and have suffered depression and huge self doubt ever since, and I just can't seem to get my life back on track.
My brother, who is quite new to spirituality pointed out that as I have our mothers ashes, it could be her energy in the house as she's not been 'put to rest' yet.
Any and all opinions and guidance will be appreciated. I'm off to bed now. almost 4:00am (UK time).
G'night all.

I'm late to this thread, but please accept my condolences for your loss. The answer to your question is no. There is no soul or emotional connection spirit has with ashes or it's former self. That's done, and do what you will with the ashes. If you feel like keeping it, feel free to do so. It's really your memento and connection to your mother, but your mother is now crossed over and she wants you to be happy. You will scatter the ashes when your ready and don't let others decide that for you (very important).

If you feel your mother's presence it's her pure spirit that's around you not her depression or past problems. She is no longer bounded by them. Also please remember that depression (chronic depression) is a medical condition, not a spiritual one. If you're comfortable with spiritual assistance, I would encourage you to connect with your mother's spirit. You might need to heal yourself.

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Old 10-05-2020, 03:38 PM
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I don't think so. I do think you need to take care of yourself through all of your responsibilities and struggles. Perhaps you could schedule a massage on weekends, go visit a sauna or spa (sometimes, having someone rub your back helps relieve stress and depression)mini vacations, a new haircut, go fishing, or pick out something nice, just for yourself. Be sure to reward yourself for all the hard work you do...and if finding a beautiful place to scatter your mother's ashes, helps you to feel peaceful...do that, too. Remember to have some fun, all work and no play, is not healthy. Your first responsibility is to take care of yourself...then you can take care of everything else.

Mothers and single parents are prone to depression, because they are always taking care of everyone and everything, they sometimes neglect to take care of their own health. My doctor told me this, when my children were little, and I was going through clinical depression...he said, you can't take care of anyone, until you take care of yourself first...he was right. It's amazing how many people feel guilty for this...and they shouldn't.
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