I used to be on Spiritual Forums much more often back in 2015. By that time, I had already resigned myself to not taking much stock in Twin Flames. I made this post http://www.spiritualforums.com/vb/sh...ad.php?t=87984
and I let go.
And that was 100% the right move. It's been 5 years now, and I have fully healed from whatever that connection was. He was not a TF. I was wrong about him. If I hadn't let go, I never would have found that out.
But I didn't FULLY let go until early 2019. I had hung on so long to the hurt that it became who I was. But early in 2019 I decided I wasn't going to be defined by someone who did me wrong just because we had some deep connection to each other before.
I've lived the 5 years between that post and now, rebuilding myself, making career moves, geographical moves, spiritual bolstering, took risks, indulging in what it means to be me every day. I learned what my strengths are, that so many people love me, that I bring people together, that I'm appreciated, that I am attractive and feel amazing, that I can make magic when I want to. By the time 2019 rolled around, I was there.
I saw a palm reader in New Orleans in April 2019, and she asked me "Are you finally done being mad at that man?" And I said, "yes. I just decided I was done not too long ago." I said it, and I meant it. I haven't looked back since.
If I had clung to the idea that him pushing me away and then running after me was actually some cosmic dance for us because we shared a soul, I never would have found the amazing life I have now. It honestly feels like the best dream.
So, is it time to let the TF thing go? Of course, I can't make that decision for you. I don't know you or your life. But I can definitely say that there is something incredible out there waiting for you if you're able to choose yourself.
If you're wondering what to do next... if you can - forget you ever heard of Twin Flames. Forget all of it. Tell yourself it was something you believed that turned out to be wrong. Tell yourself that anyone can love you in a billion different ways, and you're ready to get out there and let them. Because it's true.
If you deeply believe in the TF experience, then you know that nothing you do can stop you from being connected to your person, not loving yourself, not loving someone else. If you truly believe in all this stuff, and you're stuck in some painful time warp where you're always waiting in anguish for affirmations or responses from them, then you know you need to step outside of it and focus on what's best for you. Your TF would respect it.