Depression?

undomiel_perian · #1 11-04-2013, 08:31 PM

Just wondering if anyone who split from their twin flame or soulmate, if they experienced extreme sadness or depression? Now when I say split that doesn't necessarily mean break up but rather cut contact or distanced them in any kind of way. I've been really sad and maybe even depressed, since my ex broke up with me. During this time, I’ve been trying to take care and focus on myself. I have been told numerous times that he's my soulmate (I know that we all have many different kinds of soulmates and some may or may not be romantic). I personally believe he may be my twin. Although, he never told me this but I know he ran because he was beginning to fall in love with me and was losing control. What is even worse about this time apart, I've talked to a couple spiritual advisors and psychics to help me, and they say that we’re going to reconnect and get back together as a couple. One even said she didn't doubt that we'd both get married to each other. Now, that’s nice to hear but I don’t want any false hope. I know that a lot of the time what spiritual advisors or psychics say is often left to interpretation. If my ex and I do back together that’s fine but if we don’t, that’s fine too. Whatever happens, happens and I’ll truly be okay with it in the end. I got a little off track but has anyone felt this way too? I’ve dealt with depression but it was under control. I’m still dealing with it and getting help especially with this whole break up.

Teal · #2 11-04-2013, 08:49 PM

I wouldn't call it depressed exactly. In most cases we are involved in other relationships when we discover the tf. That being said. I am a happy go with the flow. witty comical well rounded individual who likes my life the way it is. And i get a little adrenalin rush from tf. I sometimes think about what it would be like to be with tf...........

I get a bit down when I think about the choices we make.I think the reason why we get down is we made the right choice at that time. And sometimes it unravels a bit and then we get "depressed" with the choice we made. does this make sense?
It is ok to think about what would have happened if you made that choice differently as long as you fallow the path back to the choice you did make and the good that came from that.

Impulsv · #3 11-04-2013, 09:32 PM

Me n twin were not in relationships when we meet and are not currently. n yes at each break up I've been through depression,extreme pain, the dark night of the soul as some call it. But the severity has decreased for me with each break up perhaps because I've been working on myself.

#4 11-04-2013, 10:07 PM

Yes, but then you learn self love. You learn to live alone, and get in touch with your inner
Self. Sometimes it's better not to ask why, but to get up and try.
It takes more than a couple tries, and par..of that is..losing them.

Impulsv · #5 11-04-2013, 11:06 PM

It true I thought I had healed but even in this last break dec I learned I needed to learn unconditional love. I thought How do I love tf unconditionally.i researched meditated ect it lead me to And discovered its unconditional love for self because when we are full it spill over tf n all humanity n need nothing in return. So this break was definitely needed

#6 12-04-2013, 12:06 AM

I've had the highest highs and lowest lows after TF came into my life. I've always been the most happy, optimistic person but after he cut ties last time, I completely shut down for over 4 months. I was down on my knees bawling from the depths of my soul at the thought of never hugging him or looking into his eyes again...

I told him I've cried more over him in that four months than in my 40+ years. This has thrown me for a loop...I hate that I can't shake the anxiety that used to be bliss when thinking of him. I pray, meditate, get reiki, have Tarot readings, go to Church - and I still feel an underlying sadness. Soooo unlike me...maybe it's his emotions I'm feeling, too?

John Elessar · #7 12-04-2013, 12:36 AM

It's...complicated. While my depressive episode coincided with a (fleeting) chance at a romance with her during my early 20's, it wasn't caused so much by her or how the budding relationship imploded, but everything else in my life was falling apart and I could find no solace anywhere, except in her image, and that saved me-else I am a broken body on the rocks below my parents' condo without her in my life at that time.

airydoug · #8 12-04-2013, 01:42 AM

Don't think I'd call it depression but it feels like depression. It's more llike sinking back into the third dimensional atmosphere. Boring, dull.

My SC is feeling like that too.

#9 12-04-2013, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Jenhearther

Yes, but then you learn self love. You learn to live alone, and get in touch with your inner
Self. Sometimes it's better not to ask why, but to get up and try.
It takes more than a couple tries, and par..of that is..losing them.

Exactly! Everything that happens, happens so that you can heal. Nothing makes sense until one day it hits you like a freight train and you just get it. Bam! Everything you've been through will flash before your eyes and it all of a sudden makes perfect sense. This is your awakening.