Hi Christine01,
I'm going to toss out another idea for you to mull around and see if you can use it to make some sense out of your own circumstance. I've had since 2011 when a similar situation happened to me (causing the end of my 20 year marriage and the awakening of consciousness) to mull this whole thing over and talk with Spirit about it and meet a number of other people who believe they also met their 'twin flame' and so what I'm about to share with you is all that put together.
Everything that exist in the Universe vibrates, and everything that vibrates does so at a particular and unique rate called - frequency.
For humans our frequency rate is made up in part by our physical being and it's health but also by our level of consciousness.
We can occasionally run into someone who vibrates at almost exactly the same rate as us and this causes all sorts of energetic exchange/expansion to happen which acts as a catalyst to launch us into higher states of consciousness. It lights a fire within us, an expansion of consciousness. I believe it happens to both people though one or both may bury it and stop the process and just chalk it up to high strangeness and run the other way instead of peering into the Mystery.
SO I don't believe in twin flames, I believe in catalyst and that there's a number of people in the world a near enough vibration to have this effect on us. There's 7.5 billion people in the world as of 2017 and a person born faster than every second.
http://www.worldometers.info/world-population/
7.5 billion people is a bigger number than the human mind can actually fathom, we can't even get a good grasp on what a million is. The twin flame mythology says that we each only have 1 twin flame, not more right. Just one. Out of 7.5 billion people what are the actual odds that any of us ever would met the 'one and only'? Yet we have a whole forum of people here claiming to have done so and there's many twin flame based forums on the internet and I've met maybe 8 people in life now claiming to have done so. Yet the odds are better of having won the lottery mega jack pot thing - yet none of us here have won.
So good chance it's as Spirit says - a big mis-understanding by humans of frequency and like vibration and the potential energy exchange that happens when two like vibrations interact, which certainly can involve enough energy to cause the awakening of consciousness and cause crystals to crack and so on. The result is a real thing, a big energy blast/exchange even if we humans tried to turn it into a spiritual version of Cinderella.
Spirit says it's not about the other person, it's about how we spend the energy - do we use it to evolve or do we devolve through obsession about the 'other person'?
Anyway, just thoughts for you to mull around as you get yourself squarely on your new path. :))
Love and Blessings to you Christine01