What if...

What if...

.... you would like or are willing bye -gones be bye-gones with another person but the other person doesn't want to?

I mean this in a sence that you had a big fall out with another person(not a lover,family or someone that close) but then you felt yuo should leave the grudge and all that hate behind,swollowed your pride and forgave them but the other person just won't have it even though they played a part in it(not just ones person fault). That they want you to "suffer" but are too blind to see own mistake.

Do you have to or will you see them in the next life or can you cut any connections now so this won't happen?

If this needs to be resolved in another life, then you will meet again.

However, with or without them, you have the opportunity to do your best with what you have been given, to resolve what is yours to resolve. That's not necessarily the argument itself, it is what the argument means to you, the effect it has on you and the aspects of your life that drew you into this situation in the first place.

What the other person has to deal with is theirs alone.

[Belle]

There are so many areas of this to be able to answer in total precision.

You can let things go yourself, but you have no authority over the other person's life, moreover you don't know the nuances of their life to understand why they might be the way they are. Your life is about your life and not about another's.

If they want you to "suffer" there are things you can do to prevent this. You remove yourself from their circle of power, and you cut the cords that may exist between you. You may need to do this over and over again, for me I'm amazed how cords that were cut seem to re-emerge. And they need cutting again and again and again. And, you return to your own circle of power, and not give the other power for your well-being. It's very common with people we care about that they have power over our well-being, this is unhealthy.

As Meadows says, "What the other person has to deal with is theirs alone."

Keep your power to yourself and you will find things change, you will set them free as well.