Dear Folks
About "life lessons" it is easy to explain when you believe in reincarnation. Nothing that you dont deserve will happen to you, only things that you deserve to experience you will live! As a general rule if you are experiencing something cruel indicates you have a huge debt related to same action you are suffering (exceptions exist).
Depending on your evolution stage, before reincarnate, you make a reincarnatory plan. In case you are not able to chose, high spirits will advise/guide you to build your plan.
More than 50 other spirits are involved in a reincarnatory plan. A balance of pending debts, reparations that you need to do for others etc.
All this based on your previous reincarnations and your failures.
Even if it is the death of a relative, between reincarnations the spirit dont lose the love bond they have they only increases. Body death dont kill the imortal spirit, they will continue your journey and for sure you will conect to the loved ones again and again.
If you dont believe in reincarnation you will suffer from all these things till the day you change your belief.
Only the spirituality knows our curriculum vitae and what is best for us. Those whon really dont know the entire history believes some injustice is being done, but Divine justice is infallible and perfect.
The SpiritĀ“s Book by Allan Kardec, free dowload at:
www.ssbaltimore.org/PDF/Spirits.pdf
Good reading!