'Fixing'

[nammyoho]

I'm not sure if this would be the correct place to post this--

Being in flow comes as easily as it goes. As wonderful as I think it is to bask in all the greatness that is the human experience, this experience also comes with a full ego attached to it.
In times of intense stress or anxiety, I often have this overwhelming urge to FIX everything immediately, which I suppose fits in well with the definition of anxiety. There is the kind voice in my heart telling me that all things are always in the right place at the right time regardless of my perception, but the raspier voice in my head tends to talk louder during these times, urging me to act impulsively out of a desperate need to fix whatever the situation may be.

I have always been a 'fixer.' Conflict, confusion, and misunderstandings make me uncomfortable to the point of physical illness. I've realized that I can get so caught up in fixing my own discomfort that I sometimes shove my reactions toward others, hurting them in the process. This comes purely from the ego. I understand that 'let it be' will be the common response to this, but my question is- how?

[naturesflow]

Originally Posted by nammyoho

I'm not sure if this would be the correct place to post this--

Being in flow comes as easily as it goes. As wonderful as I think it is to bask in all the greatness that is the human experience, this experience also comes with a full ego attached to it.
In times of intense stress or anxiety, I often have this overwhelming urge to FIX everything immediately, which I suppose fits in well with the definition of anxiety. There is the kind voice in my heart telling me that all things are always in the right place at the right time regardless of my perception, but the raspier voice in my head tends to talk louder during these times, urging me to act impulsively out of a desperate need to fix whatever the situation may be.

I have always been a 'fixer.' Conflict, confusion, and misunderstandings make me uncomfortable to the point of physical illness. I've realized that I can get so caught up in fixing my own discomfort that I sometimes shove my reactions toward others, hurting them in the process. This comes purely from the ego. I understand that 'let it be' will be the common response to this, but my question is- how?

Self reflect, self reflect and self reflect.....let go until your clear in you to support and love naturally without need to do anything, then you just be and live your life the way you want too.

Your here to work on you first, get you clear and what plays out around you then is clearer and you naturally know where to go and what to do without hidden agendas that are trying to overcome your own discomfort.

[linen53]

Might you be a nurturer? Which has a deeper meaning than a fixer.

[yeshee camar]

i salute to add fix be remake, everyday we all remake, and but, big pro visions big pro dreams wins.
your vision says fix then slom patrol 'the way' is as yours cherish hug,-
vision of fixes does participates on top of yours alike from inside charm or bahaba love.
bahaba love- the art of everything's bullshidos gotta love.-

that im honored to add-

[sky]

Originally Posted by nammyoho

I'm not sure if this would be the correct place to post this--

Being in flow comes as easily as it goes. As wonderful as I think it is to bask in all the greatness that is the human experience, this experience also comes with a full ego attached to it.
In times of intense stress or anxiety, I often have this overwhelming urge to FIX everything immediately, which I suppose fits in well with the definition of anxiety. There is the kind voice in my heart telling me that all things are always in the right place at the right time regardless of my perception, but the raspier voice in my head tends to talk louder during these times, urging me to act impulsively out of a desperate need to fix whatever the situation may be.

I have always been a 'fixer.' Conflict, confusion, and misunderstandings make me uncomfortable to the point of physical illness. I've realized that I can get so caught up in fixing my own discomfort that I sometimes shove my reactions toward others, hurting them in the process. This comes purely from the ego. I understand that 'let it be' will be the common response to this, but my question is- how?

Are you trying to control to alleviate your stress? Fix what you can the rest leave behind

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by nammyoho

... all the greatness that is the human experience, this experience also comes with a full ego attached to it.
In times of intense stress or anxiety, I often have this overwhelming urge to FIX everything immediately, which I suppose fits in well with the definition of anxiety.
There is the kind voice in my heart telling me that all things are always in the right place at the right time regardless of my perception, but the raspier voice in my head tends to talk louder during these times, urging me to act impulsively out of a desperate need to fix whatever the situation may be.

I have always been a 'fixer.' Conflict, confusion, and misunderstandings make me uncomfortable to the point of physical illness.
I've realized that I can get so caught up in fixing my own discomfort that I sometimes shove my reactions toward others,
hurting them in the process.
This comes purely from the ego
. I understand that 'let it be' will be the common response to this, but my question is- how?

Edit: Oh, I see now this was from way back in September...

I picked out words that jumped at me....lol....it's like we are twins and you really understand so much already!

Ha, a wise friend just talked to me last month ...she also does ACIM, but for years....
she clearly explained to me how my desire to help
(or fix, same word really) comes from the ego.
(Understanding the ego and what it does is a BIG thing in 'A Course In Miracles')

I whined to her, "But, my sister repeats the same issues for decades!!
I just want to help her get out of this terrible cycle!
She goes through so much pain!"

Sounds really logical to me, ha ...how could that be anything but my heart?
Nope, she wouldn't lemme off the hook...she clearly helped me see....
"If they ask, it's ok. Otherwise, it is the lower ego self, ego mind set...
all ego."

Then, I deeply got...and you and I already really know it!

I know that everything happens according to it's own time and everything is perfect...BUT, not with my loved ones! Ha!
I can't stand to see them for decades have the same panic attacks, now causing health issues.
But....''Oh, well''...it is their Path to live.

Some come here to learn,learn,learn and process quickly... go to therapy, come to forums asking for help...others
come here needing it a bit harder for them to learn...
it is what they need...this is how they do it.
My interfering is the ego coming through...yup.

In ACIM it helps us see clearer...the choice...the 2 voices...the 2 perspectives or Mindsets...we can come from ego...
or come from
the Holy Spirit's mindset...which ALWAYS comes from love....and feels good and 'right' to our hearts.

PS...feeling compassion and listening in peace is from the Holy Spirit...

[A human Being]

The compulsion to try and 'fix' a person or situation arises from the belief, whether conscious or unconscious, that something is 'wrong.' If this judgment is not recognised and seen through, any subsequent action will be reflexive and ultimately harmful in some way, imo, because it will be action that is not coming from a place of acceptance and unconditional love - instead, it will be coming from a place of fear.

With acceptance, imo, the key, as with most things, is presence; acceptance and presence go hand in hand, you can't be one and not the other. The compulsion to fix is a product of the resistance to what is.

What's important to recognise is, acceptance and surrender are not analogous to resignation and defeatism; throwing up one's hands in the air and declaring, 'it's hopeless, there's nothing to be done!' is a state of resistance.