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Old 19-10-2017, 01:15 PM
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This is really interesting to me, because most of my mates are the opposite gender to me. We're great friends and there isn't really any underlying oddness between us. I am not even sure there is an undercurrent. I have known most of these folks for years and years now and we're like family. To be honest I prefer these relationships and my own gender don't seem to like me that much in truth. There's always a competitive edge which doesn't happen in the different gender dynamic.

Sexual undercurrent isn't there for me either, it might be for them. Guess it depends, I dunno our relationships are what they are. Maybe the sexual undercurrent is there because you're not friends (as in you see something more in one another)?

As I say there is none of this with my mates - no sexual anything, just great friends who I get to laugh with and share with. Plus I don't really have to be anything, they just take me as I am.

That's my take on it
I do hear where you're coming from, actually, I suppose as with most things it's highly subjective and it gets me to wondering to what extent I'm projecting. I was probably more conscious of a sexual undercurrent when I was younger and less comfortable in my own skin (I'm still not entirely comfortable in it, but I'm much better than I was), which again is maybe more a reflection of how I related to my own sexuality as much as anything. As I say, I do think it becomes much less of an issue when there's an emotional connection - when I've had that with the women I've been especially close to sex has never been an issue, because first and foremost there was a loving bond and a mutual respect. Meaningless sex was never something that particularly appealed to me (I mean obviously I'm a bloke so it did have a certain appeal, if I'm being honest, but deep down it always felt kinda hollow - I always yearned for something more than that).

I think there's something to what you said in seeing more in one another than just friendship, I do get that feeling with the female friend I mentioned because there's always been a mutual attraction that was never realised sexually (it's a really complicated situation, and it pits my brain against my genitals, quite frankly - my fearful mind has won out thus far, more's the pity ). Anyway, I find it warming that it is possible to have a loving relationship with a woman (and vice versa) without the need for sex :)
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