Am I a prude?

[Native spirit]

It wouldnt do for me if anyone asks a question when in a relationship like that makes you wander whats gone wrong .its not my thing.

Namaste

Hey if that's what they want whatever rocks your boat.

PS. I wouldn't do it though I'd probably feel weird and wonder..

[HalfGirl]

People can call me “prude”, “old fashioned” or “conservative”, but a threesome would not be for me and I would feel very uncomfortable if someone suggested that to me.

[Sarian]

Originally Posted by twinkle

Yes, I came across a man interested in this. I can't say if past men I dated were into this since I did not stick around long enough to find out. I got mad at this man for revealing his sexual fantasy to me. I am not sure if I had the right to be mad just because I did not like it. I did not have to participate if I did not want to. Recently, I read some relationship advice that stated not to make your man feel ashamed to tell you sexual fantasies. Just checking.

Well, I'd not like it so much either, not at all really. I would not like to be seen as sex toy or release. Sex to me, is something sacred and special to be enjoyed with the man i love and who loves me. Call me old fashioned I guess. I think I would have been really put off.

I'm not a prude with my guy at all, but if I was in the dating scene, yeah, I think I'd be pretty much a prude until love was there if it ever came. And being a prude doesn't have to mean something bad. it's prudent just llike another person wisely said.

[twinkle]

I guess I am not artistic. He views sex as art like threesomes is making art. But sex is supposed to make love, not art.

[Sarian]

Hahahaha...what a dip he is. Tell him "Nice try." Yeah, he's a creep.

[trixiewilbury]

Lol! Making art. That's hysterical. He's so full of it. He just wants a threesome. Threesomes are not for everyone. And it also doesn't sound like he brought it up the right way, either. Everyone has different preferences about sex. There's sex, and love making. I've had plenty of sex with more partners than I care to admit. I did have two different threesomes, both times alcohol was involved. Once with two men, once with a man and a woman. I learned quickly that I am VERY much NOT gay, but both experiences were fun and I have fond memories. (The guys were not fondling each other or anything, they were both into me, so that was cool.)

But that being said, I'm not out to find it again. It's a bit...different. Maybe it's good that he mentioned it right away. If you two aren't compatible that way better to know now. Good for you for speaking up when you weren't comfortable.

[twinkle]

Originally Posted by trixiewilbury

I did have two different threesomes, both times alcohol was involved. Once with two men, once with a man and a woman. I learned quickly that I am VERY much NOT gay, but both experiences were fun and I have fond memories. (The guys were not fondling each other or anything, they were both into me, so that was cool.)

But that being said, I'm not out to find it again. It's a bit...different.

I guess he thinks it is cool for two women to be into him. By different, do you mean weird?

So, you would never have a threesome with a man and a woman because you are not gay? But it was still a fun experience and fond memory with the woman even though you are not into women? If you thought it was so cool for two men to be into you, why don't you want to do it again? Has anyone contacted you since then for more? Or did the party just plan on it being a one-night stand?

[Sarian]

I've seen porn movies with two guys on a woman and to me, it seemed like they were just using the woman as a piece of meat. I couldn't get into that at all. I don't think you have to be gay to have three somes....but nah, not my cup of tea...

[trixiewilbury]

Originally Posted by twinkle

I guess he thinks it is cool for two women to be into him. By different, do you mean weird?

So, you would never have a threesome with a man and a woman because you are not gay? But it was still a fun experience and fond memory with the woman even though you are not into women? If you thought it was so cool for two men to be into you, why don't you want to do it again? Has anyone contacted you since then for more? Or did the party just plan on it being a one-night stand?

No, I don't mean weird. It's just the energy flow is different. Less intense since there was a third person involved. I can't really explain. It was fun, but not something I'd seek out again at this point in my life. One of those things I wanted to try, that I was curious about. So when the opportunity was there, I took it.

Lol, let me try to answer your next set of questions one at a time. With the man and the woman, I was more into him, and it was his girlfriend. She was like me, sort of into it, but he was WAY more excited about it. She was very pretty, and, well, I thought I'd see what being with another woman was like. It just didn't turn me on. That's all. I wasn't, like, repulsed, I just didn't get a whole lot out of being with her. So that's why. I mean if you went to a fancy restaurant, tried the food, and you weren't that crazy about it, would you go back? It was like that. But yes it was still fun. I just sort of chuckle about it.

And for two men, I think my initial response explains that. It was nice, but it just feels more special to be with one person.

I hope that answers your questions!