NO SPIRITUAL CONNECTION

Laurielee · #1 21-02-2019, 06:48 PM

Is anyone else involved in a relationship with a die hard atheist? When I met this man years ago, I was recovering from my Pentecostal upbringing and not really interested in spirituality. I am a different person now and we just don't connect anymore. I do love him and don't want to leave him. He's a wonderful man, we're just on different wavelengths. Any advice?

Love and Light,
Laurie

#2 21-02-2019, 11:36 PM

Probably best to put religion aside. Look at the state of the world - almost all its woes are down to holy books. The moment people of different faiths get involved, trouble hangs over them like the sword of Damocles. (Make no mistake, being an atheist takes as much a stretch of faith as a devout Chistian.)

Why not just enjoy what you have and what you share together? You can be spiritually inspired without involving religion.

Give it some thought - are you happy with the guy as long as religion is out of the way? If yes, it seems a good idea to wean yourself off religion.
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Laurielee · #3 22-02-2019, 12:56 AM

My spirituality has nothing to do with religion. I guess my problem is that I'm going through a lot of stuff right now and I can't talk to him about it. He's great. Maybe I need a friend to talk about these things with.

Sapphirez · #4 22-02-2019, 04:26 AM

It is a tough conundrum.. I think that all you can do is keep lighting and brightening up your own path and let that be enough. yes talking to a friend would be a good idea.I really want to say that hopefully your man will come around and eventually join you on your path at least a little bit, as that's what I wish for me in my relationship (he's not atheist but isn't into spirituality like I am) but I know it's not healthy or good advice lol so all I can say is I relate to your situation. Everyone is spiritual in their own ways, but it would be nice if some were more conscious and conscientious about their existence in this wonderful world.. no matter what the situation though, you are not alone because there are others you can invite or have in your life, and of course you don't need anyone else to be in your relationship with spirit because it's a unique individual thing. thank goodness for this forum though and people gladly sharing about their experiences and insights

Lucky 1 · #5 22-02-2019, 07:22 PM

My experience in these types of situations is that there is in fact a spiritual connection regardless if either of you realize it or not........its still there bubbling below the surface like a rue and subtly coloring the relationship whether you know it or not.

FairyCrystal · #6 22-02-2019, 10:38 PM

Is he okay with you being busy with spirituality? Of not, you need to have a real good conversation.
If you can simply allow one another to believe and do their own thing without judging it, it could work out. And yes, that does mean you'd have to find other people to share your spiritual side with. But you know, most people have to do that as few have a partner who's into it.
My ex wasn't either, he was very rational and logical, as rational as they come. Seeing is believing. Science is God, lol. Yet, he could let me do my thing, we could even talk about it up to a point. He did have his limit, but so did I when he wanted to talk computer, which wasn't my thing at all.
To be honest, I believe he could even enjoy some of the things I was busy with, and I managed to get him involved in certain things. So by watching me from the sidelines, listening to my stories (again, up to a point), he too developed.
That's not to say it was always easy, cos it led to irritations as well. For instance, if I talked about something I just knew -I'm clairknowing- he wanted to know how, what, why. He needed proof, that's how he was wired.

Dunno if your partner maybe can dig quantum physics? There a huge overlap between that and spirituality.
In any case, don't try to force it upon him, but if he makes comments on what you do, read and so on, almost forcing you do not do it or in secret, you should really have a good conversation. Respect goes both ways. And if he loves you and doesn't want to lose you he should accept that you are growing and changing. As long as that isn't a threat to your relationship it shouldn't be a problem.

Laurielee · #7 23-02-2019, 01:05 AM

Thanks Everyone. My man is very respectful of my beliefs. Of course if I say too much, he laughs. But it's not that big of a deal, he laughs about a lot of things. �� I think that it will help to be here with you all and have some interesting conversations.

Love to you all!