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Originally Posted by Spectrum
Can anyone give some advice? What can I do to learn to accept and appreciate being single?
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I think you just need to relax & accept being a human ...
All people are born with instinct/innate behavior that drives us from an early age to connect with a living body (human or animal) and continue to do so till we have satisfied our needs ...
Which could also lead to chosing to be single once we have learned from the experience having gone full circle ...
Not only do we want companionship, we want sex, we want to procreate, we want someone to share our life with who will be a part of our live & remember us/our history after we are dead, dead & gone ...
Desperation impedes progess; loneliness can be overpowering ...
A pet can will fill the void & calm desperation by keeping your attention focused on him/her as you invest your time in nursing a pet rescue &/or raising, building trust & training him/her ...
Or get a hobby that demands public attention ...
Gotta love a man w/a muscle car, no kidding, even still at my age ...
Believe me, the ugly as well as the old crusty men get hit on big time ...
There are women out there who have a thirst for feeling/controlling the power of a fast car, but not all want to drive one ...
I still dream of driving any type of vehicle even an El Camino w/a stock or modified big block Chevy 454 engine - no drag racing though; too much power for me to handle ...
However, I'd easily take a Cleveland 351 or hemi manual v6 (more torque than an 8cyl) w/an overhead cam plus tach & hand brake. A tachometer lets a driver know the rpms; a camshaft (OHC) allows for better engine performance which is always good for racing ...
An engine needs to be revved up to a certain amount of rpms to burn rubber in 1st gear while holding the clutch down hand brake up ready to fire off the line ...
I was at a car show last night talking w/a number of gals around your age ...
They knew alot about different years/types of cars, of course, they were primarily focused on muscle or cute girly cars just like myself ...
While watching the car parade a sweet 25-ish gal leaned over to tell me the suspension was wrong on the muscle car passing by us; my mechanic son mentioned the same thing to me earlier in the day about the same car ...
In our youth, my deceased husband had a '67 Mustang & I had a '69 GTO - both stock, but of course, looking bad**s w/Gabrielle hijackers ...
My goat could take down & put to shame my husband's pony any time ...
Both sold to go to college ... (stupid! stupid! stupid! - I should've just sacrificed more to keep it!)
I heard a guy I went to school w/40 years ago still has his Mustang Cobra (piece of ****!) - its parked in the garage & only driven a few miles on Sundays ...
His sons who are in their 30's are not allowed to touch it, drive it or look at crossed eyed --- smart dad ...
I still swear to this day his engine was modified b/c I could never beat him in my GTO w/stock --- never ever should've ended that way for a goat ...
That creep never allowed anyone to look under his hood; I ever see it again I'll dive underneath it to confirm my suspicions ...
I hope I've answered your questions & given you something to think about ...
Get off the meditation mat or from behind the computer to go out there & live your life!