I Finally Did It! (I hope he will call?)

Originally Posted by twinkle

I think astralsuzy means you should delete this part since there is no reason to say it.

"If it''s something you would pursue, just know that I'm a private person and I respect you. So, anything that would ever happen between us would stay just that way, between us. And if not, I still respect you and I'll always respect you as a coworker and a friend. Either way, nothing has changed. I'll be working here for the rest of this month and maybe some of next month, at the longest, because I start school in March. Nothing has to be different from today on. ...So, I am interested in knowing what you think and how you feel about what I just told you, but you don't have to tell me now. You have my number and you know where to find me."

Remember, you want to know what he thinks right then and there. Don't prolong the wait. Ask him to tell him what he thinks right after you tell him.

I know what you're saying about putting him on the spot so I will have closure right then and there. But I also want to be considerate of him. I don't want to pressure him; that's overbearing in itself. I thought I would just let him know that I do care about what he thinks and how he feels but that there is no pressure (Rin was the one who suggested that I tell him there is no pressure, but apparently no one remembers that).

[twinkle]

If he needs time to think about it, he will say he needs time to think about it.

[twinkle]

If he needs time to think about it, he will say he needs time to think about it. You do not need to suggest it to him.

[Belle]

Originally Posted by Fire7

I know what you're saying about putting him on the spot so I will have closure right then and there. But I also want to be considerate of him. I don't want to pressure him; that's overbearing in itself. I thought I would just let him know that I do care about what he thinks and how he feels but that there is no pressure (Rin was the one who suggested that I tell him there is no pressure, but apparently no one remembers that).

The trouble is Fire7 (or one of the troubles) is you are saying no pressure - in a way that is hugely loaded with pressure as you are investing so much of yourself and time and thought and emotion in this one person. That will come across.

A one liner delivered "hey, I've enjoyed your company so far and would like to get to know you better, do you fancy doing x y z" is a much less intense and pressurised thing to say.

[astralsuzy]

Originally Posted by Belle

The trouble is Fire7 (or one of the troubles) is you are saying no pressure - in a way that is hugely loaded with pressure as you are investing so much of yourself and time and thought and emotion in this one person. That will come across.

A one liner delivered "hey, I've enjoyed your company so far and would like to get to know you better, do you fancy doing x y z" is a much less intense and pressurised thing to say.

I am sorry I was blunt. Take note from Belle. What she is saying sounds very true. Keep it short and simple as Belle suggested. She wrote down what to say so you do not need to worry about what to say. Forget everything else as it most probably will not work. Just say, what Belle said, "hey, I've enjoyed your company so far and would like to get to know you better, do you fancy doing x y z" is a much less intense and pressurised thing to say

I'm thinking of, as a way of planting a seed---so to speak, texting his phone and asking "So, have you figured it out?" And if he says "figured what out?" I'll just either not respond or say I texted the wrong number. And maybe even taking or leaving the "so" would make a difference?

What do you think?

[twinkle]

It has been long enough. I do not think you should beat around the bush anymore.

If you text him, you should write something direct like "Guess what? I like you."

Well, I just texted him "Goodnight/morning" and told him that I really enjoy his company. It was past 12:30 am so he's probably sleep this time of night, but at least I can rest easy now, since I figured out something to say/do that wasn't too abrupt but wasn't too ambiguous either. I'm sure no straight guy says this to another straight guy. So, I'll just wait to see how he acts come Monday. Now that I have planted a little seed, I guess I can now sit back for a minute and see how it grows, so to speak.

[Belle]

Fire7 - Does he know that it is you who sent the text?

If not - you should clarify that it was you who sent it so there is no game involved.

I hope he responds positively tho and well done for sending the text.

Originally Posted by Belle

Fire7 - Does he know that it is you who sent the text?

If not - you should clarify that it was you who sent it so there is no game involved.

I hope he responds positively tho and well done for sending the text.

He should know. He has my number saved

My text exactly: "Well, don't know what time you go to sleep. I just walk up few mins ago. But just want you yo know I really enjoy your company... Goodnight/morning" I had to text him back to correct the "just walk up" to "just woke up, I meant to say" lol...I've really got to start reviewing my texts before I send them. I think I was so nervous that I wasn't paying attention. But this guy in another thread I posted this in says this was the gayest thing he's ever heard of. So now I'm embarrassed about it. I could have at least put "bro" at the end up it to take some of the creepiness/intensity out of it. I was battling whether or not I should, thinking that "bro" might have changed the meaning of the text. ...I pay attention to every little detail.