"You Can't Always Get What You Want": intellect or character?

[baro-san]

As the Stones were saying: "you can't always get what you want" ...

So when you're choosing your mate, friends, companions, working place, what would you favor: better intellect, or better character? Where would you draw the line?

When I was younger I favored intellect, but experience made me change my mind.

I think that both, intellect and character, are combinations of mind and genetics, flavored with education, child rearing, cultural environment, but it seems that intellect is more genetics than character is.

[Yogeek]

I only ever go for nice people, work from there. Go with people who resonate with you.

[Renessme]

I'd of course want both but if I'll have to choose, I'll go for character anytime. I work for a field filled with supposed intellectuals, met several friends with high levels of education but as I have found out, as our intellect develops, so does our ego, and if unchecked, leads to a not so likeable character.

Intellect I believe may also be developed but character is not. Character to me is innate. So give me a person with a good sense of values, a personable character and I'll teach him how to develop his intellect.

[Nature Grows]

Isn't intellect apart of someone's character? like Sheldon from the big bang theory for example?

Originally Posted by baro-san

So when you're choosing your mate, friends, companions, working place, what would you favor: better intellect, or better character? Where would you draw the line?

I can answer this because i think i get what you are asking, and i would say character because i don't care if someone is intellectually smart, to quote Shania Twain "That don't impress ah me much"

[Clio_86]

I was just thinking of something similar, however, more so along the lines of intellect and character vs. attractiveness. I met someone who I find incredibly interesting, intellectually stimulating, who is super nice and loves animals... but who is not that attractive. I have been contemplating this connection the last few days... The more I think about it, the more willing I am to go for it (and the more attracted I am slowly becoming).

I dont think my early 20's self would have gone for it, but now that I am older and more mature, I am more willing to give it a go. Anyways, just my random musings for the evening.

[Raziel]

Baro-san - I would imagine that it all depends on you. The things that you notice about people, quirks & things that you admire. Things that they bring to your life & what you bring to theirs.

There are too many variables really but if for example you were a Mormon then ideally a nice Mormon girl would be something you would choose, working in that community would continue your spiritual growth & bring friends of similar interests. However the same Mormon may wish to challenge themselves & go into the world to see what else is out there..