Learning to overcome your Sign's 'flaws'

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Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Thank you for that feedback. That part on no boundaries and pleasing people and it not being reciprocated when you need it... that is exactly how I ended up being bullied for years on end. When I was in kindergarten -so 4 or 5 yrs old- my best friend got harassed by another girl and I rushed to my friend's aid. That girl quickly made herself scarce, but then she came back with some 6-8 other kids who then all started to harass me. No one helped me out. They were calling me names, spitting at me and so on. I was totally shocked and overwhelmed, and my friend stood there a few meters from me with some other kids, watching what was going on, but did nothing to help me.
So me helping my friend and standing up for her ended in me being and feeling totally stampeded. I changed that moment from a bright, lively and confident child into a scared and insecure kid at school and was bullied for 6 yrs on end...

I didn't know about Hitler or Saddam Hussein... good examples of dark Taurus...
THere often is a difference between genders from the same sign, isn't there.
From what you describe I can see myself in that arty woman. I paint, write, am creative, would love to sell my work too. But I think many would be creative as that is Venus as well, isn't it? Maybe this manifests more in female Taurus, since the feminine is more/easier connected with intuition and emotions?

Hi Fairycrystal,

I can relate to you and my heart goes out to you. That's the selfless part I had learned to keep in check. It would just go out to anyone who was near to me, without fully understanding whether the person I was appreciating was really worth it and if the person I would stand up for would ultimately value it. It must be the Venus that wants to cherish and appreciate others as well as itself. But well life has harsh surprises. And now I couldn't be bothered less, it's different now. So I know how it feels about the 'nurturing ' part of self and others. We need to match in emotional wavelengths with others too, and not just make supreme adjustments all the time.
To be very honest, every Taurus I have known till date and there have been quite a few had an artistic gift. Singing, music, art, writing. Something there to express emotionally. My Taurus friend from school, she sang in church choir, played the violin. She even joined a well known boy band banned and was the only female singer in the band. She was special ed major, and her time was spent helping children, strangers. She would drive people to places, sacrifice her time, her self for others without expectations.
So this is a common taurus trait. I so relate to you here, Taurus I have knwon is very giving, very selfless and devoted. It's a beautiful quality and I feel very few people are able to reciprocate that devotion of the bull. For the one's who operate from ego or lower emotions, they can react to it as control. But it's not always so.
I have never romanced a Taurus male, I don't feel they are the most romantic you know, I mean so far they haven't been so. I have seen Taurus male offer a lot of commitment to their spouses though. There will be no lack of material things, and they will treat their girls like a lady. They will not say I love you passionately, but they will offer a intense emotional gravity, that will say enough. But they are also traditional, they don't like bossy ladies. So that can be a problem. I don't like people to boss me either you know, so maybe given the controlling, traditional side of Taurus maybe I have never been fully drawn to one.

[FairyCrystal]

To be honest, there's few I am attracted too. I sometimes felt Taurus has very limited choice, but it's prolly just me.

Air signs don't work.
Earth signs don't appeal either, although I have been with a Virgo. Bad idea.
Water signs... some Cancers appeal, but they're too 'soft'. They cannot handle my strong personality. Never felt drawn to the other Water signs. Hang on, had a major crush on a Scorpio once. But Taurus-Scorpio is a lethal match, not something that can last. Great for a short-term fling, if anything more/longer one of them will not survive But mostly Scorpio and me do not work for even a short-term thing, although there always seems to be this odd volatile sexual energy, even when it's hate at first sight.

Oddly enough seem to click more with Fire signs? I've been with an Aries and Sag when in my teens. Now I'm with a Leo. Best match I ever had.

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Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

To be honest, there's few I am attracted too. I sometimes felt Taurus has very limited choice, but it's prolly just me.

Air signs don't work.
Earth signs don't appeal either, although I have been with a Virgo. Bad idea.
Water signs... some Cancers appeal, but they're too 'soft'. They cannot handle my strong personality. Never felt drawn to the other Water signs. Hang on, had a major crush on a Scorpio once. But Taurus-Scorpio is a lethal match, not something that can last. Great for a short-term fling, if anything more/longer one of them will not survive But mostly Scorpio and me do not work for even a short-term thing, although there always seems to be this odd volatile sexual energy, even when it's hate at first sight.

Oddly enough seem to click more with Fire signs? I've been with an Aries and Sag when in my teens. Now I'm with a Leo. Best match I ever had.

Yeah I feel the same. I feel like Taurus is 'introverted' you know and it does feel to have limited choice. It's aloof and withdrawn.
I have been noticing that fire signs don't feel bad to me. Sagittarius and Leo do appeal. Fire can scorch the surface. You know with leo they draw a lot of attention and they love it, and they will probably sometimes even flaunt it. One has got to play along. I don't have a flaunting nature, so that's the only difference there. I have trouble with Leo moon people, just too dramatic I feel and will take criticism too harshly. You know I have seen women with Leo moon can be extremely feminine but very volatile regardless. Even a compliment will be a perceived insult at times and well they like being in control. Otherwise Leo sun I feel is okay. A best friend for many years is a Leo sun.
You are right water signs can be soft, emotional moody. I am not too fond of bossy rough men you know and well Taurus and Scorpio are just full of it. Let's just hope these men have a hobby and it's not you lol, otherwise it can get uncomfortable.
I am not fond of either Taurus or Scorpio as like a romantic partner for reasons that it can get too controlling and then border onto abuse if it's not in check. I am not fond of extremes. I knew a scorpio guy from school. After a while I just started to experience loss of self in the sense, I think I was forgetting about my own self and who I am. The attention they give is so unflattering after a while and the mind games, I don't have the time and energy to keep up with it. I was surprised this guy knew things about me that I hadn't like told anyone. My internet profiles started to get hacked too and strange activity was happening even after there was a disconnect with this person. I don't like that much intensity , I think it's then taking a bit too far when it comes to having peace of mind. Both Taurus and Scorpio are known to stalk on the dark side, and they will do it like elephant. A taurus male I knew around few years back, the same obsessive trait. It feel far from romantic or passionate then to be honest. It's a bad feeling when that much control comes in picture. I need my space and freedom to be myself.
My mom is Aquarius and my grandmom is Leo and Aquarius moon. They just love their space and freedom and can be a little whimsical lol. They will love deeply Leo woman. I have seen that nature with my Leo female friend too, she loves but she will not make it known to you that she cares lol. She can be a bit selfish but when time comes to give, she will give so generously. I have learned to have my space from them. They have pride there and will not give it away just like that lol, and they have taught me that too to honor my ownself and demand space and time when I need it. I think Leo men are loving, humorous and so affectionate too.
That being said, Leo is way better match to a Taurus I feel. Atleast from my personal experience. There can be differences, but well if adjustments are made, there can be a lot of integrity in a relationship, atleast like Taurus female and Leo male can be good match. Pisces is a wonderful match. I never dated a Pisces, but both male and female Pisceans have given me good company over the years.

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@ Fairycrystal What traits do you have that you think are not Taurus in you. I have a Gemini moon. I can be quiet, but also very chatty at the same time. If I am close to someone, I will get into conversations with them about anything and everything, and it can go on endlessly lol. That's like a contradiction there. I remember in school once my teacher said " You need to open up, you are too quiet, learn to interact " and then my girlfriends chirped in saying " She talks a lot, she is not that quiet "And everyone smiled. I guess that is like a trait I have. This is like a contradiction. Reason I get along with Gemini to a certain extent but I feel I have better matches than Gemini. I am also drawn to good sense of humor, I don't like too serious people you know haha. If someone can make me laugh, I am drawn to that person or situation. I feel gemini can easily take a good joke to itself too I feel, if time and situation comes for it. Otherwise I think it's bored easily and can be fickle.

[FairyCrystal]

Sort of the same thing you are saying I think. I am Gemini rising and often feel GEmini is better suiting than Taurus.
I cannot fully identify with the inflexible and stubborn thing. The horribly jealous nature... yes, I can be jealous, but only when there's reason for it. And like what I mentioned in my OP, this sort of thing happens when I am feeling insecure. When I feel empowered I am not jealous at all.

And what you mention about being talkative while some feel you need to open up more and learn to interact... I am like that too.
I do get along with Gemini, but only up to a point. Usually we have so much in common, too much. And I've noticed many Gemini then get very competitive and like to boost their thing and self-esteem at my expense. I don't like that. I've actually been hurt that way quite a few times by Gemini. When I open up, I truly open up. I trust ppl until that is proven to be a mistake (again this Taurus peaceful, giving nature?)
So when ppl pull stunts like that after I've given them my trust, it hurts. (happened to me with a couple female Gemini friends). Since then I've learnt to keep them a bit at a distance, just to protect myself. As far as I've worked out -could be wrong- the loyalty of Gemini is not nearly as deep as Taurus loyalty. Maybe that is another 'flaw' of Taurus? To be so loyal and trusting that you yourself easily get hurt.

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Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Sort of the same thing you are saying I think. I am Gemini rising and often feel GEmini is better suiting than Taurus.
I cannot fully identify with the inflexible and stubborn thing. The horribly jealous nature... yes, I can be jealous, but only when there's reason for it. And like what I mentioned in my OP, this sort of thing happens when I am feeling insecure. When I feel empowered I am not jealous at all.

And what you mention about being talkative while some feel you need to open up more and learn to interact... I am like that too.
I do get along with Gemini, but only up to a point. Usually we have so much in common, too much. And I've noticed many Gemini then get very competitive and like to boost their thing and self-esteem at my expense. I don't like that. I've actually been hurt that way quite a few times by Gemini. When I open up, I truly open up. I trust ppl until that is proven to be a mistake (again this Taurus peaceful, giving nature?)
So when ppl pull stunts like that after I've given them my trust, it hurts. (happened to me with a couple female Gemini friends). Since then I've learnt to keep them a bit at a distance, just to protect myself. As far as I've worked out -could be wrong- the loyalty of Gemini is not nearly as deep as Taurus loyalty. Maybe that is another 'flaw' of Taurus? To be so loyal and trusting that you yourself easily get hurt.

Well sun is the conscious identity, and moon is the emotional mental identity. I think Taurus sun is more loyal than Gemini sun. That's their conscious identity.
The attitude we carry towards what happens in our lives, with others and events around us , also says a lot about us. We can chose to be vindictive, or we can chose to help others and let go of bitterness, because we have learnt our lesson. Taurus that way can be lenient when it's not ruling from the material/ physical only ( jealousy, anger, hate, unforgiveness, fear ), and it's not just the Taurus I think it's most of us. When we open our hearts, we operate from love and then the fear dissolves. Taurus being the ruler of the 'material' can also overcome the material when its spiritually open and it does. It finds it's peace in the world and harmony in all its exchanges. By opening it's divine channels it's purpose is to be at peace. It breaks the bounds of the 'material' because it has power to do so. Like having mastery over the element you belong to.
I truly love my sign a lot, and I see strength even in the traits that can be a weakness, because ultimately all weaknesses can be strengths if we learn from it.

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Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Sort of the same thing you are saying I think. I am Gemini rising and often feel GEmini is better suiting than Taurus.
I cannot fully identify with the inflexible and stubborn thing. The horribly jealous nature... yes, I can be jealous, but only when there's reason for it. And like what I mentioned in my OP, this sort of thing happens when I am feeling insecure. When I feel empowered I am not jealous at all.

And what you mention about being talkative while some feel you need to open up more and learn to interact... I am like that too.
I do get along with Gemini, but only up to a point. Usually we have so much in common, too much. And I've noticed many Gemini then get very competitive and like to boost their thing and self-esteem at my expense. I don't like that. I've actually been hurt that way quite a few times by Gemini. When I open up, I truly open up. I trust ppl until that is proven to be a mistake (again this Taurus peaceful, giving nature?)
So when ppl pull stunts like that after I've given them my trust, it hurts. (happened to me with a couple female Gemini friends). Since then I've learnt to keep them a bit at a distance, just to protect myself. As far as I've worked out -could be wrong- the loyalty of Gemini is not nearly as deep as Taurus loyalty. Maybe that is another 'flaw' of Taurus? To be so loyal and trusting that you yourself easily get hurt.

I think all perceived weaknesses of our signs are also strength because it is meant to give us strength make us learn the hard way even, and isn't anything that is incomplete ultimately like an illusion. So I think we can break free from most of our weaknesses.

[girlsearching]

To give another example about another sign (NOT to knock anyone, just the best example I can give as I've known a lot of Virgos and they all had this behaviour): Virgos tend to victimize themselves. I think maybe this is the Virgo lesson, to overcome that, to take responsibility for their own life and choices. Maybe one could say that since Virgo is about harvest, they cannot harvest their full potential until they take responsibility for their life.

This is the truth. I tend to feel sorry for myself and not believe in my capabilities and I have a negative view with my life. I most certainly didn't chose to be a Virgo (not that I completely dislike my star sign) I would have been born in February but I came out premature. I just have to believe in Myself and gain confidence .

[SaturninePluto]

I am Sun, Mercury, Venus Capricorn, with outer- Neptune, Uranus, Jupiter Sag, and Moon in Leo.

An earth/fire combination if I have ever seen one.

I have both Mercury, and Venus in Capricorn, as well as Moon in Leo square both Saturn and Pluto.

Needless to say I do feel when insecure the more negative traits of the Capricorn sign come out- or are more clearly visible, however there is a lot of depth involved with Pluto affecting the personal planets in such a way, and the traits themselves of Capricorn seem more noticeable with Saturn involved.

That is to say Anger, Depression, themselves are deeply felt- and intensified.

There it I feel, needs to find a better suitable outlet sometimes to properly channel such tough emotions. The miserly Qualities of Capricorn seem to step out more for me in certain instances.

The emotional depth of anger and depression needs to find a reliable outlet- like a constant so to say- so the results of said emotions do not become an explosion.

[Colorado]

I have so much Virgo in my chart, it’s ridiculous.

I think that we were born based on the planets energy, lessons we need to learn from that energy.

Example: I have a lot of Virgo on my chart, and I swear I have more nervous energy, and worry more than anyone I know. I have such high standards and ideals, that it causes me to have more nervous energy. Everything that isn’t done right, makes me sick with worry.

If a bill is late, the bathrooms aren’t clean, ect. I do find myself at home on my days off work, organizing the bathroom, kitchen, car, and my closets. Putting things away in neat boxes, and categories.

While others are out, going to parties, visiting friends, or museums....I’m at home organizing my friggn drawers.

I do like to work, and I am the same at work...organizing desk and drawers, lockers, ect. Stocking up on food, and making sure I have emergency bags and boxes.....as well as a drawer half full of medications....you know, Aleve, Ibuprofin, cough drops, Carmex, Zantac, cough syrup.....lol.

Something is seriously wrong with us😂😂😂😂