What is going on??!!

[OpenYourEyes]

If you've read any of my previous posts the past 2 1/2 years, you'll see that I've been dealing with a twin flame situation where I'm the chaser and my twin flame is the runner. I won't go into all of the bizarre synchronicity that have happened between us countless times, but I truly felt this guy was my twin flame because it seemed like all of the twin flame "signs" were the same things that we were experiencing. Well, over and over again, I have had times where I said to myself, "That's it! I'm done! I refuse to think of him again and I am moving on! I'm sick of waiting for him!" And every single time that I was very adamant that I was definitely finished, he would pop up out of nowhere again (after having been gone for long periods of time). And so I would always give in and give it another try. And it's STILL happening!

What am I supposed to make of all this? I don't want to think of this guy anymore. I just want to completely forget about him. I'm ready to leave him in the past and move on, but every time I try, he re-appears, and then I get weak and give in to wishful thinking and thinking there might still be hope. But I've had enough. How can I cut the tie? This is messing up my emotional well-being.

[lunapixie]

Maybe he shows up as a test to your resolve to let go of him. Honestly, though, I don’t know. My experience was different. My ex never showed up when I decided to let him go. But just reading what you wrote it appears that (on a 3D level) he is playing games with you. The minute he sees his control over you fading, he reappears in your life to make sure you are still available for him - but only long enough to distract you by throwing some bread crumbs your way without any real commitment on his part.

That is only a theory as I have no way of knowing any of this for sure as I don’t know either of you in person.

Originally Posted by OpenYourEyes

If you've read any of my previous posts the past 2 1/2 years, you'll see that I've been dealing with a twin flame situation where I'm the chaser and my twin flame is the runner. I won't go into all of the bizarre synchronicity that have happened between us countless times, but I truly felt this guy was my twin flame because it seemed like all of the twin flame "signs" were the same things that we were experiencing. Well, over and over again, I have had times where I said to myself, "That's it! I'm done! I refuse to think of him again and I am moving on! I'm sick of waiting for him!" And every single time that I was very adamant that I was definitely finished, he would pop up out of nowhere again (after having been gone for long periods of time). And so I would always give in and give it another try. And it's STILL happening!

What am I supposed to make of all this? I don't want to think of this guy anymore. I just want to completely forget about him. I'm ready to leave him in the past and move on, but every time I try, he re-appears, and then I get weak and give in to wishful thinking and thinking there might still be hope. But I've had enough. How can I cut the tie? This is messing up my emotional well-being.

Well, no one's perfect and once you push him off the pedestal you'll almost certainly find things you don't like about him. How about you reinforce these in your mind - I mean, really think deeply about his downside - so that when he does pop up your reflex is to "see his faults". I'll be the first to say that when we see faults in someone they reflect on us not the person, but I believe it's an entitlement in a relationship.

With unconditional love you accept what you perceive as "faults" because the whole is worth more than those faults. When you have to relate in a more earthly way like plan your lives together as a couple, twin flame or not, conditions and understandings come into it so the love is no longer unconditional. In this setting you're entitled to a decision whether to like someone or not, love them, can put up with their foibles and that. No earthly relationship is all a bed of roses.

Hope all is well, anyway.
(APologies if this sounds hurried. I just have to help a friend getting stuff to the recycling center)

[twinflamemale]

Originally Posted by OpenYourEyes

If you've read any of my previous posts the past 2 1/2 years, you'll see that I've been dealing with a twin flame situation where I'm the chaser and my twin flame is the runner. I won't go into all of the bizarre synchronicity that have happened between us countless times, but I truly felt this guy was my twin flame because it seemed like all of the twin flame "signs" were the same things that we were experiencing. Well, over and over again, I have had times where I said to myself, "That's it! I'm done! I refuse to think of him again and I am moving on! I'm sick of waiting for him!" And every single time that I was very adamant that I was definitely finished, he would pop up out of nowhere again (after having been gone for long periods of time). And so I would always give in and give it another try. And it's STILL happening!

What am I supposed to make of all this? I don't want to think of this guy anymore. I just want to completely forget about him. I'm ready to leave him in the past and move on, but every time I try, he re-appears, and then I get weak and give in to wishful thinking and thinking there might still be hope. But I've had enough. How can I cut the tie? This is messing up my emotional well-being.

Maybe try talking to him? I have the exact same issue LOL!