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Old 07-12-2012, 10:43 PM
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Why feel sad over a death

Why is it that you may or may not feel sadness over someones death?

I feel that i never get sad or upset when someone dies, i feel that i may come into contact with them another time. when i was younger, i never understood death, I feared it but never really understood why it was so. someone dying to me is like leaving on a vacation for awhile until i meet them again.

share your thoughts with me! : D


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Old 07-12-2012, 11:09 PM
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I get sad when somebody dies for purely selfish reasons. I will miss them. Even if we will meet again, which I am sure that we will, I still have to face the rest of my life without them, which may be a long, long time. When someone goes on holiday you know that you will see them in a week or two. My dad died 24 years ago and I may live for another 40 years. That's a long time without him.

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Old 08-12-2012, 12:11 AM
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Yes same here, I feel sad because I will miss them. Even though I know their Soul is OK, even though I can still contact them REALLY in love, and it's beautiful, there are times when I miss them. That is natural. But at the same time, I can often smile and feel joy for them too, and remember good things with a happy heart as time goes by.
The immediate loss of a loved one is a kind of shock to the system. We have to go with it naturally, and allow ourselves to feel those emotions.
After a while love may be sensed from them which definitely helps us understand, gradually lift out of grief, and be happier for them. They are safe and they are OK where they have gone.
They can be contacted in love, and in dreams very often. Those blessings are still available to us here to help us cope and be happier in our lives.
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Old 08-12-2012, 12:44 AM
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Because when someone is dead you can no longer talk with them, be with them or share an experience with them. Ofc that is sad.

The only reason I don't kill myself is because I do not want to transfer my suffering to my family: it would be selfish because I can imagine myself in their position - I would be extremely sad if some of my family members comitted suicide.
So I'll wait till my parents are dead and until my brother has a stable life - then I'll finish myself for sure since I'm incompatible with this place. To me, that is one of the few acceptable circumstances where it is "ok" to commit suicide: when the pain you transfer to your surroundings is minimal.
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Old 09-12-2012, 07:14 PM
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Because when someone is dead you can no longer talk with them, be with them or share an experience with them. Ofc that is sad.

The only reason I don't kill myself is because I do not want to transfer my suffering to my family: it would be selfish because I can imagine myself in their position - I would be extremely sad if some of my family members comitted suicide.
So I'll wait till my parents are dead and until my brother has a stable life - then I'll finish myself for sure since I'm incompatible with this place. To me, that is one of the few acceptable circumstances where it is "ok" to commit suicide: when the pain you transfer to your surroundings is minimal.

Hi, Nightshade. It's Raven Poet. You still a member? Last post I saw from you was in July - or maybe it's that I don't know how to navigate this website too well yet. Just checkin in.
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Old 08-12-2012, 01:18 AM
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Nightshade, I feel incompatible too. I would be a very sad person indeed if it were not for the love I have experienced-from a Soul who passed on. That love has reminded me of love itself, and many of those who tried to show me things in the past, people who did have some level of affection and care for me, but I couldn't see them at the time. Now I can.

I had a plan once that I would go up a mountain and succumb to hypothermia when I'd had enough (I have little in common with the way "this world" is run, and what happens here, and the average human desire levels)
I called it my "Plan B".
The love this Soul showed me has opened me up to a new way of living and feeling. Granted I still don't have anything in common with those things I mentioned, but now it doesn't matter as badly. I saw things much differently.
I'm not going to do "Plan B" now. I never will.

But yes, there are still times I will cry for missing the ones I love who passed on. Crying is OK. It washes the Heart.
Find your Sacred Space and live it -whatever it is.
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Old 08-12-2012, 02:24 AM
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I also have never felt sadness from this.
When my soulmate "died" it was as if I'd encountered a catastrophic earthquake-tsunami ....and my life was profoundly shaken, but not quite sad,
just very empty for some time.

I rarely ever communicate with family after moving away, as I still feel connected to them in my soul. And when we do meet, it seems nothing has really changed.


Occasionally I wonder if I'm emotionally damaged, in that I don't generally miss people or feel the need to communicate.
Yet I've always fallen in love very easily, so perhaps this isn't a pathological sign, but a sense of oneness, that's we remain connected in our souls.

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Old 29-12-2012, 03:42 PM
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I rarely ever communicate with family after moving away, as I still feel connected to them in my soul. And when we do meet, it seems nothing has really changed.

Occasionally I wonder if I'm emotionally damaged, in that I don't generally miss people or feel the need to communicate.
Yet I've always fallen in love very easily, so perhaps this isn't a pathological sign, but a sense of oneness, that's we remain connected in our souls.

Grandparents are the closest ones that have left me, and they lived 400 miles away, as my parents moved when I was a child. Perhaps that is why I've never really considered being detached from them. When I was a child I only really felt separated, in the energy of arriving and leaving. Distance didn't make me feel any different.

Now that I've started reading about soul groups, it perhaps makes a little more sense... reading about the emotions of those who feel for the ones left behind.

One of my Grandads had alzheimers. It really upset me when we visited him on the ward, as my parents said that he wasn't really there ~ whilst I could understand what they meant by that, it hurt when they said it in front of him. At the time I was just happy to smile and be there. He may not have been able to respond, but I still felt that he could hear me.
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Old 01-01-2013, 09:18 PM
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Now that I've started reading about soul groups, it perhaps makes a little more sense... reading about the emotions of those who feel for the ones left behind.

One of my Grandads had alzheimers. It really upset me when we visited him on the ward, as my parents said that he wasn't really there ~ whilst I could understand what they meant by that, it hurt when they said it in front of him. At the time I was just happy to smile and be there. He may not have been able to respond, but I still felt that he could hear me.

StrandedSnowMonkey, I totally relate. My Dad, who crossed over on October 31st (I find this date of his transition so intriguing!!!) was weakened by dementia the last 5 months of his physical life. I felt so powerless and angry at the Canadian medical system for chemically imprisoning my Dad - they drugged the daylights out of him so he wouldn't be so aggressive. I know it was for his own "safety" and that of the nurses - but I so wish our society could create a chemical-free and safe healthcare agency that did not rob even more of a person's mind ... Dad's mind was diminished by his disease and the drugs took away even more.

But! I ALWAYS KNEW my Dad's soul was "there" even if his physical mind was incapacitated. And yes, I believe that he could still hear us when we visited. In fact, the day before he transitioned, and he was pretty out of it, I told him it was okay for him to go ... we'd take care of Mom ... we wanted him to escape his misery and "go home" ... and the next day he did, peacefully and quietly (according to the nurse, who was really close to my Dad, and who was there with him during his final breath.)

And I also KNOW that my Dad and I still have a relationship, a connection. Only now it is on a different level, with him being in Spirit form and me still in human form.
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Old 04-01-2013, 10:00 AM
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Hi Raven Poet

October 31st ~ Samhain, Halloween, All Hallows Eve or Reformation Day. I understand how you feel. Now when someone tells me that they know best, I think... oh really!

I'm glad to hear that someone who cared was with him, when he went home

There was a split in the family on that side, when some decided to emigrate. My father has no interest in lost connections ~ it doesn't stop me from thinking about them. When I was younger I'd often dream of waking up with no-one else about... the start of an adventure to find others. Although they were alarming when they first started.


Many blessings to you!
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