you'll not get presented with "spiritual lessons" that you're not ready for. (imo)
my mind is doubtful that your dream experiences are telling you of a specific
physically incarnated person whom you are destined to meet up with.
i suggest that you go about your daily activities without holding out any kind
of expectations that the dream world will somehow meld with waking reality.
go ahead and dream big dreams, but don't let your waking life be a
disappointing second place -- enjoy awake time too.