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Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn
Does that sound good?
Does to me!!!
Got any helpful insights or hints as to how to forgive even the worst hurts and slights?
Ha, and then move right on into Love, Kindness, Compassion and Understanding?
This is the place!
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What a great set of 'responses'! What a great set of
people!!!!
Some things came to mind, which may or may not be on target in terms of the Q (i.e. how to 'forgive') that you raised, Miss H:
(1) Finding love and happiness, i.e. discovering ways to get to and then actually getting to a place/state where
you are
loving and
happy makes 'forgiveness'
unnecessary, to the point of being 'beside the point'
Same 'logic' as a 'rich' man or woman not 'needing' to collect 'owed' 'debts'.
Of course re-member-ing i.e. re-living past 'hurts' (i.e. 'debts') may reactivate such 'needs' even when one is whole/rich, the 'cure' then is to re-member that one
is really (now) whole/rich.
(2) The analogy of how dogs/cats/other animal that have been mistreated/abused 'recover' if and when they are 'rescued' by way of being adopted/befriended by loving/reliable/trustworthy 'hosts' may also pertain, as will the fact that such animals generally may be 'susceptible' to being emotionally 'triggered', in terms of remembering/reliving their 'wounded' state if and when they encounter a 'scary person' stimulus - their 'innocence' (naivete) may be forever 'gone' in such regards.
The world is
full of
unreliable/
untrustworthy/
not truly loving of others people, so one needs to 'take
care of oneself' by learning to recognize and
not trust/rely on such people and only 'open' oneself to 'letting one's guard down' with people who they scope out
as being reliable/trustworthy/loving folks.
It becomes easier and easier to have 'compassion', 'understanding', 'kindness' etc.
from a 'place' of richness/wholeness/happiness. One may then be
able to 'identify' with (like actors who get 'into' playing villainous 'roles') and so 'love' others despite what may be thought of as their 'evil' motives. But this takes the kind of detachment that comes from 'seeing'
everything that goes on in this world as
just being a 'play' or a 'movie' - and so is
not suitable for anyone who is deeply engaged with
wanting, ikn a feeling way, the 'world' to be a 'better' place, one
without so much 'hurt'/'betrayal' etc.
'Seeing' the hurt/betrayal etc
as actually (really)
serving to stimulate
positive soul-growth as clearly evident in the case of the folks who have shared details pertaining to their souls' journeys - that is, 'seeing' hurt/betrayal etc. it
as actually being
good for Life (in the case of those who 'rise' to the 'challenge', that is) can also be helpful. The issue of 'forgiveness' then becomes functionally moot as well.
It takes a 'tough' kind of personality configuration to 'relish' the fact that Spirit ultimately not only 'survives' but ultimately 'grows'
stronger and becomes more
adept as a result of experiencing relationship-related mishaps and hardships though. In your case,
assuming you still have some degree of 'need' in this regard sweet and vulnerable-sounding Miss H, I would suggest the path of
finding and then personally
associating with reliable/trustworthy/loving souls as you are doing here - just maybe more personally/intimately so.
I'm a rough and tumble kind of fella as you probably have realized from my posts, but I can be quite reliable/trustworthy/loving in relation to as well very much enjoy relating to high moral/spiritual quality folks such as yourself - so, if you wish the explore possibilities, you are welcome to PM me. I have had and continue to have several very
salutary (for myself
as well!) video/phone relationships in this regard.
I think there are others here (who have 'shared' in this thread) who could/would also serve and welcome engaging in the same process/purpose. It certainly wouldn't hurt for you to pick one or two to experiment with along these lines. It is
most important, if you choose to do so, that you pick out the one(s) you 'sense' have the best chance of being healing/wholesome and life-celebratory for
you.
If any or all of the above is
not relevant to your personal situation/condition, please forgive
my inappropriate in
that case presumptiveness and just relate to what I have said as an intellectual exercise stemming from the OP.