Shut my heart. How can I re-open it?

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Hi,

Now I don't feel love, empathy, and it's like as if I were blind in a sense. I am emotionally, because originally love is central in my life and I'm normally empathic to an extent that I have the tendency to even take on others' negative emotions and baggage.

If you happen to know strong/intense heart-openers, could you, please, share with me what they are? Thank you.

[TheGlow]

So what happened did you get hurt? Usually that is what causes it.

I find if I can go back and feel the love I had for someone that hurt me and accept I still love them despite their actions the heart opens again.
Doesn’t mean things stay as they were just means you stay loving.

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by TheGlow

So what happened did you get hurt? Usually that is what causes it.

I find if I can go back and feel the love I had for someone that hurt me and accept I still love them despite their actions the heart opens again.
Doesn’t mean things stay as they were just means you stay loving.

I agree with this.
I also have a problem with opening my heart, have had so since my breakup almost 2 years ago. It's not always shut, it's good to also acknowledge that.
It just doesn't stay as open as it used to.
So in a way what was done to me, what I allowed to be done to me, is still bothering me to some extent. And yes, it sometimes is annoying cos I'm also very sensitive and used to feeling more easily where now things often feel dull. Less colourful.
Like TheGlow says, a matter of working on your pain so you can come to forgiving, mostly forgiving yourself.
Don't know about you of course, but for me, much has to do with me not trusting myself anymore, or being angry with myself for allowing what happened yet again for the umpteenth time in my life. Thinking "will I ever learn?" and not believing in that anymore.
Being afraid that if I open up, the same thing will happen again, cos my middle name apparently is "stupid".

So find out what is behind it so you can then more effectively do something about that. And that finding out is a feeling-thing. You got to 'feel around' until you get to the thing that hurts, angers you, makes you cry and so on. Then you know you hit the mark.

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Hi,

Yes, TheGlow, I was hurt, a combo of past hurt triggered plus a new one. Although I know I've attracted them with my inner "landscape". Your advice is helpful, thank you!

FairyCrystal, I find your insights enlightening, thank you so much!

[linen53]

Learn to cry again. It will be a very emotional experience. All that hurt you have been harboring and not expressing will come out in one lump sum. But beyond that you will have a open though tender heart again.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by linen53

Learn to cry again.

I would say 3 BIG tear jerker movies....Schindler's List is just one!

[linen53]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

I would say 3 BIG tear jerker movies....Schindler's List is just one!

Lol though I don't agree with your tactics, Miss Hepburn, I will say the only movie that I have watched in recent memory that brought buckets of tears was Taking Chance starring Kevin Bacon. I cried like a baby.

[NoOne]

Well, it's hard. I also struggle with opening up my heart sometimes.

My advice is to start small and simple. Perhaps, with flowers, trees, animals, that kind of thing. Feel the connection and feel the love flowing through you. It is an energy and vibration, it will flow like an electric current, if you let it. Animals are the easiest to love, because they do so unconditionally. Then you can move on to children, if you have any in your life, or perhaps you can "borrow" some from friends and family. I dote on my niece and nephew.

Then you can move on to adults you actually like and extend your love towards them, do and say loving and kind things to them every day. The hardest part is loving people you hate or that have hurt you in the past. That is what is most likely to close your heart down. If you do it gradually, you might even learn to love and forgive even those that don't deserve it. If you can do that, you become an expression of divine love, which is unconditional and infinite.

[Uma]

Originally Posted by NoOne

Well, it's hard. I also struggle with opening up my heart sometimes.

My advice is to start small and simple. Perhaps, with flowers, trees, animals, that kind of thing. Feel the connection and feel the love flowing through you. It is an energy and vibration, it will flow like an electric current, if you let it. Animals are the easiest to love, because they do so unconditionally. Then you can move on to children, if you have any in your life, or perhaps you can "borrow" some from friends and family. I dote on my niece and nephew.

Then you can move on to adults you actually like and extend your love towards them, do and say loving and kind things to them every day. The hardest part is loving people you hate or that have hurt you in the past. That is what is most likely to close your heart down. If you do it gradually, you might even learn to love and forgive even those that don't deserve it. If you can do that, you become an expression of divine love, which is unconditional and infinite.

I do this too! Works for me

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Originally Posted by linen53

Learn to cry again. It will be a very emotional experience. All that hurt you have been harboring and not expressing will come out in one lump sum. But beyond that you will have a open though tender heart again.

Linen, I hope you are right. With this disconnection, this emotional "illiteracy" I'm seriously hurting already the feelings of those most important to me. Thanks for the advice!

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

I would say 3 BIG tear jerker movies....Schindler's List is just one!

Great idea, Miss Hepburn, thanks.

Originally Posted by NoOne

Well, it's hard. I also struggle with opening up my heart sometimes.

My advice is to start small and simple. Perhaps, with flowers, trees, animals, that kind of thing. Feel the connection and feel the love flowing through you. It is an energy and vibration, it will flow like an electric current, if you let it. Animals are the easiest to love, because they do so unconditionally. Then you can move on to children, if you have any in your life, or perhaps you can "borrow" some from friends and family. I dote on my niece and nephew.

Then you can move on to adults you actually like and extend your love towards them, do and say loving and kind things to them every day. The hardest part is loving people you hate or that have hurt you in the past. That is what is most likely to close your heart down. If you do it gradually, you might even learn to love and forgive even those that don't deserve it. If you can do that, you become an expression of divine love, which is unconditional and infinite.

NoOne, a current has run through me 2 or 3 times, although for the moment, it evaded the heart chakra. I appreciate your advice. Thank you.

Originally Posted by Uma

I do this too! Works for me

Uma, thanks for sharing!