How to become a warmer person

#1 25-06-2013, 10:08 PM

I am a person who is able to love in a general sense but I am not very loving with people in a one on one situation. You could probably describe me as generally cold most of the time. I am perfectly happy being alone, and I usually don't get lonely. Often when people who really care about me want to get closer, I find almost without meaning to pushing them away. Loving me is like loving an ice cube..

Having said that. I don't believe I have any kind of psychological history that would make me this way. It could just be the way I am in general. On the other hand I really want to become a warmer softer person to be with. As I said before I am very loving and compassionate but the interpersonal love is my worst skill. For the record I am an Aqua/Gemini so my chart is almost completely accurate.

Can I be taught to be a warmer kinder softer, or is it just something you have to be born with? Maybe I'll never be a teddy bear, but I could be a pillow.

psychoslice · #2 26-06-2013, 12:56 AM

You sort of contradict yourself by saying that you are very loving and compassionate, and at the same time you want to be more kind, if you are truly loving and compassionate, then don't worry, you don't have to like everyone to be compassionate, its seeing everyone as yourself, that is One in Consciousness. Not wanting to be with others doesn't mean you don't like them, it just mean you like being on your own more, and I am also like that, just don't feel guilty about it, you don't have to live up to anyone's or societies expectations.

Silver · #3 26-06-2013, 01:01 AM

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Can I be taught to be a warmer kinder softer, or is it just something you have to be born with? Maybe I'll never be a teddy bear, but I could be a pillow.

Hi Tera. That's cute^ ^ ^

I think that the way you want to be will probably happen with time because a lot of people usually mellow with age and experience in life - and also learning over the years to accept who you are.

#4 26-06-2013, 01:26 AM

A pillow that I can dream on?

#5 23-07-2013, 11:02 PM

Thank you guys for your responses. I have been offline for a while so I apologize for responding so late.

Psychoslice,

Good point. I guess to clarify I am compassionate in some situations but maybe not so much in other situations. And also I think it's just that being hurt makes me a little more guarded.

Silvergirl,

That is true. A lot of people said the same thing. I'll definitely continue to work on myself.

Mayflow,

That's cute.

I am also putting it out to the Universe that I will become a warmer person.

#6 23-07-2013, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Tera's_Party

Thank you guys for your responses. I have been offline for a while so I apologize for responding so late.

Psychoslice,

Good point. I guess to clarify I am compassionate in some situations but maybe not so much in other situations. And also I think it's just that being hurt makes me a little more guarded.

Silvergirl,

That is true. A lot of people said the same thing. I'll definitely continue to work on myself.

Mayflow,

That's cute.

I am also putting it out to the Universe that I will become a warmer person.

Well, I don't know about warm, but you do seem pleasant and sweet enough as you are to me. Freedom of mind and independence of Spirit is the warmest and kindest gift I think that can be given. If I see this in someone, I feel lightened in Spirit.

#7 24-07-2013, 04:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Mayflow

Well, I don't know about warm, but you do seem pleasant and sweet enough as you are to me. Freedom of mind and independence of Spirit is the warmest and kindest gift I think that can be given. If I see this in someone, I feel lightened in Spirit.

Thank you Mayflow. That is one of the sweetest compliments.

I totally appreciate your perspective also.