Mother close, father not, why?

[Belle]

Wandering Star that is a beautiful story and good for you for having such a lovely forgiving heart.

With my dad, it was slightly different. There were two issues at stake, one which I was aware of and I forgave him before he died - we had known each other in a past life, there had been deep grief in this past life as he was my father then, I died when young. His higher had been expecting to see me ... and he didn't recognise me when I was born cos I was female not male. I find that story so utterly tragic that we spent 40 odd yeares not knowing each other and how devastated he must have been, I wept when I heard it for him.

What I hadn't known was that he gave me a patch on my heart to prevent me being as fully loving, strong and powerful - adn all sorts of things. He had also been bullied and he handed this mantle to me because he felt so disappointed and let down that I wasn't who he expected.

I believe when he died, he did recognise me and was so present as he just wanted to stick around "his son" (I'm all girl, but he finally recognised me as the son from his former life). He could see that I knew him and that there was no recrimination. But the second issue, that was more subtle and only with an expert healer did things unravel.

Incidentally, when working through the issue of him not recognising me, it took quite a while for me to work it through to forgiving him and Wandering Star I know exactly what you mean by that shift - it is an Eureka moment and I think it allowed him to make his move to the next realm. (I think there were other factors as well - it's not all about me - but it was a key release for him).

Wandering Star I also agree that they want you to forgive them, to release a toxin in your heart.

Wandering Star and Belle--Those are both beautiful stories.

Wandering Star--My father died of cancer too, a long slow painful death, and our conversation on his death bed was very similar. It took longer for me to let go of my hurt and anger toward my mother, but after my own kids had grown it was like a little lightbulb came on and I saw how she suffered and I could let it go. It was not long after that that I began to sometimes sense her presence.

It's too bad we have such a taboo on talking about death in this culture. People need to talk about it, face it, share their stories. It's so important. It matters.

My theory regarding your father is that perhaps you stopped feeling his presence in part because you found it traumatic after his passing. As for your mother, if you feel her around you, maybe she is just trying to atone for how bad your relationship was while she was alive. Maybe she feels like you wouldn't be open to mending it so she instead chooses to be a reassuring presence instead.

It is a possibility your father reincarnated and no one can really tell you for certain where he went. Sometimes spirits choose to reincarnate far from where they exited their last lifetime.

I know I have recently had different connections with people who have passed but are not related to me. And after these experiences I feel that the spirits can travel back and forth as they please. And i feel that a lot of their going back and forth is about what they feel they need to accomplish here on earth. So it is possible that your father finished what he had to do, and your mother still feels that she has to finish something. And i realize by putting it this way, makes them sound restless. But thats not what I mean at all. I believe it to be natural and not restless.

My father is successful person, I love my father but We have not close relationship. Our thinking don't match with each other, we have no friendship in our relation. My mom is close to me and I talk and share my problems with mom. May God give my parents healthy life.