"don't judge"- really?!?

[Silver]

Originally Posted by Amalthya

I believe there is a difference between "judging" and "noticing". To notice something about someone is to become aware of that trait, aspect, condition, but to judge it would be to deem it good or bad. I believe we can notice things about other people and the world around us without labeling it with a connotation that comes from the emotional part of ourselves.

But I agree there is a lot of hypocrisy in religious sects that are adamant about not judging others yet do so on a regular basis.

Right. That's simply a judgment call.

***and Aladdin~stop playin' around!

[Lazarus72]

Originally Posted by aladdin

wow. im judging right now that basically no one here is right. cool...

Ever hear of an oxymoron..??

[7luminaries]

I think the illusion of impartiality or neutrality is often as dangerous as the illusion of distance and superiority.

Impartiality is a goal to strive for in the sense of equanimity, or as buddhists say, in being in the state where loving everyone in the universe equally is possible.

However impartiality in the sense of detachment from the world is not the ideal way for most...and the buddhist term detachment is largely misunderstood in translation.

A better way to say it is, the buddhist goal is to be equally "attached" to everyone and everything in existence.

Needless to say, loving everyone equally may be the experience of Buddha or Mother Theresa...but it is not the normal human experience...and it exists as an ideal model...but not the only ideal model.

Our attachments ground us and allow us to realise the divine in the ordinary, the material. And realise that it too is miraculous. It too is a worthy path...the path of the secular, the householder, the "common man/woman". We too can "realise God/One". We can extend the rights of humanity (to exist, to be recognised, to be treated with compassion) to everyone "from the ground up" (via empathy)without cutting attachments. Without claiming impartiality or neutrality or detachment (in the usual sense).

Better IMO to honestly own our judgment, our perspective, our decisions...

to strive to be as fair and nonbiased as possible toward others, but also to stand for our beliefs whatever those may be, and take responsibility...

and work toward the good to the best of our ability...

Judgment is a core part of being human. Whether we use it for the good or not is up to us.

Cheers,
7L

Originally Posted by 7luminaries

Needless to say, loving everyone equally may be the experience of Buddha or Mother Theresa...but it is not the normal human experience...and it exists as an ideal model...but not the only ideal model.

Our attachments ground us and allow us to realise the divine in the ordinary, the material. And realise that it too is miraculous. It too is a worthy path...the path of the secular, the householder, the "common man/woman". We too can "realise God/One". We can extend the rights of humanity (to exist, to be recognized, to be treated with compassion) to everyone "from the ground up" (via empathy)without cutting attachments. Without claiming impartiality or neutrality or detachment (in the usual sense).

Better IMO to honestly own our judgment, our perspective, our decisions...

to strive to be as fair and nonbiased as possible toward others, but also to stand for our beliefs whatever those may be, and take responsibility...

and work toward the good to the best of our ability...

Judgment is a core part of being human. Whether we use it for the good or not is up to us.

Cheers,
7L

yeah, simple just like that.