Too good to be true?

[Chrysalis]

Originally Posted by kindheart

Yes I realize I can change the outcome. But what I mean is what if he's as good as I could ever get? Is it too much to ask for someone with similar qualities, but for whom there will also be physical and romantic attraction? So far, in my life, I've never found a partner who was interested in me and who could provide me with both my needs for kindness/loyalty/respect/care/love AND physical/romantic attraction. It's usually one or the other and I don't want to have to settle for just one or the other... but I also don't wanna be alone forever

This is certainly a sticky situation. In my younger years, I didn't meet the one right for me so I settled to be a happy single over a miserable marriage. Later in life, I met the one and our marriage is good, stable and happy. We all deserve to be in a happy marriage. When I was single, I used the time to figure out a few things in my life...find out who I was, what I really wanted out of life (as examples). I think if I'd been married then, I would've been focused on what mattered externally as opposed to what matters internally. The downside of marrying late in life means that most likely one won't have children which suited me because I didn't want children.

Perhaps another reading from a different person might provide a different insight to your situation.

[dream jo]

yep i get it

[kindheart]

Been a while since I posted this... Ex was still trying to get back with me, until very recently. He kept saying I was the only one for him, that he realized what he had lost and that he would turn his life around for me and treat me right, like he should have had, said he wanted his little family back together. I almost took him back, I do still love him. But he broke my heart and trust again. I'm not sure he meant any of it. I'm so frustrated and heartbroken...