Not coming together anymore this life

[ssdm1]

Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Thank you all. I wasn't looking for advice though. And like I said, I've had a whole year of healing and moving on, so I'm not wallowing in pain.
From what I've noticed in my years online on fora, I'm not like most people who don't make a recovery after a breakup, but continue to stay in their pain, can't let go and move on. I'm not like that, not even with a TF breakup.
I was just wondering if there were people in the same situation.

Let me add "Without being all melodramatic about it" hihi. I guess what it comes down to is, "with the ability to heal, let go, move on, and be happy again."

I hadn't expected the question to be so difficult, but thanks everyone for taking the time respond anyway. If my story & question help others to work through theirs, that's good.

In answer to your question, Yes.

It was decades ago, we were young and had no idea about twin flames, but when we went our own ways, I did move on from him. I got rid of most momentos (which I now regret), pictures, my diary. I concentrated on college, career, new friends. I moved on and was happy. I dated, had relationships. I'd have dreams of him throughout the years and would think of him for a day or two, but then be ok. I never, ever dreamed I'd ever see him again.

Until he came back in my life 3 years ago.

So yes we can move on, live our lives, be happy....but if they are our twin flame there is always that chance they may come back if destined to.

Good to hear you're doing well FairyCrystal.

[Akira]

Originally Posted by ssdm1

In answer to your question, Yes.

It was decades ago, we were young and had no idea about twin flames, but when we went our own ways, I did move on from him. I got rid of most momentos (which I now regret), pictures, my diary. I concentrated on college, career, new friends. I moved on and was happy. I dated, had relationships. I'd have dreams of him throughout the years and would think of him for a day or two, but then be ok. I never, ever dreamed I'd ever see him again.

Until he came back in my life 3 years ago.

So yes we can move on, live our lives, be happy....but if they are our twin flame there is always that chance they may come back if destined to.

Good to hear you're doing well FairyCrystal.

Oh man, I thought that I was just going to read this comment, but I can't believe what you have said in paragraph one.

The part that I have highlighted reminds me of me, I got rid of everything - yup diaries, things he'd given me etc etc.

Of course it was the right thing to do at the time, however very glad to hear that I am not the only one. Do wonder sometimes what I would gleen if I had those diaries.

[doordie]

I will still speak my mind. although some people might have said things more eloquently. And it's not to answer your question, but actually to ask you one in return, the the question is at the end of this. Things just gotta get said here, no holds barred, although quite a few people prefer to hide behind big phrases, spiritual terms, and other mantra, that for the most part only serve the ego and ego alone. Let's begin with the term Twin Flame. I agree for the most part with one of the previous posters that labels as such tend to be too restrictive which in turn washes down the whole spirituality angle. We are supposed to be open minded and not hide behind the labels. However, throughout the history people use labels to understand each other. We assign specific terms to things so we know exactly what we are talking about. And this brings me to my next point.

What are twin flames? Why are we using term "twin" here? People seem to forget, when labeling somebody their TF, that the defining characteristic of this connection is mirroring! Do you recognize yourself in him? Do you make similar core decisions in life? Would you have dated somebody, then "parallel-dated" another guy, and left the first guy for the second guy? Would this kind of relationship dynamic be a part of who you are or would your entire soul protest it? And when you are so deeply connected to somebody, when the love is so overwhelming, do you really need to go out there and find another?

When talking about TF connections, quite a few people are talking about shared consciousness, be that the result of the proverbial soul-split or some other soul-based reason. They can physically feel each other's energy, and that is no joke and not a romanticized concept of day-dreaming about somebody to the point of "feeling" their presence. Energy is very palpable, and you would not mistake it for anything. Same with the magnetic pull, and no, it's not just "oh, I'm drawn to him for some reason". No, the pull is felt on the physical level and it's very real.

I have not seen in any of your posts anything regarding telepathy, energy, mirroring, etc. Just the fact that you think you are a twin flame, and was actually in a relationship with him, unlike some people who were not. How does twin flame phenomenon manifests itself in your life other than you still having feelings for him?

. I am not being judgmental, or mean or disrespectful. I am not alluding to the fact that the guy never had feelings for you. I am just trying to understand why somebody would assign term Twin Flame to their relationship without actual,...ahem...merit so to speak. Not that the fact that he is not your twin flame would reduce your feelings for him, or your connection. I say connection because we all form valuable connections throughout life, sometimes they are purely based on mutual chemistry, some are intellectual, some are spiritual even. But a Twin Flame? Do you believe deep inside that if he truly felt the overwhelming love for you he would so easily have cheated on you and then subsequently left you for another woman?


I really don't want to put a damper on people's emotions here, but this needed to have been said for a long time and would apply to maybe 95% of posters here. And I understand there are many ways we prefer to look at things. But one must actually take facts as they are, must one not?

[Ldlf16]

I don't know her details, but I think some posters don't post all details just to prove something. Absence of them does not mean there aren't remarkable aspects to the situation or mutuality or long durations of time involved.

Anyway, yes, whatever it was that was weird and shared, feels like a sudden case closed to me as far as the future goes anyway. No residual regret at present. Even though I usually regret everything. I wouldn't say I don't care, but all the hope and longing and also anger are noticeably absent, very suddenly. I've never felt that about it before. Maybe karma contracts are a real thing and come to completion. I have no idea. Neither a good nor a bad ending for me- just neutral. Not something I thought possible. Even if something changed back for me with my feelings, I'd never felt this removed from it before. I do think other people can help you heal in surprising ways, or maybe healing comes through them. I was unable alone to do it. I was struggling and very suddenly, felt able to move on emotionally when I'd had enough, and mean it.

[happyhaunts03]

Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Not entirely certain what you're trying to say, seems a lot of jumping to conclusions, but I could be wrong. Also not clear if you're speaking general or not.
As for me, just interested whether there's more TFs like me. Which is having been together, not together anymore, not coming together anymore this lifetime, being okay with that, not in touch (and not wanting that either), but still having to deal with ongoing feelings and the connection regardless as you move on with your life.

This would probably be similar to me and my experience with TF. Unless paths change drastically, we won't meet up again in order to "be together" in a physical sense. We've both moved on, married other people, and had children. The connection is there. It always will be, though sometimes we feel it more than other times. Our love for each other is different than romantic. Sometimes it feels more romantic only because of the energies, but we're apart and likely to remain apart. I can't say we don't want to be in touch because on some level we both do, but it's not something either of us is actively seeking out. I wouldn't say we'll never be together though...just not while we're living the current timeline/lifetime.

[frenchbread]

Originally Posted by happyhaunts03

This would probably be similar to me and my experience with TF. Unless paths change drastically, we won't meet up again in order to "be together" in a physical sense. We've both moved on, married other people, and had children. The connection is there. It always will be, though sometimes we feel it more than other times. Our love for each other is different than romantic. Sometimes it feels more romantic only because of the energies, but we're apart and likely to remain apart. I can't say we don't want to be in touch because on some level we both do, but it's not something either of us is actively seeking out. I wouldn't say we'll never be together though...just not while we're living the current timeline/lifetime.

Yes, I would say it’s the same for my situation.

[ssdm1]

Originally Posted by Akira

Oh man, I thought that I was just going to read this comment, but I can't believe what you have said in paragraph one.

The part that I have highlighted reminds me of me, I got rid of everything - yup diaries, things he'd given me etc etc.

Of course it was the right thing to do at the time, however very glad to hear that I am not the only one. Do wonder sometimes what I would gleen if I had those diaries.

I do wish I had those diaries, there are some things I'd like to look up, lol. I also wish I had some of the photos.

I talked to him this weekend and was surprised to hear him say he's kept stuff from our past, like concert ticket stubs.

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by happyhaunts03

This would probably be similar to me and my experience with TF. Unless paths change drastically, we won't meet up again in order to "be together" in a physical sense. We've both moved on, married other people, and had children. The connection is there. It always will be, though sometimes we feel it more than other times. Our love for each other is different than romantic. Sometimes it feels more romantic only because of the energies, but we're apart and likely to remain apart. I can't say we don't want to be in touch because on some level we both do, but it's not something either of us is actively seeking out. I wouldn't say we'll never be together though...just not while we're living the current timeline/lifetime.

Thank you for your reply!
And yes, exactly the same with being in touch. The longing is there because in truth, I've never been able to relate to someone so well. The understanding is instant. The level of development and interests are very similar or the same, so it was always so easy to communicate, on very deep levels too. If I was stuck with something considering my coaching projects, he knew right away what I needed. He could capture it in one word or one sentence, often leaving me flabbergasted, hihi.
And hell, do I miss that level of communication and understanding at times!
The last time we were in touch was after he'd been very ill, up to the point it was a miracle he is still here. One of the reasons he sought contact (there was a specific reason that I'm not sharing).
He was still very much on the mend, couldn't bear visitors or conversations for longer than 10 minutes as they totally wore him out. Yet, we were on the phone for 2 hours! Even when healthy he isn't on the phone for that long, not with anyone, only with me. Time just seems to stand still when we are in touch, in sync.

Anyhow, thank you for your feedback. Good to hear I'm not the only one. Really does me good!! That's what I was looking for, needed to know, hihi. For some reason it's comforting, so thank you!

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by frenchbread

Yes, I would say it’s the same for my situation.

Thank you!

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by Ldlf16

I don't know her details, but I think some posters don't post all details just to prove something. Absence of them does not mean there aren't remarkable aspects to the situation or mutuality or long durations of time involved.

Anyway, yes, whatever it was that was weird and shared, feels like a sudden case closed to me as far as the future goes anyway. No residual regret at present. Even though I usually regret everything. I wouldn't say I don't care, but all the hope and longing and also anger are noticeably absent, very suddenly. I've never felt that about it before. Maybe karma contracts are a real thing and come to completion. I have no idea. Neither a good nor a bad ending for me- just neutral. Not something I thought possible. Even if something changed back for me with my feelings, I'd never felt this removed from it before. I do think other people can help you heal in surprising ways, or maybe healing comes through them. I was unable alone to do it. I was struggling and very suddenly, felt able to move on emotionally when I'd had enough, and mean it.

Thank you!
And like you say, indeed not sharing all details, certainly not to prove anything.