Dear Abby pretend questions

[Pandora.]

I've been racking my brains trying to think of ways to practise which would be fun and helpful in learning the meaning and combination of cards generally.

I've come up with the idea of having a "Dear Abby" column. A totally fictitious question is asked in the vein of a pretend person writing for help with a personal problem.

Then anyone who feels inclined can do a reading based on the fictitious question.

I thought it would be interesting to see what different advice people give, based on the cards they draw.

It's entirely up to the reader as to what spread they use, whether it's one card, two or more cards, a set spread they want to experiment with etc.

So I'll kick it off with a pretend letter.

"Dear Abby,

I've been in a relationship for the past two years with a wonderful girl, but I've recently found out that she's been sleeping around with other men behind my back.

I'm absolutely devastated and don't know whether to stay in the relationship and try to work it out, or to leave her.

What should I do?

Yours, broken heart."

Dear broken heart,

I'm sorry to hear that things have taken a turn for the worst in your relationship and hope this spread will help to throw some light on your situation.

The first card I drew was the Lovers reversed, which highlights the unhappy situation you're now in, due to your girlfriend's infidelity. The cause of the problem is the Queen of Cups, who seems to be the woman your boyfriend is now besotted with and has sadly chosen to seek comfort from, rather than yourself.

The Ace of Cups shows what you have forgotten as far as the initial magic in your relationship, which highlights the initial excitement and headiness of the love when you first met. The 4 of Cups shows your feelings at this time, you seem to be focused on your relationship which is clearly not making you happy, yet you seem to be ignoring any possible opportunity to improve the situation by closing yourself off.

The future potential of the relationship is represented by the reversed King of Wands and the World reversed. These cards seem to indicate that your relationship will indeed end prematurely. A lack of confidence in yourself and your ability to sustain this relationship will make it very difficult for you to get past the infidelity of your girlfriend, leaving you feeling betrayed and angry.

The advice offered was the Wheel of Fortune and the Page of Pentacles, indicating that although this relationship may end, there is the promise of a new, brighter future. The wheel is forever turning, it is only a matter of time when it will turn in your favour once again.

Although you are understandably devastated, be assured that there is hope for a better future. The cards seem to indicate that you would indeed be better off to end your relationship, as there will be something better and more worthwhile in the future."

This was a quick pretend reading, but hopefully it gives you an idea of what I mean. I think it's good in the sense that there's no pressure, as you're not reading for a real person who is invested in the outcome and it helps understanding the cards.

So any takers?

I'll be interested to see what other takes come up.

[Pandora.]

No-one wants to play with me ...

Oh well, I'll play by myself



"Dear Broken Heart,

I chose a simple past, present and future spread, with a card of advice for you to give some insight into your dilemma.

I can see that in the past your girlfriend may have felt bored and restless in the relationship, causing her to want to test the waters and move onto something more satisfying and exciting for her. As difficult and sad this is for you to accept, the future shows exciting and wonderful opportunities opening up for you. There will be an opportunity for you to learn from this experience and move forward in a far more positive direction.

The advice card confirms that a new beginning will present itself to you if you are able to move forward and embrace change."

Ah, I replied earlier, or tried to (constantly getting 'the server is too busy message') and lost my entire post again!!!! so went to play elsewhere

[Clover]

Lol I am more free on the weekends to play, looks like an interesting game though! I feel bad I don't always make it back to comment on a lot of posts but I try.

Ugh, this server I swear. Just hoping we get the upgrade soon, it's really driving traffic away. We don't own the sight, the owners need to give us access, we are literately waiting on them to hand over to Lynn. ;(

[Pandora.]

Originally Posted by Pisces_Moon

Ah, I replied earlier, or tried to (constantly getting 'the server is too busy message') and lost my entire post again!!!! so went to play elsewhere

Doh! Yes, I agree it drives me up the wall too. I was trying to post something earlier, ended up having a cup of tea, cleaning the bathroom and then taking the dog for an hour walk, when it finally came good. Seems okay now though, so I'm on a roll (though I should go to bed seeing as it's nearly 4am).

[Pandora.]

Originally Posted by Clover

Lol I am more free on the weekends to play, looks like an interesting game though! I feel bad I don't always make it back to comment on a lot of posts but I try.

Ugh, this server I swear. Just hoping we get the upgrade soon, it's really driving traffic away. We don't own the sight, the owners need to give us access, we are literately waiting on them to hand over to Lynn. ;(

Don't feel bad Clover, just make sure you play, hahahaha! (Only joking). I understand how busy you must be and yes, the server is a pain. Must be very frustrating for everyone, especially Lynn. Sometimes it's brilliant, other times it just comes to a standstill. Not a great deal we can do about it though.

Oh, that reminds me. When it was down all day the other day, I pulled a couple of cards for the fun of it, to try and see why it was down. I got the Knight of Wands + 5 of Swords. So I thought, "oh-oh, looks like there's trouble ... " The way the bloke in the 5 of Swords was looking towards the Knight of Wands who was hightailing it in the opposite direction, almost looked like the horse was stamping his hooves

[Pandora.]

Dear Abby,

I hate my job. I really want to just chuck it in and then get another job, which I know will make me happier but my wife is pressuring me to stay in my job until I find something else. This is causing us arguments. What should I do?

Desperate Dan

Dear Desperate Dan,

10 of Cups reversed, 3 of Cups reversed, King of Pentacles

I can see how this is causing you problems. However, if you want to avoid any further conflict with your wife, you really need to concentrate of getting in a better position to enable you to find a more suitable and fulfilling job. I can see you've been spending more and more time at home hitting the bottle, which really isn't going to be helpful to your cause. If you must drink, you'd be better off socialising and networking, to improve your chances to landing that dream job, rather than drinking yourself into a stupor at home.

I'm sorry to be so blunt but your wife is right. It's time to stop sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself and get off your backside, make some connections and find a better job.

Good luck.

[angelic star]

Dear Abby,

I am so lonely. I want to spend my life with someone. I watch my family and friends , it gives me joy. I need someone to share that joy with. I spend all my time thinking I found a connection with someone online, but Idk about him. I am scared what if he is cheating me, or he isn't what he says he is. I believe he is truthful but I want to know if something is possible between us.
Lonely bird


Dear Lonely bird,

Fool, seven of swords reversed, High priestess reversed

The cards are advising to not venture into something when it's too soon. The cards show that you are eager to find love and find a connection with someone and explore something new, feel something new ( Fool ) I doubt how much integrity these partnerships have for you at the moment( High priestess reversed ) shows you are sacrificing your own worth and ideals, as in not listening to your gut at all and are blinded by what is the truth, as in the most beneficial outcome for you. You want to chase a feeling ( Fool and high prietess reversed ) but the outcome will be a lot of chaos.
Someone isn't very serious, and is simply being very casual, more casual than they are letting out ( Seven of swords reversed ) Some feelings but nothing that would make them want to be with you at this time.
It's time to know your feelings about yourself and that of others, might not be the truth in general and the truth about them or you.
Time to find some real connection in real life with some real people and not hide behind the computer screen and develop strange romantic connections online all day long anymore.

Good luck to you on finding love

[Pandora.]

that was really good! Enjoyed reading your reply immensely!

Dear Abby,

Please, please, please help me. I'm in such a dilemma as I had been going out with my boyfriend for a whole 6 months. I thought we were going to be married and live happily ever after but after winning the Beauty Pageant at my school recently, I have all these boys who want to go out with me. I now realise I don't love my boyfriend at all. I'm trying to decide on another two boys at my school. Harry's parents are extremely rich and he's really sensitive and lovey dovey and Robbie's father is in a rock band and is really rich too. Robbie's more handsome than Harry, who's a bit girlish and although Robbie's on drugs, he said he'd stop taking them if I go out with him. Who should I choose?

Sad Sarah

Dear Sad Sarah,

Oh my, you have got yourself in a pickle, haven't you?

First of all, let's look at Harry (4 of Cups reversed, Ace of Cups). It appears that Harry may have a few emotional issues he's dealing with and I feel he may be a bit moody and boring for you. Although he says he wants a relationship with you, I'm not too sure that he really knows what he wants at this point. He may be full of gushing romantic sentiments, but I don't think he will be able to handle the adult responsibilities of being in a proper relationship, it may well be a bit overwhelming for him. I feel that if you do embark on a relationship with him, you will realise down the track that you've made a big mistake by acting so recklessly (The Fool reversed).

Robbie (5 of Pentacles reversed, 2 of Swords) doesn't really look much better I'm afraid. He has massive issues with money through his drug habit and has been thrown out of home a number of times already, before crawling back to get kicked out again. He also has some major issues that he's not even prepared to address. I'm sorry to say, but if you hook up with Robbie, it won't last and you'll end up leaving him (8 of Cups).

I would have suggested you stick with your boyfriend but I'm afraid he's got fed up with your galavanting and has taken off in search of something less dramatic (6 of Swords). In fact, he's actually met someone else (The Lovers) and having found out she's pregnant, has offered to marry her (10 of Cups).

Better luck next time, as they say. Perhaps you could win another pageant and flush out some other boys who may be interested in pursuing a relationship but who are a bit more promising for you.

[angelic star]

Haha thanks Pandora, enjoyed your's as well. This feels like fun, maybe more will join later :)