Energetic Cording

[TonySG]

Hi
I have found that being around certain types of people is very draining. I work hard to keep my energy high. I have been aware that certain people drain my energy and they seem to enjoy being around me. My presence somehow gives these people an uplift and energizes them. But at the same time, it makes them become a little arrogant and I sometimes find their behavior rude towards me.

I end up leaving feeling drained and incredibly tired. It happened to be recently and I had a pain/discomfort in my solar plexus area for a few days.

Does this mean the other person may have 'corded' me? I don't want to be around these types of people sometimes but I feel I am being selfish, if my presence helps liberate them, then maybe I should help? I would prefer to be able to protect my energy regardless of who I am around and stop others from draining me.

Can anyone relate? Thanks

[TonySG]

Originally Posted by slowsnake

Hello,
First thing you should do is get off your high horse!

Secondly,just because your mother said you are a "great " person" doesn't mean its true.

Kind Regards Billy.

Hi
Thanks for your response.

Not the answer I was looking for. But thanks anyway :)

[Melahin]

But kinda the response you are familiar to maybe?

But here might be one that is better for you, neither is the environment helping you nor them, regardless of whatever. They might simply be subconsciously feeding of your insecurities, and for that shielding helps as little as putting a bandage on a severe wound. What you probably need is being better at directing your attention, rather than letting situations pull you away from what feels good to you. It is a practice of increasing your inner net worthiness, thus expanding you capacity to feel good

[dryad]

If you can't defend (claim) your energy (and your space) then yes you can end up drained. Some people do it deliberately but many will do it subconsciously or accidently through no fault of their own. Energy tends to flow from the strong to the weak so anyone of lesser strength energetically may be receiving from you. Not stealing mind you...just receiving). It can affect them in various ways. They may pick up your emotional state or the increase in energy can magnify their own emotional state. I've seen my energy make people hyperactive even though I'm generally calm.

Sharing of energy is a natural process. You can't and don't want to stop it altogether but there is a very important difference between energy that is freely given without harming the giver and when too much is lost which does affect the person who ends up feeling drained. If you set up a boundary based on your sacral chakra frequency it will prevent that draining but still allow normal energy interactions.

[TonySG]

Originally Posted by dryad

If you can't defend (claim) your energy (and your space) then yes you can end up drained. Some people do it deliberately but many will do it subconsciously or accidently through no fault of their own. Energy tends to flow from the strong to the weak so anyone of lesser strength energetically may be receiving from you. Not stealing mind you...just receiving). It can affect them in various ways. They may pick up your emotional state or the increase in energy can magnify their own emotional state. I've seen my energy make people hyperactive even though I'm generally calm.

Sharing of energy is a natural process. You can't and don't want to stop it altogether but there is a very important difference between energy that is freely given without harming the giver and when too much is lost which does affect the person who ends up feeling drained. If you set up a boundary based on your sacral chakra frequency it will prevent that draining but still allow normal energy interactions.

Thats helpful. Thank you!

[mihael_11]

Yes, i know this, they hang around you, feed off you and sooner or later starting to overpower you, and when you cancel them, they can't do it anymore, but it is the concept that is messed up, so this even happens.

So perfect it would be, you can be in environment, that is maybe taking/giving of energy, but it doesn't kill you, so that can happens only with peoples that are developed in right direction so they can value you as you are without overpowering.

But can't give you any advice, since i didn't achieve any more than that. I am working on generating energies that are appropriate for me and others can't feed of them, that is only way you can be, but i do not reccomend this path, there are better ways.

[RedEmbers]

Originally Posted by dryad

Sharing of energy is a natural process. You can't and don't want to stop it altogether but there is a very important difference between energy that is freely given without harming the giver and when too much is lost which does affect the person who ends up feeling drained. If you set up a boundary based on your sacral chakra frequency it will prevent that draining but still allow normal energy interactions.

How is this done?

Thankyou.

[TonySG]

I don't think I have been connected to myself for most of my life. Therefore the doors on this house (me) have been left wide open for others to come in and take whatever they want. By wanting to prove myself to others that I am worthwhile, I was inviting them in to take whatever they wanted from me (my energy). As I am getting more in touch with myself I am learning to how to manage my own energy and how to set healthy boundaries.

[sunnyray]

I agree that you shouldn't be too obsessed about guarding your energy, as this might quickly turn into some kind of magical defense technique. I don't think that's what you want to achieve. Instead, avoid the people who drain your energy as much as you possibly can. They can't help it but do that. Hang out with like minded people with whom you share common goals.

[dryad]

Originally Posted by RedEmbers

How is this done?

Thankyou.

There's a few ways you can approach it. If your a beginner a simple visualisation where you imagine a small orange ball of light inside your sacral chakra which then expands till it is as big as your whole aura. That leaves an orange layer at the outside edge of your aura which let's energy in but doesn't let it out. The same thing can be done with other chakras for different effects but the sacral is specific to boundaries to prevent outgoing energy loss. There is still give and take of surface energies of yourself and those you interact with but the boundary prevents loss of your core energy to keep your energy levels stable.

If you've been working with energy for a while you could try a more advanced version.... For that you need to tap into your subconscious defences. If you recreate the uncomfortable feeling you get when someone invades your personal space then the subconscious responds by raising boundaries. If you can identify that boundary as a visual image like a brick wall (or assign a symbolic image to represent it) then you can control that subconscious pattern with the conscious mind by raising and lowering the brick wall. That's the image I use but other images would work as well as long as its linked to the subconscious pattern.