I need help...seriously...I’m too weak to do this on my own.

[Soul_Surfer]

Long story short - I’m addicted to pornography. And I’m ashamed of it. Though I’m on a spiritual path for 7-8 years this is my big Achilles heel. I received already three clear signs from God in my dreams that it’s poisoning me,which I disregarded, but recently when I was about to watch it and masturbate when I checked my phone for the last time it was opened on an Instagram add on which it was written: “Don’t do this”. I recently read that we can use this energy in a spiritual way through celibacy. And even if not forever I would want to do this until I won’t clear my head and develop a healthy attitude towards male-female intimate relationships. But I’m so weak. I’ve been doin this for so long. I can last two, three days without it tops. I’m desperate for help. What should I do?

They say it'll destroy your self-confidence and sexual naturalness when meeting someone with whom you may sexually relate.

The first step is stop believing you're too weak. That's really an excuse because you don't want to stop which could be for many circumstantial reasons. There are lots of ways you could approach it: like set up an observance where you discipline yourself only to view it every other day. Stick to it. Be disciplined. If you can manage that, allow yourself just one day per week at it. Another is to view porn as it is - the same old routines gone through - seeing it from afar isn't it a bit boring? Would that help wean you off. Then take up an interest that absorbs you and needs concentration so you have to avoid thinking about it: something creative like understanding the whys and wherefores of photography; paint, learn a musical instrument....

However, the real step like I say is decide you can stop it, you will stop it but not with anguish - tell yourself repeatedly you can do without it. Then go out and meet people just as friends at first. Realise that on forming a relationship with someone it'll never be like the artificial world of porn. It may be difficult / may not....depending how much of your sensual history is now embedded in porn. It'll be there in your background for a long time so you have to separate it from the possibility of finding real experience. If as you claim you're on a spiritual path it should all be possible. Here's a chance to apply what you've learned.

Good luck.

[Bornonthecusp]

I'm with Lorelyn on this. you are not weak, you only think that you are. The pure fact that you want to stop, that you see that as a possibility tells me a lot. It tells you have the strength inside you to pull this off, you just have to believe, no not just believe but to know it. I'm sending you love, it sounds like you're going through a challenge and could use it

[Soul_Surfer]

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

They say it'll destroy your self-confidence and sexual naturalness when meeting someone with whom you may sexually relate.

The first step is stop believing you're too weak. That's really an excuse because you don't want to stop which could be for many circumstantial reasons. There are lots of ways you could approach it: like set up an observance where you discipline yourself only to view it every other day. Stick to it. Be disciplined. If you can manage that, allow yourself just one day per week at it. Another is to view porn as it is - the same old routines gone through - seeing it from afar isn't it a bit boring? Would that help wean you off. Then take up an interest that absorbs you and needs concentration so you have to avoid thinking about it: something creative like understanding the whys and wherefores of photography; paint, learn a musical instrument....

However, the real step like I say is decide you can stop it, you will stop it but not with anguish - tell yourself repeatedly you can do without it. Then go out and meet people just as friends at first. Realise that on forming a relationship with someone it'll never be like the artificial world of porn. It may be difficult / may not....depending how much of your sensual history is now embedded in porn. It'll be there in your background for a long time so you have to separate it from the possibility of finding real experience. If as you claim you're on a spiritual path it should all be possible. Here's a chance to apply what you've learned.

Good luck.

Thank You very much for Your support...It was my darkest secret for like 2/3rds of my life...and Yes I will do as You suggested. I’m aware that I’ve conditioned myself to think I can’t do without it. I pray and hope that I can overcome this. Thank You!

[Soul_Surfer]

Originally Posted by Bornonthecusp

I'm with Lorelyn on this. you are not weak, you only think that you are. The pure fact that you want to stop, that you see that as a possibility tells me a lot. It tells you have the strength inside you to pull this off, you just have to believe, no not just believe but to know it. I'm sending you love, it sounds like you're going through a challenge and could use it

Thank You also I needed to hear this...I kept this burden for way too long

[linen53]

I'll pray for you.

Ask your guardian angel for help. It's right next to you.......always.

[Soul_Surfer]

Originally Posted by linen53

I'll pray for you.

Ask your guardian angel for help. It's right next to you.......always.

Thank You!

[linen53]

Lorna Byrne is a author has a formula for contacting our Guardian Angel. Stand in front of a mirror ready to move your left hand or right hand, whichever one you write with. As you stand there look at your reflection in the mirror. Now raise your hand. Have your hand stretched out and your fingers spread out a little so that your fingers are not touching each other. Look at the reflection of yourself in the mirror and imagine your reflection is actually your guardian angel looking back at you and that your guardian angel has its hand at the same level as yours.

The first thing that your guardian angel needs you to do is move your hand slowly towards the mirror, coming close enough that you can touch the reflection of the tip of your finger and feel that gentle touch on the mirror itself. Move each finger, one at a time, just tapping and holding for a moment, or as long as you want, the tips of your fingers on the mirror. Make sure you are tapping the reflection of your own fingertips but imagining, at the same time, that they are your guardian angels' fingertips.

The next step is to ask youor guardian angel to stand in front of you. Your guardian angel will be standing right in front of you at the same distance as the exercise with the mirror. As soon as you raise your hand your guardian angel will have their hand right in front of yours. Start feeling your guardian angel's finger with your finger. Keep repeating this exercise. Now go to the next finger. Don't forget the thumb.

You probably wont' feel anything at first but if you keep practicing it you will eventually.

These exercises will help you to become aware of your senses so you can feel it's presence. How you feel your guardian angel's presence will be different for every individual. It may be a tingling or an electric shock (gently or strong). It might even make you jump. If you do feel something say thank you. And when you want to do this again just say, lets play again.

You can ask your angel to be gentler or clearer.