My Boyfriends Grandad Death.

[arlonicholson]

He's finding this very hard, he was talking about killing him self, not sure if he meant it.

I am not sure how close they was or other details, but I told him my buddhism view on death, on how we learn from it, and I said his grandad wouldn't want him to kill himself, either I.

What else can I do?

Originally Posted by arlonicholson

He's finding this very hard, he was talking about killing him self, not sure if he meant it.

I am not sure how close they was or other details, but I told him my buddhism view on death, on how we learn from it, and I said his grandad wouldn't want him to kill himself, either I.

What else can I do?

Just give him the support he needs. Be around in case he calls on you; look in now and again (you know him, he might like to see you a couple of times a day; then again maybe each day; and maybe just a phone call; maybe a get together). If it looks like he wants you to spend time with him, just be there and mostly let him lead any conversation; add in a few things yourself to distract him if it seems right.

And yes, would his granddad want him to take his life...? I very much doubt it. More like, his granddad would want him to be the vanguard of the values he loved. We all love our granddads. In my family granny and grandpa were the people I trusted and loved; I couldn't stand my parents (and got pulled out eventually) so I'm very sympathetic to his situation.

Above all, advise him he needs time to grieve. In the aftermath of this sad event he'll maybe go through a turmoil of emotions which isn't the best time to think of what to do as a result.

He just needs time and support from someone he trusts and knows who cares. Be there but unobtrusive in case he needs time alone.

Such are my thoughts.

All the best,
L

[rasheedam9112]

I know from experience I lost my grandmother march 9 of this year it really hurt because I spent a lot of time at my grandmother house when we was younger jus be there for him