i need a reading for clarity.. Late husband vs new boyfriend

[NightingalesFlame]

Hello all.
I need a reading for clarity. I have a past husband figure who has been around. I’m feeling out of place because someone in my past wants to get together with me. I need to know if my late husband has passed over because I’m feeling a resistance of getting into ANY relationship. I don’t know if my late husband is still here. I like the guy I have reconnected with but I’m feeling like I lost interest. I’m so busy that I don’t respond to his text messages as if I’m being ‘pulled away’??? I had a deeper love and connection with my late husband so it’s got me confused. I’m not sure if it’s my late husband pulling me away from this person because he’s protective of me.. or is this coming from me pushing him away because of the love I have for my late husband. I can’t see myself with anyone else as much as I want to because my late husband was the love of my life. I don’t know if this is me or him that I am resisting a pending relationship. Sorry.. I keep thinking I know the answer to my own questions as I’m feeling like such a fool because this time I really don’t know..

[Lynn]

Hello

Its OK to have confusions around what the path might open to. I know that the loss of someone is a sad event and that we want to honor that connection to them while we are still alive. What we too have to remember is that we are still "living" and in that we have a lot more to offer in maybe exploring a new relationship til our passing time comes. We are social beings in that we have connections or feelings to others around us.

You have a connection to your late husband that has had a transformation is all til your time of passing comes. There is no physical realms on the other side that confine us to the boxes of relationships we are put in. That is a living experience when we pass I feel that we are then energy and in that gone are a lot of the confines of body life.

I am told by so many passed in my work that "you can have your cake and eat it too" on the other side that life is a transformation of openness in the energy that we become.

What you have to ask yourself is "are you ready to move on in life" this is not something that a passed love one really has a hold on, more I feel its the emotional ties you have to your feelings that hold you in place. Yes they can give guidance to you, to at times open or close doors that are there that might not serve the best path for you but in the end the choice is yours.

Your husband seems to be letting you know that your coming to life again that the heart is healing. For a time now you have been feeling well like your stuck in the mud, where you want to move but that mud hold one fast.

I see this as Winter where things are cold and frozen over, like your emotions might be held in that place of "loss" when that loss is really transformation of a life path. You feel like a storm might come if you explore new parts of life, and this is normal as one has lost love and does not know what is open to come in the form of love moving forwards.

When I look at a pending possible relationship its "both" that are in that place of finding strength to explore a whole new World that is open to you now. When I look to the feelings of your passed husband he says you have hit that rock bottom place and its time to look upwards to what is out there for you.

"Fear is an illusion. Choose love today. Forgive yourself and others. " not sure on what this might fully mean but its what came to me.

I have the feeling that the subject was touched on where you did sort of attempt to discuss that "what if" we are parted in death and are young enough to have a new life partner. Yet the feeling is that is was too hard a subject to fully explore.

I get "nothing ventured nothing gained" and moonlight on a balcony.

Lynn

[NightingalesFlame]

Lynn
Thanks. You are spot on when talking about the ‘living realm’. Sometimes I feel I want to go exploring new relationships but it’s just hard and it is during winter in the snow that my husband had died. As much as I want to explore a new life, I see my late husband scattered on my plain and I see him in everything basically too much mental stimuli of what was and seeing snow reminds me of him. I’m not sure if I make sense but that is my issue. There’s pieces of him everywhere. There is also a part of me that doesn’t feel I will ever find that kind of love again. My bond with him transcends the earth realm. If you love something/someone dearly then let it go but I feel I’m just as guilty of that
as he is. He is sticking around for a reason and I’m not so sure what his presence means when I was about to move on.