Can we be in love with two people at the same time?

Originally Posted by becomingshaman

I believe a person can be in love with more than one person at a time. At least, I've been able to. It's a complicated thing, because it's not an approved feeling in our society, but...it can happen.

Life does not always give us who is best for us (if "best" is defined in a positive way). I felt a very strong connection to my ex...who ended up being abusive, and that time spent with him, being steadily broken down, was over a decade worth of my life. It's weird, though. I just "knew," when I met him, that he would be the father of my children. I never had that feeling about any other men I dated, but with him, it was the strangest thing. I just knew.

Now, later, while I am so grateful for those children, I am much more grateful that I am away from that man. I've had to do a lot of healing work in the places he destroyed, and I'm sure there's more yet to do. So, sure, I could say we were "meant for each other," and there was definitely a soul connection, but if I would have made a different choice, there is no doubt about there being a much different outcome.

I learned a lot through the abusive relationship, especially during the years I slowly began to wake up and begin the long hard journey OUT of it...but I wouldn't want to re-do that kind of a relationship again, nor would I wish it on anyone. In the end, it was an experience that taught me so much...yet I think there are better ways to learn, ways that are much less destructive.

I agree with that but then again I have do have a different definition of romantic/sexual love that extends past the normal idea of a heterosexual or homosexual couple that can show their love, live and in person.

[Xan]

Now you've got me curious, Princess... I have my own, but what's your different definition?


Xan

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by Leah85

Have you ever loved two people at the same time and been afraid of making the wrong choice?

Yes, and it cost me alot of money in therapy. Not really I'm a fast learner when I'm paying for it!!!

My first session I was sent home to write or say 10 times a day, "My needs
come first..My needs come first."
It single handedly helped me choose.

It is possible to love more than one person, even love romanticly and sexualy. Why not? Monogamy is only a myth living in society. This myth makes a lot of damage and suffering.