How do I let go?

[pdizzle45]

Remember that just because they are no longer physically with you, it does not mean that who they were, and the good things about them have perished. When having difficulty transitioning, try to remember it is an inevitable part of our journey and there is beauty in what can't be seen, but was left behind.

[Sarian]

rfrost, I feel for you. My mom has had cancer for over 2 yrs. they gave her 6 months to live initially and she said "I'm not going anywhere!" well, her cancer doctor told her she made a believer of him and the other doctors, but Friday they told her she might have a couple months now. I've been sobbing my eyes out since. I knew her time was coming, but I'm not handling it well at all. I just cry. My mom is almost deaf, so I wrote her a love letter. I titled it Love Letter to my Mom. I cried hard throughout the whole thing and still I have more to write. I thought since she can't hear well and it's hard to shout out emotions and things I want to say (and I am too emotional and cry too hard) it's best to write. But I find myself feeling like a 5 year old child and saying Don't go mom, please don't go.

I look at her and she only weighs 67 pounds now,, so frail and yet, all I see is this little girl in her. She looks so sweet, so young even at her age...he said to her she only had a couple months maybe. She looked as though she couldn't comprehend because she didn't want to go. She said okay but...but I don't want to go. She looked like a frail baby bird, newly hatched...I just wanted to protect her and keep her safe. I wrote in the letter that and I said but she's going to get wings and soar. I hurt and I guess I'm selfish but I don't want my mom to leave me.

I'm crying my eyes out again for the umpteenth time today...

Again, I'm sorry for all you are going through too. ((((((((HUGS))))))))))

[Tobi]

How do we let go?
We allow them to be. And to discover....and to flourish in spirit. We never have to ever let go of the love we feel for them, and the love we share. All we have to do is let them be themselves.

They can return to visit us. Even at times when they can't literally do that, we can still share with them in the Heart. We can send them our unconditional love at any moment, of any day, and they can sense us. Then in the silent heart, we can hear their response. It's only a frequency which appears to separate us. There really is no separation where there is love.

We will be reunited with loved ones.

We never have to turn our backs on them!

You must grieve; it is the "process" of letting go ...
It takes time ...

[vespa68]

I lost someone that I love deeply a year ago. It's my first loss. It's so annoying the amount of people who say you need to "Let go". Even healers would say this. I knew in my soul that this was the wrong thing to force myself to do. You "let go" only when you are ready to. I agree that greiving itself is a process and in itself is part of the "letting go". I would say you just have to accept the feeling and "let be"rather then "let go".