How Do I Attract Emotionally Avail. Men who want A LTR?

[taurus]

I agree with Aaron, you must be whole within yourself before you can find someone who is your special equal.

I also don't think it's the case of emotionally needy attracting emotionally aloof people.

In fact, due to personal experience, when I hadn't done my own self-healing and getting over past relationships I had unconsciously been emotionally unavailable and then, in turn, attracted emotionally unavailable people. But I wanted them not to be like this, which was a lost cause as like will attract like.

I would meditate not on what kind of guy you want but what is stopping you, what is the obstacle stopping you from getting that companion you seek.

Originally Posted by MissCreativeSpirit

I have struggled with this my whole life. I REALLY WANT a Life long committed partner who deeply loves me and is with me until the end of my life? I meditate in it, I date around. I write it in the first line of online dating site profiles! I am starting to think aI must find some kind of arranged marriage just to have a companion at all that sticks. I have been alone 12 years besides dating like 5 dud emotionally unavailable. Jerks who just used me for sex.

First I would say don't be used for sex.

Any man you initiate a relationship you should have a defined goal, like no sex for a year.

That way you can at least eliminate those you call jerks.

Then any that stick for the time you defined you can examine their emotional makeup and see if all is compatible.