Do you show vulnerability?

[Flexi-Girl]

Do you reveal your vulnerabilities to other people?

What I mean is, when you first get to know someone-including potential friends- see you as you are, even with attributes you're not proud of, even at the risk of losing them?

[Shanta]

I don't think anyone shows vulnerability at first encounter. Opening to someone else which is letting them in on your vulnerabilities comes with time. This is only natural.
Showing vulnerability is difficult. Humility is required when you are vulnerable.
It may not even be advisable to reveal vulnerability in a new relationship.

After a time in a certain type of relationship, it is almost necessary to show vulnerability. The humility that is needed for truly opening up in a relationship is another way of expressing gratitude for the gift of that relationship.

[Flexi-Girl]

I think maybe it's a double edge sword.

There is the possibility of rejection, but also creates a power dynamic. The person who knows your weakness can use it against you.

On the other hand, if someone knows who they're getting from the start, it opens the door for a more authentic relationship, in which you don't have to fear telling the truth later on when both of you are already invested.

Also if I'm honest about my perceived flaws, I feel maybe it also helps with self acceptance, and diminishes other peoples ability to hurt me. So if someone tries to call me out on something, I can simply agree with them, instead of recoiling.

[rainbow.sprinkles]

I'm only vulnerable with people I'm close to and know I'm safe with. when first meeting people? hell no.

I think we all do at times.

[ocean breeze]

I'm trying to understand the question. I guess it depends on what you consider as your vulnerabilities. When i first meet someone i don't think i show much of anything. People see me as quiet and nonchalant when they first meet me as well as laid back. Its the feedback i usually get. I may hold back to avoid unnecessary drama or chatter, not at any risk of losing them as i don't seek out friends or relationships.

I wouldn't go up to a woman whom i find sexually attractive and make some perverted comment. Or tell someone to "f*** off" for trying to start a conversation. So i won't always openly express myself as i feel at the moment. Others need to be taken into consideration. As well as my own well being. Or did i misunderstood the question?

[Native spirit]

I am very difficult to read I keep my cards close to my chest so no I do not show vulnerability



Namaste

[Flexi-Girl]

Originally Posted by ocean breeze

I'm trying to understand the question. I guess it depends on what you consider as your vulnerabilities. When i first meet someone i don't think i show much of anything. People see me as quiet and nonchalant when they first meet me as well as laid back. Its the feedback i usually get. I may hold back to avoid unnecessary drama or chatter, not at any risk of losing them as i don't seek out friends or relationships.

I wouldn't go up to a woman whom i find sexually attractive and make some perverted comment. Or tell someone to "f*** off" for trying to start a conversation. So i won't always openly express myself as i feel at the moment. Others need to be taken into consideration. As well as my own well being. Or did i misunderstood the question?

What if you were to go to a friend or someone you're getting to know, something personal about yourself that you keep private. Maybe it's weird hobby, some interest, or some sexual thing, or some character flaw? Or even better a complete stranger. That's what I mean about being vulnerable. Most people don't show who they are, so they miss opportunity to meet people might accept them or even appreciate them.

[ocean breeze]

Originally Posted by Flexi-Girl

What if you were to go to a friend or someone you're getting to know, something personal about yourself that you keep private. Maybe it's weird hobby, some interest, or some sexual thing, or some character flaw? Or even better a complete stranger. That's what I mean about being vulnerable. Most people don't show who they are, so they miss opportunity to meet people might accept them or even appreciate them.

Ok i see your point. It might be a little different with me as i don't really look for opportunities to meet people. And whether others may accept them or not is irrelevant. So the less attention i attract the better. A lot of times it depends on the vibe i get from someone as to how much i reveal.

I pretty much openly exposed much of my character flaws, weird hobbies, silly ideas, absurd opinions, and even horrific pics of me on here. Have you or would you? Are you more likely to show your vulnerability online with people you don't know and will likely never meet, or with people outside the net whom you are beginning to know? Obviously there are still many things about me that people don't know. That i rather keep private.

[athribiristan]

I am open with nearly everyone I meet. I rarely offer information but if someone asks me I will not hesitate to speak of my "weaknesses" or vulnerabilities because I do not see them as such. Those things represent my greatest lessons in life, and sharing them may help others. Once the notions of good and bad have been cast aside, there is only what is. To judge that is to make it something that it is not. To invite someone into that lie is not in service of the divine.