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Old 12-12-2014, 10:43 PM
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Sorry if it sounded like a daft question. When I was first asked that question, I said that I felt like I wanted to be cut open and have the experience removed. Although I spoke metaphorically and knew that couldn't happen, it was a first step to recognise that I needed to first accept the experience before I could start dealing with the effects of it.

I went to a specialist therapist who worked solely with people who had experienced sexual abuse. It offered a place where it was safe to let the deeper stuff surface with someone with me, with a week in between to let the residue surface. In that week I used many of the spiritual practises I understood. But I still needed that hour a week with a therapist to first, get to the real gritty stuff and later to guide me from a healthier perspective of what is ok.


It's ok, Ivy. Sometimes it's hard to know how a question was asked when it's not said in person haha. But yes I think I should ask my child self some of those questions. I think I need to accept it more, but it's been coming to the surface quite a bit and Im just in the grieving process right now. But I do really like how you asked yourself that, and I think I'll need to get out my notebook.

A healer that I go to did mention that I should see a specialized therapist. So yes, that is great advice. Thanks :)
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Old 12-12-2014, 10:45 PM
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And this is all fantastic everyone :). I google that book and shamanism. I didn't think about that, but it sounds like a great option. It seriously does!
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Old 12-12-2014, 10:45 PM
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I'm afraid I can't help you in regards to any particular type of healing, but as someone who knows someone else who has been sexually abused.......Meeting your twin soul will trigger a healing that is pretty much outside of your control, but it will be worth it. It worked for him.

This is great advice! How do you meet you soul flame? I suppose I can look in this forum or google it :)
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Old 12-12-2014, 10:51 PM
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For me, it was accepting the fact that I chose my experiences including the childhood sexual abuse before in incarnated into this body. I then understood my abusers were merely playing their part in teaching me what I had come here to learn.

What was it they taught me through the abuse. How to forgive and see the whole picture.

I no longer feel like a victim but rather a victor!

How to let go of the anger and feelings of violation? Well, it took me many years because I took the long route. I got tired of living in that cave. After years of talking about it and carrying it around I was ready to let it go. I didn't have to forgive them. I had to learn to forgive myself and learn to love myself. Many years later I was able to forgive them (for their sake) and release them.
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Old 13-12-2014, 03:03 AM
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For me, it was accepting the fact that I chose my experiences including the childhood sexual abuse before in incarnated into this body. I then understood my abusers were merely playing their part in teaching me what I had come here to learn.

What was it they taught me through the abuse. How to forgive and see the whole picture.

I no longer feel like a victim but rather a victor!

How to let go of the anger and feelings of violation? Well, it took me many years because I took the long route. I got tired of living in that cave. After years of talking about it and carrying it around I was ready to let it go. I didn't have to forgive them. I had to learn to forgive myself and learn to love myself. Many years later I was able to forgive them (for their sake) and release them.

That's powerful. Thank you for sharing.
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Old 13-12-2014, 03:45 AM
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I can only speak for myself and my experience personally. Whatever I can share and help others it a feather in my cap.
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Old 14-12-2014, 08:43 PM
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Hello All,

I was just wondering if anyone knows of good healing techniques for healing repressed child sexual abuse.

Thanks and anything positive helps!

This is most challenging to GROW THROUGH ~!

I would suggest "A Course In Miracles" by Foundation for Inner Freedom

and "The Nag Hammadi Library edited by Glen Robinson"

Day to day hold to these as the SOLUTION, and it AWAKENS within YOU.

The PROBLEM ..... FEELS in YOU........ the SOLUTION is also WITHIN YOU~

Listen to MOOJI on you-tube and Eckhart Tolle , perhaps BRACO too ..... these will all aid.

Thich Nhat Hahn wrote a few GREAT works ! Mindfulness

Be PATIENT , PERSISTENT , CONSISTENT and LET GO the "wants" that weigh you down. Time in NATURE , meditate , pray , learn to COMMUNE with the Divine and be silent about this too! Many will try to stop you, they do not want you to heal, your not healing makes ego feel "more than" and it does not like feeling "less than" ......... You are WELL.
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Old 15-12-2014, 01:49 AM
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Find something positive you can take from it all... you have alot of energy locked up in those negative emotions. If you can transmute it into positive energy just think what you could do with it. Instead of just letting it go....claim it. That is your energy. You earned it by rite of fire. And your going to do something with it. Purify it and then redirect it into your spiritual development. Helps with the lack of control issues too because your taking control back.

If your not ready to do that yet there is a technique I use sometimes. It helps you get to a point where you can do that. It involves placing temporary blocks so you dont feel the pain for a while. It gives you a chance to develop some emotional strength and perspective. If you dont remember what it felt like to be without the pain it is hard to choose to let go of it. Fear of the unknown and all. I use it in cases were healing it for you would take away the opportumity for you to learn something important. Like how to transcend fear and pain.
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Old 15-12-2014, 02:47 AM
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Thanks everyone!! SO very helpful! I do love all the suggestions. So a couple nights ago it felt intense and I wasn't feeling like digging further during that time. So instead I watched this tv show that I LOVE and got my mind off things. I then felt happier and so instead of digging in the past I looked in the future. And I know that the present is the most important thing. But what I did was I pictured my childhood in my next incarnation after this life...I know that my soul may choose something different, but this really helped. I pictured being in my power and expressing myself through dance and singing (I do neither in this life). I pictured my family and how I felt more empowered than I currently do. I then sat with that and began to think about what I can work on now in order to get there! Now, it felt very healing though I didn't have to go back in time. I think things will come up on the way, but I love turning those negative emotions into positive and empowering ones (as someone mentioned above). I do recommend this too! And I will certainly try these other amazing techniques too!

I am blessed with your suggestions and with moving positively forward. Off days will come, but it feels better now :)
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Old 15-12-2014, 05:27 PM
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I feel the same way about my past. I was sexually victimized from an older cousin from 8 yrs old until I was 12. I always thought I was the wrong one because over time I had this strong shame and also a liking towards it when I reached puberty. I started to think I was gay and if anyone found out I would be sent away or my parents would hate me. Over time as I got older I read more and more stories that were ironically the same. I thought it was awful that I sometimes "liked it" but as I got older I realized how much it hurt me and took away a lot of my childhood. It is probably one of the reasons that even in my 20s I still play "pretend" when no one is around or reenact a movie while I am watching it like kids do. I have this urge to not want to grow up and it can affect my daily life. It didn't help that when I was 11 yrs old I asked a Priest during confession about what happened to me and he basically blamed me because in the Catholic Church at age 7 you should know right from wrong. What a sick sick sick thing to tell a child. And I believed it! It didn't help that my grandmother was such a zealous Catholic even to this day she thinks bizarre things about life- we actually found out she too was abused by her father when she was a kid.

The one thing in your post that bothers me is this Linen- "the violators". I don't think anybody "chooses" to incarnate to be a sexual violator or a predator. If God said it was something "to be" when you incarnate I would probably get very angry and spit at him. Pedophilia is just evil. That's it. There is no understanding behind it except that those people need strong psychological help and we can forgive them but we can't let it slide by saying, "Oh they chose to incarnate as that". I think most of us on this board would commit suicide if God or the UNiverse implanted us with that disgusting defect. I certainly would.

I do think we chose to incarnate into a circumstance where we would experience "abuse", you and I Linen so happened to experience it in a sexual way. Some people experience abuse in other ways whether physical, mental, or some form of enslavement or whatever.

I think unless we are "wounded" we don't find the deeper openings to our soul. It is like wounds open up holes in the physical form to our Spirit. The wounds are passage ways to the SPirit that is cloaked and hidden while we walk the Earth Plane. I feel as those "violators" are people who may have been also wounded in some way but instead of being therapeuatic and understanding they take their wounds and transmit them to others and continue the cycle of "hurting" or "sin" and that brings karmic consequences.

Bill Cosby is an example. He probably was raised a way to think of women in a certain light and maybe even went with the wrong crowd in his younger years where it developed his belief system that women are inferior and "rape" is okay. This subconscious belief system stayed with him his whole life and instead of changing it or realizing that is wrong, he continued and continues to justify his wicked ways because of what he feels is okay. He could have seen his mother raped by his father or his father raped him or his friends raped women and he watched or his friends gave him "Spanish fly" to use on girls in High school to "get some" at prom and this bad habit just continued throughout his life because he justified it as "okay". But I don't think Bill Cosby incarnated with the intentions to be a rapist. His intentions were probably to be a comedian and go through whatever he went through but he could have been warned as we all are when we incarnate, that if we do x, y, and z when reacting to our experiences you could end as a "rapist" or whatever negative kind of person you can become in your evolution.
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