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Old 03-07-2023, 07:22 PM
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how does a male say...??

A male does not say!


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Get some earplugs and try to hide them with your hair.

I wear them a lot so I can’t hear peoples voices when I’m on a bus, a train, working on my artwork outside and when meditating.

Works like a charm. I bought wireless earpods and unlike the wired ones you hear far less sound around you, even without having music on.
Useful at work, because I have one female colleague in particular who probably has ADHD, she just can't stop talking and needs a lot of attention from others. So the earpods are like a remote control... you mute them, and they don't even notice!
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Old 03-07-2023, 07:39 PM
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How does a male tell a female to just be quiet for a little while without starting a war? Sometimes silence is nice.

Try being around women who don't speak your native language.

But then, that doesn't always work out. I once went out with a really beautiful woman. That didn't last long. Every time she talked, it irritated my ears. Her language was tonal. I was used to 5 tones but hers was 7 tones. I just could not get used to her tonal language.
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Old 09-07-2023, 01:26 PM
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Try being around women who don't speak your native language.
I just could not get used to her tonal language.
My wife and I had a discussion about the talking. I was surprised it was actually productive. For now she turned it down a notch.
Recently I had to talk to someone in a costumer service situation. This guy was small and petite in size and looked very young. His voice was the deepest "biggest" voice I think I have ever heard. I had a really hard time putting his structure and his voice together.
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Old 09-07-2023, 02:34 PM
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Oh HAL that's great. Can you cast your mind back to when you first met ?!!!!
I bet you LOVED to hear her talk !!

I know I drive my husband mad with my chatter .
But I also know he will miss that so much when im gone .
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Old 09-07-2023, 02:52 PM
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Nice one Altair! A kindred spirit lol
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Old 09-07-2023, 05:59 PM
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I found people process differently. In my work with mentally disabled and often "aggressive" clients I tend to become more silent. My sense of what's going on gets heightened when I am quiet. A colleague tends to just softly keep talking small-talk all the time, as it is in the non-verbal responses of our clients she senses the mood of the moment.

Both ways are equally valid and bring similar results and feelings of being in control somehow in a sometimes tense situation.

I would suggest that something similar is going on in the perceived male/female dichotomy. Personally I found I can often listen to verbal out-pours by those I love. And I just tune out with those I don't.(very literally sometimes by just walking away.)
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Old 10-07-2023, 11:26 AM
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CATSQUOTL……..”found people process differently. In my work with mentally disabled and often "aggressive" clients I tend to become more silent”.

I’ve found that putting your hand on their shoulder works well too. It seems to change the dynamics.
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Old 11-07-2023, 07:51 AM
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This has got nothing to do with disabled people .
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Old 11-07-2023, 07:46 PM
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This has got nothing to do with disabled people .

Agreed, It has to do with how we sense the mood of our surroundings, either in silence and picking up cue's, or by talking and soliciting social cue's.

At least that was the point I was trying to make.
Personally I'd say there's a reason why a male would find a need to say anything when his significant other talks too much according to him.

Somehow "she" feels the need to talk and does so to fulfill something. One possible avenue I have noticed (during work with colleagues) lies in the realm of checking the mood in a room or the mood of a person by talking and picking up their verbal and non-verbal responses..
I have no reason to believe that that way of sensing our surroundings would manifest differently when not at work.

Does that make sense? I'm not natively english speaking so I hope I am making clear what I meant.
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Old 20-07-2023, 09:49 AM
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Oh gosh , and I meant no offence by my comment that this thread had nothing to do with disability. I guess I was thinking about my treasured cousin whom is severely disabled and would not even be able to tell a partner to shut up even if he wanted to !!!!
Bless him.
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