What are the traits you most admire in a partner ?

[Realm Ki]

Originally Posted by Nature Grows

7luminaries & ocean breeze should date.

[Realm Ki]

Same traits for me and him:

Patience, curiosity, loyalty, faith, humor, kindness, integrity, empathy and a devotion to balance.

We are also strong and resilient and social and creative and and and... ;)

[A human Being]

Originally Posted by ocean breeze

^^ Oh gee, i hope you don't think it will come to that. I try to reserve elbow dropping, chair smashing, and pile driving for at least the second or third date.

Edit: spelling.

Because you're old-fashioned like that, right OB?

[ocean breeze]

Originally Posted by A human Being

Because you're old-fashioned like that, right OB?

What could i say. I'm a gentleman with class.

[OEN34]

Empathy, compassion, good listener, open minded, loving, caring, funny, kind, calm, rational, emotionally intelligent, spiritual (to a degree), a good level of self awareness, the desire to keep evolving and pushing themselves, sexual, tactile, vulnerable (in a positive way), loyalty, honesty and openness.

[7luminaries]

Originally Posted by ocean breeze

Hard not to sound defensive when i see misconceptions about me.

Hahaha...relax, you didn't appear to understand the gist of most of what I said below either, so no probs...we're pretty much even there.

Yet you continue.....

I haven't requested anything as a "rule."

If that were the case, i'd be actively looking for a relationship. Did you seriously read my post?

I'm not expecting a robot and i don't know where you got "king of the world" from.

Nothing else to say here...no disrespect but there's a fair bit of misunderstanding and misinterpretation here IMO, so there's no need for me to add to it, LOL.

Honesty would fit under courageousness and kindness (when used unconditionally) is a trait that turns me on, not a trait that i admire. Humor is also another trait that really turns me on but i don't admire people with a sense of humor.

TBH I think it's strange that one would make this odd sort of distinction.

If you yourself are kind and courageous (etc), would you want someone who both admires and likes humour/kindness/you, etc., or only those who find it/you attractive but don't admire or respect it/you?

Do you want someone to find kindness (or you) attractive but also finds it/you not admirable or not worthy of respect ? Does this even hang together? LOL. Hahaha If it does then I respect the width of the chasm.

Yes, i can see that. Though it seems like some people are often overlooked and not taken seriously regardless of how seriously they take the relationship.

This made sense to me. Bottom line, standards and boundaries speak to love of self equally to others, and this is important. Neither men nor women should prostitute themselves. If you are overlooked and disregarded, then you're not well suited and you (anyone of us) deserve better.

If someone treats what you offer callously or carelessly, then IMO you draw your line in the sand and move on as needed - in kindness and love. In truth, it's an act of love both for yourself and for the other, who has some lessons to learn regarding loving others equally to themselves.

Peace & blessings
7L

[7luminaries]

Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Apart from the logical loyal, honest etc...
- Able to love (as opposed to attach from ego/fear/whatever)
- self-confidence
- empathetic
- able to see other's point of view
- regards & treats women as equals
- eagerness to develop (personal growth)
- able to communicate openly
- masculine energy man
- able & willing to commit
- understanding emotions/feelings
- able to deal with emotions/feelings (mine, his own, other's)
- his need for personal freedom is balanced by a healthy desire for ''together-time"

In short this would be a loving, caring, warm man with a strong personality. He has his own views, yet is respectful of others'. Supporting and cherishing his partner. Able to give, initiate, follow through, and able to receive what his woman gives in return.

Off-putting
- controlling
- abusive, albeit emotional, verbal, mental, physical
- immature
- poorly developed ego
- disrespectful of women
- overly logical / analytical (kinda like Spock)

What stands out to me is that almost every woman mentions a man who's respectful of women...
Goes to show we aren't there yet when it comes to balancing masculine & feminine energies.

FC, this is a lovely list. Too true. Particularly the part about balancing of energies being so necessary for authentic love between men and women. Really just a lovely post.

Peace & blessings
7L

[7luminaries]

Originally Posted by A human Being

Because you're old-fashioned like that, right OB?

Oh really? LOL....
You gents are all too funny
But seriously...NO. WAY.

Hahaha

Peace & blessings,
7L

[ocean breeze]

Originally Posted by 7luminaries

there's a fair bit of misunderstanding and misinterpretation here IMO

Definitely

Originally Posted by 7luminaries

If you yourself are kind and courageous (etc), would you want someone who both admires and likes humour/kindness/you, etc., or only those who find it/you attractive but don't admire or respect it/you?

Do you want someone to find kindness (or you) attractive but also finds it/you not admirable or not worthy of respect ? Does this even hang together? LOL. Hahaha If it does then I respect the width of the chasm.

You appear to have blend "don't admire with don't respect." Just because a person doesn't admire you doesn't mean they don't respect you. And just because a person admires you doesn't mean they respect you. If this was not your intent then get rid of the word "respect."

I don't want to be admired or desired. Its not something i look for. So the question is pointless to me. If i am actively seeking, i am looking for someone i can connect with. There are already people who admire certain traits about me as i may with them, but there is no real connection.

[A human Being]

Originally Posted by ocean breeze

What could i say. I'm a gentleman with class.

A hopeless romantic, ocean breeze, that's what you are