Going through DNOTS after meeting TF?

[1B4+1B3]

Me and person who I consider to be my TF split three months ago, but every now and then I get this feeling of sadness. Sure I miss her, but there's this feeling like this sadness I feel is more than just my own personal feelings.
Now I wonder if she is going though DNOTS* on her own. I went through my own DNOTS prior to meeting her, but I highly doubt that she had been through her DNOTS when we meet. Sure enough there's been some pain in her past, but not that kind of pain which would set DNOTS on motion.

So my question is, does both twins need to go through DNOTS and if they do, can it happen after meeting your twin?


*Dark night of the soul

[Heart]

As you have already experienced a separation with your TF, so it is with the separation you feel between your own heart and mind, your task if you so choose is to search for the connection you have with yourself deep within, you do this by following the sadness you have within to where it originates,

in effect you have given away of your energy into another, now its time to reclaim your own heart and mind. you win over your own heart and mind

to answer your question, shadow play aka dnots, is like having your soul turned away from the inner source of the one light we should be looking at within, only to interpret what our shadows of the soul is telling us is true or not, it is something we do all the days of our lives and is often experienced as emotion (body) and soul (mind)
it is the place of your spirit within both these that you should try to find within where you will experience both good and bad things with an air of indifference about them

btw... welcome to SF

[MissTetley]

Hi 1B4+1B3, I don't know about needing to go through this but in my experience it can happen before a person meets their twin soul and afterwards.
My twin stepped forward and into the arena where he would eventually meet me on the exact date my platonic soulmate died. I'd known my soulmate for 27 years and without him I just couldn't imagine how my life could continue.
Whenever I go through a terrible time my twin soul comes out of the shadows and I see him. This happens when he checks on the group I set up where we met each other. He can go months without checking it out, hasn't been to anything for over a year but comes out of hiding every time something happens with me.
I'm not so sure I'm as aware when he goes through anything but I think he's just about been through everything so I don't think his development or lessons depend on this happening with him.
To outside appearances he'd be called the runner but in actual fact I am the one who seems to be going through purges, lessons and traumatic experiences.

[1B4+1B3]

Thanks for replies.

Somedays when I'm feeling ok or being stabile, sometimes feeling of pure happiness/joy have been coming through suddenly, like a wave washing over me, and lately few times feeling that has come through is sadness/sorrow or almost pain.
Few times I've been just wondering 'Why the heck I'm feeling this happy, my day was nothing special?' Or 'My day was ok, but where is this sadness coming from suddenly?'

Feeling what your twin feels somewhat common from what I've read, but lately there's been sadness coming through which got me thinking about DNOTS.

[MissTetley]

I've experienced that. I've even 'heard' someone, him ? ask me why I was angry as I was walking downstairs. I've picked up on feelings quite suddenly that were unrelated to anything I was doing or feeling.
You come to know in yourself that you're picking up their emotions so you can try reassuring them or sending them love or sending love to the place within you where they reside.