To tell or not to tell

Originally Posted by astralsuzy

Hi Lorelyen, you were right it was gossiping. It has caused a lot of damage. The family is very hurt and upset. It will take a long time to get over it. My sister in law who said my brother was having an affair regrets saying it and wishes she never said it. I said to my family you have to forgive. You do not have to like her but you have to forgive. If you do not forgive you become angry. I went through that a few years ago. My cousin did something that upset me a lot. I have never felt that way before. It was terrible. I only had to hear her name and I was angry. To be angry you cannot be happy. I would not wish that on my worst enemy.

Seems ok. Forgive, then, but give her a wide berth. Anger will go but the aftershocks will be there. It's going to be hard for others to entrust with her with family business unless they use her "politically", like they want to stir things up so they plant a rumour. Some people play on gossipers like that.

It sounds like this one is going to take a long time to heal. Let's hope.

♥

[astralsuzy]

I tried to help my brother and sister in law to forgive what she has done. They would not forgive even if she apologies. I realise I have to accept that. It is their choice as my brother said. We are celebrating my fathers birthday next Sunday. It is going to be awkward because my brother and sister in law and their grown up children will not speak to my other sister in law. My other brother will be there with his wife, the person that gossiped. I will try to make it as pleasant as possible.