Why do I dislike my mom? Could it be due to a past life connection?

[baro-san]

Originally Posted by baro-san

I think that we don't have enough information about the OP, her mother, and their relationship to make even a ballpark judgement about who's good, and who's "less good".

The OP provided additional info in a new thread:

Originally Posted by FrankieJG

I find her annoying.She is kind of too bossy.I do love her.But there are so many things about her which I hate.Even dad complaints about them.Is this a sin?She met with an accident lately.A small domestic accident and she is unable to walk for a couple of weeks.She needs her bed pan near her.I refuse to do that work.She is not disgusting to me.I am simply not comfortable.I feel ashamed of myself.I feel like I don't love my mom and I am doing a sin.I can't force myself to show her my love.

Originally Posted by FrankieJG

I have felt this way since my childhood.When I was like 10 or maybe even before that.She was over protective.But that wasn't the case here.She became too bossy since only few years back.When I was a kid she was kind but sort of a helicopter mother.Yet I wasnt much fond of her all the time.I wanted her around me though like any kid that age.I remember I cried for months in the nursery until she came back to pick me.But some hate/dislike gradually started to stem out.With and without reasons.She abandoned her kids from her previous marriage.At their age of 18 or 20.She stopped looking after them like a mother would do.She did invite them to our house time to time and we would have small get togethers but nothing more than that.Now we don't even know where my step siblings are.She focused on me only.She completely gave up on them.But I don't give love to her as much as she deserves for what she is doing for me.It doesn't happen.I see how much love my friends have for their mothers and I feel terrible for not feeling the same way.I DO love her but it's not at the level she deserves.