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Originally Posted by heartbeats
My mom is a pretty pessimistic person and what's even worse is she talks out loud all the time, whether it's to herself or wanting me to hear what she is saying. She complains constantly, practically every other word is a complaint. Her voice and the constant chatter and complaints get so much on my nerves, it's hard to live in the same space with her and I find myself becoming very mean and angry a lot of the time. I do my best to drown her out with headphones, make jokes when she is acting angry, or just ignore what she says, but it doesn't help much and I usually have to resort to some kind of yelling or mean-ness, I think she almost enjoys being yelled at and put in her place, maybe enjoys the confrontation I'm not sure, but living with my mom I think makes it hard for me to attract great things to my life. How can I overcome this? What else can I do?
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am that pessimistic mother. It comes as the result of bad parenting myself and pessimism/negativity is a symptom of both depression
and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. You are living as a co-dependent to it.
Somehow, you need to talk to her about seeing somebody...a doctor, counselor or professional.
If it is only a recent thing and depending upon her age, it could be hormonal hysteria related to perimenopause...or something, but only a doctor and blood test will tell.
Approach the subject with as much tact and diplomacy as you can muster, making it all about YOU and not her.
like...'when you say/do this, it makes me feel this/that way and I don't like feeling like this at all, so what do you suggest?"
If she refuses help and goes on whining and complaining (oh, I could put your mother to shame), all you NEED to say is "how is your life/attitude working for you?" and pull a Dr. Phil. When people say this to me, it totally shuts me up.
Good luck with it.
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